| Nov 18, 2006 @ 3:06 PM |
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lilmama02
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I am 21 and just moved back in with my parents. I was living with my bf of ten months and my two year old son. We didn't work out, so i am back home. The problem is that I found this guy who I really like. The problem is that my parents don't want to meet him and it's very hard to ever see him. One night, I came home after going out and he came in for a while. Well, my dad came downstairs and we had fallen asleep and he told him to get out. That was a horrible first immpression and now he isnt ready to meet him. I am 21 and live downstairs but they won't let him come over. I dont know if this is fair or not. I wish he could be able to come over but how do I show them that we messed up and we didnt mean to disrespect them in any way. I know i was wrong..i just didnt think anything of it when he came over. Is it right that i get upset they dont wanna meet him? I think they should give him a chance. Plz tell me what you think, i would appreciate it. i miss him so much.
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| Nov 18, 2006 @ 3:12 PM |
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robodad
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You live under their roof then you live under their rules.
You can always move out...if you can't move out, then read the first sentence.
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| Nov 18, 2006 @ 3:17 PM |
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steveemac
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Agree w/robodad-it doesn't matter if you're 21 or 51 or anywhere in between-Mom and Dad pay the mortgage; Mom and Dad make the rules.
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| Nov 18, 2006 @ 4:32 PM |
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lilmama02
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Thank you guys. You are both right...and I knew that deep down but I just needed someone to say it to me. I just think there rule is a little harsh, but its there house, weather they are right or wrong.
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| Nov 18, 2006 @ 5:52 PM |
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sierramist710
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Just so you have a woman's perspective....I agree with both of the guys.
I have been in your position. I lived with my parents at 21 and had a 2-year old son as well. I would say if you want to continue seeing him, go out someplace else. That is how I handled it. My parents were wonderful about the whole single-parent dating thing and babysat my son whenever I asked, but out of respect for them, I kept my dating out of their home.
Good luck!
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| Nov 18, 2006 @ 5:54 PM |
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mzlara388
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Respect your parents. Their support will be very important when you do get back on your feet alone.
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| Nov 18, 2006 @ 6:09 PM |
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lilmama02
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I know it's not right to bring a new guy into my son's life right now. I just want him over to spend time with him after my son goes to sleep. My parents won't babysit for me much and he's not home on the weekdays, so it's hard to see him. I can't let that stop me from dating right?
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| Nov 19, 2006 @ 12:05 AM |
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ravensday
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As I have been trying to explain to my daughter. Your life as you knew is now over. You are a parent. You brought a life into this world and now you have to take care of it. Boys have to wait. That is called sacrifice. As parents we sacrifice our wants for those of our children. Do you work? Are you in school? If you are working, save money and get your own place. If you are in school stay put. Trust me. Its better for you and your child in the long run.
I am struggling with making my own teen daughter understand this concept. She is only 17 w/ a 5 week old daughter. She thinks she should be able to go out with her friends and me stay home to take care of her baby. Good luck and I hope the best for you.
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| Nov 21, 2006 @ 3:31 AM |
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lilmama02
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But I need a life too. I want to start my own family one day and how can I do that when I'm not supposed to date?
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| Nov 21, 2006 @ 9:15 AM |
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sweet_n_small1
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There is plenty of time for dating later on. Right now, I feel you need to concentrate on being a mom. That comes first and foremost. You forfeited anything else when you had your child. Not to say you will never be able to date, but you need to either save money for a place of your own, or finish school. Focus on what is happening in your life now. You say you want to start a family..guess what...you did. Not meaning to sound harsh, but that is what it is.
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| Nov 21, 2006 @ 11:39 PM |
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lilmama02
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Ya, you are right. I just feel so alone without someone in my life. I didnt want to date after i got out of a ten month relationship, but i found this guy on accident and i can't stop thinking about him and now I'm with him and it just sucks not being able to see him much. I know when I had my son, it would be different and he is my family. THANKS!
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| Nov 26, 2006 @ 11:01 AM |
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msports1
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Perhaps you didn't respect your parents rules...No matter how old you are,while your in their home,and they have rules,and they demand you honor,and respect those rules...Sit the down,come clean with them.Tell them you will not disrespect their rules in their home...You might find this hard to do,but it works....Good luck
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| Nov 26, 2006 @ 11:01 AM |
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msports1
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Perhaps you didn't respect your parents rules...No matter how old you are,while your in their home,and they have rules,and they demand you honor,and respect those rules...Sit the down,come clean with them.Tell them you will not disrespect their rules in their home...You might find this hard to do,but it works....Good luck
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| Dec 3, 2006 @ 2:03 AM |
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sngljaxlady
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Sweetie I understand where you are coming from I have a two yr old daughter and I moved back in with my parents after my last relationship ended. I just recently started dating again but I never bring my dates home. 2 reasons one for my daughter (I do not want men in and out of her life and two out of respect for my parents) Even thou I pay my share of the bills and feel it is just as much my place but still they are my parents. My Mom is really good when I want to go out or need to work late she baby sits for me, However I do not take advantage of it. If you just want to sit and watch movies or something like that you will just have to do it at his house.
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