| Jan 17, 2007 @ 6:32 PM |
What's with the "no drama" in profiles???
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SweetPauli
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What is considered "drama"???? Everybody says it, but no one describes what exactly the stuff is included?? Help me out here, people--
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| Jan 17, 2007 @ 7:47 PM |
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barkley2007
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Something on the order of "sure we can go out... I hope you don't mind that my ex likes to hang outside my apartment with a baseball bat at all hours, or might interupt our date by running up to the table screaming my name... sorry". 
OK, that was a bit extreme, but my guess is "no drama" means "please don't have any "issues" from your past that I will have to deal with."
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| Jan 17, 2007 @ 10:24 PM |
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redbronze
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I think the no drama thing is the new no high maintenance people wanted of the 90's.. As in I bet your a high maintenance girl/guy LOL...
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| Jan 18, 2007 @ 12:20 AM |
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3BearMom
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I have always wondered how people expect you to live your life without drama. I don't mean the over the top drama queens who make a big deal out of breaking a finger nail. But if your life does not have a little bit of drama then it would be so boring you might as will start throwing in the dirt.
Another thing I hear a lot is “no baggage”, excuse me but how does a person live without baggage either. If you have lived a life will with another person then yes there is going to be memories of that former life, this does not mean it is baggage. It is just what a person has lived through to become who they are today.
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| Jan 18, 2007 @ 1:29 AM |
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steveemac
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I honestly think that if a person feels a need to say "no drama" or "no baggage," what they're really saying is: "no baggage in your life, please-I need you to be free to pay full attention to MINE!"
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| Jan 18, 2007 @ 9:21 AM |
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3BearMom
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 steveemac ~ you may be right. If so then I am glad that I tell these people to move on down the road. It has always offended me in the past, now I will look at it as a blessing that they are so up front as to show their true colors so soon in the meet and greet part of a relationship, that they are selfish pr*ks so that I don't waste too much time on them. In the past I would usually wish them good luck in their search but now I think I will add also good luck with your little payton places and thank God I wont be a part of it.
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| Jan 18, 2007 @ 7:46 PM |
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SweetPauli
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I haven't met ONE MAN that does not have baggage or what you'all have described as drama!!! I think everyone has some--more so than others, so for these ppl to state "no baggage or drama" better look at themselves first, and clean up theirs before they demand that you, as a potential date, have none.
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| Jan 19, 2007 @ 12:28 AM |
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Grim711
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Drama ~ turning a little thing into a big thing,
just making a big emotional mess where there shouldn't be one,
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| Jan 19, 2007 @ 7:37 AM |
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coreydion
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i love honesty. if you tell me your short comings up front at least i know you are aware of them. if you aren't willing to fix or deal with yourself then what good are you to another? i do not care for shallow people and most who are shallow hide what they dont see as attractive qualities. i little background in drama is better than none to me.
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| Jan 21, 2007 @ 2:16 AM |
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SpiritOrnery
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Barkley has part of it but the other part of drama is what I call whining and moaning. There are people whose whole lives are based on having one real or imagined problem after another. This is usually done for attention purposes. It works! How many times have you seen someone share in a forum some problem they had and all their friends post to them.
The drama queens/kings have all these things they drag out contantly to get you to make a fuss over them, day in, day out. You all must know at LEAST one of those. Possibly a family member. 'The sufferer'. You know what I am talking about. The person that you turn tail and run from when you see them coming. You always feel drained of energy after they are through with you.
People that do not want drama are usually people with healthy boundaries. They do not mind if you have a bit of a challenge but they are not going to support it 24/7.
I am a full time therapist in spiritual healing and I have had my fair share of it. I can tell 'drama' after knowing a person a few days, sometimes in 15-20 minutes.
Hope that helps...
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| Jan 22, 2007 @ 10:18 AM |
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tatiana329
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Its the new cliche for people to use when they are very shallow... It basically means they want someone who will not disrupt their lives in any way at all. It is totally unrealistic and you would do good to avoid anyone who says this on a profile.
In reality "drama" is the over exaggeration of things... but in dating that is not what is meant. It is used as a cliche now for people and a good sign for you to avoid those, as they are those with unrealistic expecations about relationships, love and life in general.
Hope that helps.
People who are demanding, selfish and all about me... often do not even know this about themselves. So, saying "no drama" means nothing. You never know what someone is like until you meet them.
It would be like you saying "no losers"... because most losers do not see themsleves as one but "misunderstood people".
Same with "NO BAGGAGE"...
as everyone who has been alive will have some baggage.
When someone says they have NO BAGGAGE, you just have to laugh.... because it must mean they cannot learn anything from life.... same with
those who seek "no drama"....
just avoid them for meeting or getting involved with and you will find someone more realistic, who by the way will be better at communication than the ones who state "no drama".
ps I have roots in Texas and go there often.
[Edited on 1/22/2007 10:24 AM]
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| Jan 24, 2007 @ 8:15 PM |
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3BearMom
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I am finding out the ones who say "No Drama" are the ones who have no time for anyone else's Drama because their whole lives are toatally focused on themselves. They are true down to the bone Narcissist who have little or no room in their lives for anyone who has a life of their own. They only want someone in their lives to be there to witness their lives and accomplisments.
Just say NO!!!! to those who say No Drama, because in reality they are the true Drama Kings or Queens.
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| Feb 21, 2007 @ 5:52 PM |
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interest
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I also want to avoid people with "drama" but I have a real meaning for that whereas some may not. I have a stable lifestyle because I try to make good choices. Typically bad choices are the cause of one's drama. I do try to avoid women that have past or present issues that are still recurring because of bad decisions. This is responsible and not boring.
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| Feb 24, 2007 @ 7:34 AM |
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TigerSoul
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Some of you give me a good laugh.
Everybody has drama?
Everybody has baggage?
Give me a break.
From a male perspective, I can tell you that "drama" is typically defined by one of two things:
1) A lack of normal, balanced mental health in a woman or
2) Regular life events that cause the stress of her day-to-day existence to expand into YOUR day to day existence.
Now let's examine those two.
Mental Health Issues: I do not want a woman who's been brainwashed by some asshat into thinking she has some kind of mental "disorder", and thus requires pills just to face life every day. They invariably end up being nuttier than squirrel-shit, mainly BECAUSE of the pills. And they often revel in blaming any selfish or inappropriate behavior on the "disease." I don't want an emotional basketcase, some girl who is going to start crying if she's psyched herself into thinking I didn't like the meal she prepared or thinks that we need to "talk" if I don't happen to feel like going to a loud nightclub on a given night.
Drama events-wise: Example. I recently got a call from the Mother of one of my best female friends in Nashville. "Craig, give me a call back." Now apparently she and her Mother knew some vagrant of a young woman who'd been sent to PRISON while PREGNANT. She ended up having a baby, and they heeeard a rumor that the baby died during delivery but of course the hospital won't tell them anything. So they got the bright idea that they'd ask me to drive 3.5 hours north to DALLAS to show up in a baby ward and see if I could see a baby with that name-tag next to it...you know, just to confirm.
Oh, but they'd pay for my gas. Are you f'ing kidding me?
And allow me to properly define baggage. Whether men will admit it to your face or not, ladies, this usually means KIDS. You can say,"I'm not looking for a father" as much as you want. The fact of the matter is that if a man gets into anything long-term or remotely serious with you, he will fall into that role in some sort of surrogate capacity. No offense to single Mothers out there. But it's a legitimate preference.
Baggage ALSO includes mental hang-ups over an ex you can't seem to get over, rampant self-esteem issues, or other things in your brain that keep you from just being a normal damn person.
Some of you seem to think that a man not wanting "baggage" or "drama" is being selfish. I'm here to say it's reasonable. And 10-20 years ago, it would've been EXPECTED. So call me old-fashioned. I don't have the patience for that stuff. And I'm not going to settle for less than what I want.
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| Feb 24, 2007 @ 10:48 AM |
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redbronze
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LOL Tiger tell us how you really feel....
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| Feb 24, 2007 @ 3:29 PM |
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TigerSoul
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Eh, I'm just tired of the pussification and slow nuetering of the American man. It sickens me to see all this Dr. Phil bullshit of,"You said something that I'm personally offended over. Please cowtow to my various insecurities and personal issues so I don't want to wake up and slit my wrists every morning."
The real world isn't nice, no matter how much you want to sugar-coat it. There are going to be people who are not into you for a myriad of reasons, and that doesn't mean that it's automatically a shortcoming of THEIRS.
[Edited on 2/24/2007 4:02 PM]
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| Feb 24, 2007 @ 5:01 PM |
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kitten581948
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Great forums post, Couldn't have said it better myself....
Posts: 127 I am finding out the ones who say "No Drama" are the ones who have no time for anyone else's Drama because their whole lives are toatally focused on themselves. They are true down to the bone Narcissist who have little or no room in their lives for anyone who has a life of their own. They only want someone in their lives to be there to witness their lives and accomplisments.
Just say NO!!!! to those who say No Drama, because in reality they are the true Drama Kings or Queens.
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| Feb 25, 2007 @ 8:55 AM |
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redbronze
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Tiger then you are really gong to hate the school systems now dayz LOL as the kids are led to believe that rewards for expected bhavior is now the norm and if you act up then your sent to a room where someone calms you down and you get to play gams.. Smile.. I understand where your coming from as I see what is happening to men all the time they just happen to be little boys..
So the indoctrination has already happened.. I feel sorry for these kids when they learn that the world likes to bitch slap you and not tell you why.. Smile....
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| Feb 25, 2007 @ 12:02 PM |
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meow69purr69
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Well said  TigerSoul
[Edited on 2/25/2007 12:39 PM]
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| Feb 25, 2007 @ 12:12 PM |
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meow69purr69
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To me drama means you always have a crisis going on. Someone is going to jail for something they didn't do, someone is pregnant again and they're single, their car was just repossessed, their getting kicked out of their home, they quit their job and they 50 kids to support, it's never their fault, it's always someone elses....too much drama. A lot of the stuff they bring on themselves. Bad things can happen to good people but this kind of bullshit, everyday...it's too much and it's negative. I don't want to hear it or be around the losers.
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