| Dec 13, 2006 @ 4:45 PM |
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freeands1ngle
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Hi to all that take the time to read this,
I just thought I'd pick your brains for any similar experiences or solutions to my problem.
I'm a 31 year old single parent living near Cardiff, and was wondering if it's just me or is it hard finding someone when you are a single dad?
I know loads of blokes who have taken on another mans kids I even did myself with my ex-wife, but I have yet to find a woman who, on first impressions look promising, that doesn't suddenly loose interest when she finds out that I am a single parent.
PLEASE HELP.
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| Dec 13, 2006 @ 8:57 PM |
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yrluver
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Maybe you are just attracting or looking for the wrong women. For me, I know I come with kids and baggage and am willing to take on the same.  I love kids, have spent my life teaching them and helping others raise theirs, and know that I can love someone else's kids almost as much as I love my own.  Relationships should be a give and take situation. So keep looking. There are a few diamonds in the rough out there, lol. And the fun is all in the looking. 
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| Dec 15, 2006 @ 2:56 AM |
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momma24
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I have the problem of finding single dads! 
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| Dec 15, 2006 @ 3:25 PM |
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drivenintempe
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I think it is hard for women too. I usually have to tell someone immediately upon meeting them that I have a son, that way they don't lose interest when I am already emotionally involved.
I just think in general that people associate kids w/ baggage, mostly because they don't really know what it's like. I am here if you need anyone to talk to.
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| Dec 16, 2006 @ 3:41 PM |
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The_love_Giant
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I dont get for those of ous that dont care that you have a kid why not come talk to ous
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| Dec 19, 2006 @ 7:20 PM |
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icequeen241
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It's hard to date when you have kids. It's hard to date anyway (but that is another subject entirely) My kids come first and I make that very clear up front. I have NO problem dating a man with kids. I highly respect any man who puts his children first. To me, that makes them even more attractive.  You just need to find someone who feels the same way. We are out there...
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| Dec 26, 2006 @ 12:30 PM |
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Mel3
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I find it very hard to date while being a single parent. A guy asked me how many kids I had....I told him that I had three....his reply "you've been busy". What the hell is that suppose to mean? Gee, sorry I'm divorced with kids.
I wish you the best on the dating scene. Just remember the person you do find....needs to accept the whole package....not just part of it.
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| Dec 26, 2006 @ 2:27 PM |
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The_love_Giant
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I have a friend that just had kid and she has been having the same problem
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| Dec 26, 2006 @ 3:53 PM |
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LSU79
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Are you asking out women in their 20s who don't have kids? It would seem those would be the ones who are looking forward to starting families of their own rather than marrying into a ready made one.
I have the opposite problem. Most women in my age group have already raised their's and are free of the responsibility for the first time in their adult lives, so they run when they see the ages of my kids.
Can't really blame either group.
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| Dec 27, 2006 @ 12:37 AM |
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oceanlover734
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I am 48 and raising my almost 8 year old granddaughter and I have found it difficult in that men I meet etc... think I'm great (well most of them lol) but do not want to have to help raise a child. I understand it in that they have already raised children and do not want to now. I just have to believe that one day the right man will become a part of our life. I know it is going to take one heck of a man to be there for us both.
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| Jan 1, 2007 @ 11:40 PM |
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tracieann71
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I wish I could help but I'm in the same situation being a single Mom!
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| Jan 2, 2007 @ 7:06 PM |
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rose_scented_tulips
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keep doing what you are doing, putting your kids first, and never ever settle for just anyone. You will find that woman out there that is ready to take on not only you but also your kids. If she is not, then she is not worth you wasting your precious time on (any extra time we single parents have is too precious to waste). 
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| Jan 23, 2007 @ 11:17 AM |
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tatiana329
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You can't generalize about who wants to date and be involved with you as a single parent. For one people have various self definitions of "dating" from casual, easy come, easy go type relationships... to others who are looking for something more domestic. Some people like kids and don't mind them while others have had their fill of them and ready for some freedom as a single person. You just have to be honest about the specifics of your situation and find someone who is OK with that. Don't take it personal if your rejected because dating involves lots of rejection.
I personally would not be ok with a single parent who has custody of small kids. That is not for me. Has everything to do with his lifestyle. You have to find someone who is at the same place you are or willing to be their with understanding of what your both wanting from the relationship with each other.
My and bf's kids are older... we have no kids at home. That is what I was looking for and found and I couldnt be happier with it.
Concerning "kids come first" I feel that is something geared for little kids who cannot feed or tiolet themselves and become an abused and misunderstood catch all phrase for people to use their kids for an excuse for everything to get their way.
Kids come first? If so, put them first and date who and when they tell you too... lol
( no thanks on that for me ). Little babies must come first as they are totally dependent for feeding and changing... but it ends there. Teens are not children.... and they do not come first... they are PART of a family, not the dictators of one.
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| Jan 27, 2007 @ 12:51 PM |
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ramsfan1970
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darlin, I know it's difficult, but you just have to be patient.  There are women out there who accept the fact that guys have a past, and some happen to have kids. What about talking to single mothers who know what you are going through? When my oldest was younger, I dated a guy who thought I should send her to live with her dad because he didn't get enough alone time with me. He found out where my door was very quickly 
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| Jan 28, 2007 @ 12:48 AM |
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BandTMom
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Try being 48 with a 5 year old! Not too many men lining up at my door!
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| Jan 28, 2007 @ 12:03 PM |
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ramsfan1970
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why not band? you seem like a wonderful lady
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| Jan 28, 2007 @ 12:12 PM |
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BandTMom
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Thanks Ram!! 
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| Jan 28, 2007 @ 12:46 PM |
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ramsfan1970
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You're most welcome Darlin! 
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| Jan 28, 2007 @ 12:49 PM |
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BandTMom
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Now tell that to all the guys!!! 
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| Jan 28, 2007 @ 12:57 PM |
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ramsfan1970
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**Ahem** Attention all WORTHWHILE guys...Bandtmom is a wonderful lady, and worth your time to get to know!
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