| Dec 1, 2005 @ 8:54 AM |
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minky
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I just found out that my 19 year old son, who is in the Air Force, can't come home for Christmas  This will be my
first one without him. Enjoy your kids while you have them,
the time to say goodbye  comes quickly.
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| Dec 1, 2005 @ 10:53 AM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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Minky....the first holidays without your child is TOUGH!! While your son was growing up, did you have a special tradition? Something even as simple as a Christmas stocking? Make one up for him and send it to him! Or send some pictures of previous Christmases....with a note telling him how much you love him, how happy you are that he is your son and how very proud you are of him. Keep it upbeat......trust me, he's probably having just as tough of a time if not tougher not being home for Christmas!!!
My son is in the Army and probably won't make it home for Christmas either , but he will have his stocking Christmas morning with each little thing wrapped individually.....a matchbox car, big bags of his favorite candies - Skittles and Starbursts, couple of Bic lighters (he smokes), a new toothbrush, some razor blades (I was just down there for Thanksgiving - he was using his wife's razor! LOL), and anything else I find that he can use or that reminds me of when he was little!!!
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| Dec 1, 2005 @ 11:55 AM |
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suthunsweet
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I am also going to be childless for part of Christmas...my ex has custody until 2:00 pm Christmas Day.
Christmas eve was always our special time and my children are 15 & 11. It is so hard to put out Santa Clause and get up on Christmas morning to an empty house.
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| Dec 2, 2005 @ 7:27 PM |
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CynCity
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Big hugs, Suthunsweet. Last year was the first year in my childrens life I didn't have them Christmas morning (Dad and I worked it out differently all the previous years), and they went home at 10:00P Christmas Eve. We celebrated Christmas Eve the 23rd and Day the 24th. I wish I could say it went ok, but it was really difficult for all of us. Since I'm a big Santa nut (they are old enough to know the truth, but they humor me) I'd probably make everyone get in their p.j.'s and have Christmas morning at 2:00 and serve brunch rather than Christmas dinner. Sometimes we have to get creative with the weird schedules the courts give us to keep old traditions.
Hope you find something that works perfectly for you and your kids!
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| Dec 4, 2005 @ 10:02 PM |
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MelMel
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In Alabama... it depends on even and odd numbered years.. I have my son for xmas this year until 6pm on xmas day and then his father has him from that point until Jan. 3...
I hate being without him.. especially on holidays.. I can't imagine not being able to see him at all as if he were in the military... I do think of those mothers... ya'll are much stronger than I am.... 
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 1:39 AM |
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iamme63
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That's a part of the military, my EX was in the Navy, so I know, having to let your EX have your children at Christmas and NOT being able to do anything about it, that's what stinks, so I will be childress at Christmas without my 6 & 11 year olds, FIRST time in their lives.........Have to let him have them, because I had them last year, well he was on a ship out to sea last year, so how could he? (He just retired from the Navy in Oct.) Sucks to be me at times, but I will adjust...email me, if you want to vent, I have a good ear and shoulder.
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 10:30 AM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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UPDATE: My Christmas present!!!!!!! My son and his wife are coming home for Christmas!!! Of course, we have to work out the details of where they are going to be as there is her family, his Dad's family and my family. It doesn't matter...as long as they make the drive safely and that they are happy. Now, I have to get all the decorations and tree out.......and won't have my son to help trim the tree.
God bless all those who won't get to spend Christmas with their children!!!!!!!
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| Dec 13, 2005 @ 6:16 PM |
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cranbrook2
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my kids are 22 and 23 they come to visit me every Christmas eve for a few hours and thats it.then i spend the rest of my time on my own.i usually go visit friends. 
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| Dec 14, 2005 @ 10:47 AM |
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shon47374
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I have a 8 and 6 yrs old and they want to spend x mas with theyre dad because I was in a wreak and got hurt pretty bad and cant buy gifts for them or anything and not he is liek father of the year...I wish I knew what to do about it and I wish they where just away instead of choosing to be there instead of with me just because I can get them anything....
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| Dec 14, 2005 @ 11:32 PM |
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MissLady479
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This will be my first Christmas without my four children. This year they were with me for Thanksgiving and they will be with their dad for Christmas. My 12 yr old asked if they were going to take their gifts with them and open them at his house. I have to say it hurt my feelings that she would want to take what I gave her to his house. I told her we would open them at home early and they would open what he got them at his house. This sharing kids is a mess sometimes.
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| Dec 15, 2005 @ 12:15 AM |
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iamme63
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This will be my first Christmas without my four children. This year they were with me for Thanksgiving and they will be with their dad for Christmas .
Mine too and I have 2 children.....but my EX had them at Thanksgiving AND he gets them at Christmas, because last year I had them at Christmas, but last year we spent Thanksgiving with his parents/their grandparents, so I get them next year for the same holidays he did this year. Is that dumb or what? I would rather split the holidays, but I guess he didn't think of that, not only that, I guess it's a good time for him to tell our 6 year old, there is no Santa, gonna suck for me, I love doing and being the Santa. I can understand why it hurt your feelings about what your 12 year old said, but I guess sometimes kids have to ask, at least you will open them early. Hey if you need to vent, email me....
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| Dec 15, 2005 @ 4:58 AM |
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natrlvr2
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Since my divorce I get my son on the 24th(he now opens gifts on Christmas eve morning) and I am home laone on the 25th.My family does not get together and all my friends have families.
Same goes for New Years eve/day. I get my son on eve(not good for a single perosn,LOL) and he get son on the day.The thing is,there would be nothing for me to do on NYeve anyway.All my freinds are married or hooked up.So I am not included.
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| Dec 21, 2005 @ 5:06 AM |
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dark_moon
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I guess it doesn't matter how old your kids get....
My mother is beside herself  that me and my son are coming to her house this year. (For years she has come to our house) I suspect she is going to feed us to death.  We're not complaining either. LOL
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| Dec 22, 2005 @ 3:39 AM |
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walkingman
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I will be spending christmas eve alone so my kid's could see her. I am driving over 800 mile's to Michigan to do this. I sm just happy they get to see her . I have full custody with no restriction's. I just feel they need to see their mom and will do whatever it take's for this to happen. My heart goe's out to everyone. I had a few year's when I didn't see mine.
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| Dec 22, 2005 @ 3:23 PM |
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lil_momma
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Hi my little girl will be with her daddy this christmas. It is hard without her. She is five years old and her little brother misses her when she is gone
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 1:41 AM |
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iamme63
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Hi Lil and Jeff........I'm alone too, going to a friend's on Christmas day, hopefully I will get my children BACK on time the 26th. of Dec. last year the ex kept them longer, a week longer. I am like you also Jeff, I have to drive to drop mine off to their dad and pick them up, but I don't mind, it's for the kids.......Hope all of you have a Merry Christmas!!!!!!
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| Apr 3, 2006 @ 8:48 PM |
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school2
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I too am childless at Christmas and every other holiday now. My daughter just graduated from college and she gets home maybe once a year. All of my relatives are gone now and that sting hurts even more now. If youhave no sigificant other in your life, It pretty much revolves around you and the kids if you can get even that. I throw myself into christmas volunteer activities and baking to take my mind off things. I also like to get away to a remote area(B.C.) to do some serious skiing.
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| Apr 3, 2006 @ 8:48 PM |
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school2
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I too am childless at Christmas and every other holiday now. My daughter just graduated from college and she gets home maybe once a year. All of my relatives are gone now and that sting hurts even more now. If youhave no sigificant other in your life, It pretty much revolves around you and the kids if you can get even that. I throw myself into christmas volunteer activities and baking to take my mind off things. I also like to get away to a remote area(B.C.) to do some serious skiing.
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| Apr 3, 2006 @ 11:44 PM |
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HarleysB_WV
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Gonna go hug my son (11) and thank God he still believes and is here with me on holidays.
Big hugs to those of you without your babies for the holidays.....and BIGGER HUGS to those of you who have children serving our country via the military...God bless and pray they are safe!
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