| Mar 24, 2007 @ 6:51 PM |
why do exes make raising your kids so damn hard??
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beckyiv42000
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blu ?? 
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| Mar 25, 2007 @ 5:40 AM |
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twotall911
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| Mar 25, 2007 @ 8:53 AM |
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juzhey
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Well, I did say
"No way I would ever let my kids go without Christmas due to an idiotic jailbird."
Not
"no way you should"
No need to get so bent out of shape. You may have your reasons for putting up with this and all, I just can't imagine any that would get me to. One thing I try to do is always be very honest with my kids, even if the truth hurts sometimes. Especially the part about no one being perfect, even daddy.
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| Mar 31, 2007 @ 11:37 PM |
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Monsterboy
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Damn, reading about other peoples' exes always makes me feel better about my life. Not gloating or anything, just the opposite; I feel quite blessed not to have that particular problem.
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| Apr 1, 2007 @ 8:55 AM |
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Angel178
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Becky - you make my life with my ex a dream life, I will never complain (although I wish they would put him in jail) he he he
I can understand why you feel so overwhelmed. My exs family make me feel guilty every time they see me, just with looks of disgust. What I feel bad about is that your own family is taking his side. That can make you feel alone. Your not though, you have us!!
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| Apr 1, 2007 @ 8:58 AM |
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Angel178
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Wow juz, a little harsh. Hope your not a counselor.
You have no idea of what Becky deals with on a daily basis. You think and talk like such a strong person, but you obviously have never been put in a situation where you feel so alone. I wish all of us single moms could be as strong as you.
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| Apr 1, 2007 @ 2:28 PM |
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Loreli
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Went down dressed to the nines to show him how stupid he had been to get that piece of glass between the two of us, and left. Nope, nothing on his books, no calls or even letters. He did the crime, now he can do the time,
cheapened you, didn't it
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| Apr 1, 2007 @ 2:44 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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Thank you Angel ...
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| Apr 1, 2007 @ 8:03 PM |
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Shortiaintlying
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why do exes make raising your kids so damn hard??
Umm maybe cause you let him?
or ummm
its the way ya see it?
or ummm
ya holding back?
or umm, ya really do suck ( not a personal opinion just answering the question.) and someone needs to connfront ya, next best person would have to be dad, atlease for the kid.
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| Apr 1, 2007 @ 8:07 PM |
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Shortiaintlying
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what im wondering is this just me going thru this or do other parents have to deal with being the BAD GUY because of the actions of the OTHER ABSENT parent??
Lovey my lovey becky, Hmm now just for you...
When ya gots to be the mom and dad, or the dad and mom.
Ya got to be the good cop to your bad cop and bad cop to your good.
Ya know what what too? Ya golden either way. Why, because ya Becky motherF@cking no sh!t takng Becky.. with a heart of gold.....
we all need to open a window at times sister from another mister.
Feeling better I hope....
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| Apr 3, 2007 @ 10:52 AM |
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Goodness_Gracie
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Becky my heart goes out to you and your daughter. It is a tough situation trying to keep things together emotionally and financially for you and your daughter and family.
Yes take a stand for yourself and your daughter. Of course at her age she loves her Daddy. But she does not understand the depth that he is using her to get to you. Im sure he loves her but in my eyes, he put himself there. His CHOICE not yours or your daughters. To me that shows lack of!! Your not getting any financial support from him to raise her so you OWE him nothing. Chit you don't even owe him the stamps and envelopes you sent him or driving hours on end for her to see him. Again his CHOICE!
I think if you called the phone company you can have that number blocked. Just some food for thought. But I would be open and honest with her. When she becomes of age 18 she has the choice of going to see him. For now I would tell her they can be penpals and she can write to him. If he needs stamps and envelopes he can go to HIS own family for financial support. No way are you obligated to support his sorry azz.
It is so easy for him to control and make you look like the bad guy in everyone (families eyes) fine so be it. Cause you know what? They are probably thinking better that Becky is supporting his sorry azz instead of me. That is what they could be thinking. Actually they should be thanking you for raising and supporting his daughter then to condemn you for it!
Becky I do feel for you, some of us do have peckerheads of an ex who are not capable of raising and helping financially there own children. Your doing a good job and keep it up!! 
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| Apr 7, 2007 @ 5:08 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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Thank you both
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| Apr 7, 2007 @ 7:13 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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arrrrrrrrrrgh just go the mail and there was a letter from him to the kids in it with their easter cards that he made for them.. i handed it to my son he read about half of it and threw it down... then my daughter did the same... he had the NERVE to bash me IN their easter cards !!! They both came over and hugged me and then I read their cards !!!  I then read mine he made for me and he did the same .. saying I needed to see shrink cause Im tired of dealing with his bs ??? again implying im the one in the wrong ??? and telling the kids that MOM cant HANG...   I have HUNG and dealt and lived for 7 damn years without HIS friggin help arggggggggggggggggh just pisses me off he would put something like that in their cards GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR so now censure has to be a part of my dealing with him friggin wonderful!
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| Apr 14, 2007 @ 11:40 PM |
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HERSHEYKISS
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Watch what you say about your ex's kids father or mother are still their father and mother someday kids mite l turn on you when my mom talked about my dad in neg way i didnt like what was said ,,, nor the other way around ,,, what you have with your ex keep it between the two of you ....
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| Apr 15, 2007 @ 1:29 AM |
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ad33
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Hats off to you Becky,
I honestly don't know why ex's have to be difficult like that. Maybe at some point they got kicked in the head by a horse and forgot to tell us.   
My ex doesn't even call or write (unless she wants something from me), so I don't really have to deal with her except once in a great while.
Even though she has talked crap about me to Emma every chance she got, I refuse to speak about her that way. I've even yelled at my parents for that. I don't want my daughter thinking her mother's a moron unless she draws that conclusion on her own.
 Kudos to you for doing all that you've done, because I know, it's hard enough being a single parent.
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| Apr 15, 2007 @ 2:22 AM |
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daisy315
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Hershey... my real father bad mothed my mom.. and she bad mouthed him.. my sisters and I knew exactly what he was at a very young age.. She raised us.. not him... and she did it without any support from him.. altho he was more than able to pay 38 bucks a week child support.. (that was for 3 of us).. the child more than likely will only turn against the parent that was lying.. every thing my mother ever said about my father was the truth.. he was a wife-beating, whore hopping drunk.. any 5 year old can figure that out easily enough. 
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| Apr 16, 2007 @ 1:34 AM |
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beckyiv42000
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Watch what you say about your ex's kids father or mother are still their father and mother someday kids mite l turn on you when my mom talked about my dad in neg way i didnt like what was said ,,, nor the other way around ,,, what you have with your ex keep it between the two of you ....
you MIGHT want to read and try to understand first b4 you spout off...
I have been the one who has been nice and not bad mouthed him ..the one who has gone outta her way to LET him keep in contact with his daughter (even had the courts lift a restraining order so she could keep in contact.. the restraining order was to keep me safe from him) yet he still chose to do it to me ,to my family and his mother etc... but writing to my kids and bad mouthing me to them has crossed the line... I didn't HAVE to tell them anything HE showed his nasty side to them... first hand in EASTER cards no less.. and THEY chose to not even finish reading the cards because of disgust...
TY ad33 and Daisydoodles
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| Apr 17, 2007 @ 11:26 PM |
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ad33
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Hey Becks,
How's it??
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| Apr 18, 2007 @ 2:52 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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Doing better tyvm for asking Ad33 huggs
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| Jan 17, 2008 @ 11:44 PM |
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chatty
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I can understand wanting her to talk to her dad you love her so much and you feel she needs to know her dad and have that relationship with him.
I would tell my daughter that I know she loves her dad and wants to talk to him but each time they talk it costs lot's of money and that we can only afford a certian amount for the calls, so we have to only talk to daddy a ( insert the number of calls that you can afford here) of times a month and then only talk for a limited time.
If he calls other than that don't answer the phone baby becase if I can't pay the phone bill they will turn it off and then we can't talk to daddy at all.
He wants to make you feel quilty for moving on with life when he is in jail , don't let him do that. Your girls will know that you did everything to keep their relationship with their father good and they will know when they grow up that you did what was best for them. Your a good mom and they will know it. Do not let him or his family bully you into doing something you feel is not right for you. Stand your ground , and know you are doing the right thing.
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