| Aug 12 @ 12:37 PM |
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kerbear57
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My spouse / bf is a kind & loving soul, soft spoken & gentle. Sadly, his children on the other hand are not.
I can handle the loudness but what do I do when they show no respect, no privacy or jus no common courtisy???
Dad & (19y) son will have shouting matches, dad a (15y) daughter argue on why she can or can't have her way but dad gives in & it starts all over again!
We live together, so why does he allow it to go on when it's obvious?
Please, share your opinions, thoughts, pity -etc, thanks!
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| Aug 13 @ 3:42 PM |
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dharmaseeker
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I suppose nobody wants to meddle.
I, personally, do not like constant yelling. On occasion I raise my voice to make a point but in general we try to be calm around here.
My sympathies at your situation. Not having more information the best advice would be ear plugs.
Good luck!
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| Aug 31 @ 2:15 PM |
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orianubis
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Hey Dahrma,
Teens are tough. I have 3 of them, boys. But Even they can come up with manipulations. It's different I am their mom and not a step parent, but I always call in the love card. And by that I tell them the truth, as I see it as a parent, and then tell them I hope they do the right thing because I love them so much, and that I would give my life for them if need be. Guilting them, I guess is what I am doing, but it softens the energy and seems to work most times. But at times it doesn't and they do things that are not good for their future and not good over all decision making. Thats when I step back and allow a certain amount of repercussion to come down. That also means if they make a choice that isnt good they have to pay the consequences. Now granted, the boys never made that bad a choices because I had to be involved on some level to protect them. they are now 20 and 22 and I have learned to advise as a mom. They have learned that my advise comes from love so they dont argue, we may not agree, but we agree that we dont agree. Screams break out occasionally that's normal, but if it's more than occasional then some therapy for them may help. Remember their ages 14 and 15 are freaky years, but all in all respect has to be no matter what. and possible repercussion ????
Orianubis
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| Sep 11 @ 3:59 AM |
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SpiritOrnery
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I am sad she left but send some energy her way anyway. Hope you do better Kerbear.
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| Sep 11 @ 12:02 PM |
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mystery2u888
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Spirit she did a blog.....about this......I know she needed time away.........for many things .......she will be back 
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| Sep 20 @ 1:41 AM |
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SpiritOrnery
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I hope so.
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| Sep 22 @ 8:37 AM |
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mystery2u888
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She will I have spoken to her over the years and stuff......just needs time now 
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