| Mar 23, 2007 @ 12:33 PM |
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RachelVaz
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Have any of you gotten remarried for the second or third time? If so, do you invite any of your exes to the wedding??
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| Mar 23, 2007 @ 12:47 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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to me that would be akin to rubbing salt in a wound and INVITING conflict butttt if DRAMA is YO MAMA have at it.... 
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| Mar 23, 2007 @ 2:35 PM |
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RachelVaz
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well, i did once attend a cousin's wedding where all (and i do mean all) six of her father's x-wives were there... pretty strange...
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| Mar 23, 2007 @ 4:46 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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but they were there for thier step daughter NOT for HIS wedding BIIIIIIIIG differnce
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| Mar 23, 2007 @ 5:03 PM |
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RachelVaz
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This is very true... My sister is getting married next month & her ex is offended because she doesn't wanna invite him... Go Figure!!!
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| Mar 23, 2007 @ 6:03 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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why on earth would he wanna be there EXCEPT to cause drama??
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| Mar 23, 2007 @ 11:16 PM |
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poniepower
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 Becky....i totally agree!!
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| Mar 24, 2007 @ 4:03 AM |
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gray_cat
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Actually not all ex's have a problem when the other gets married. When my ex was planning his wedding (sadly, for him, it didn't happen) we sat down and discussed the pros and cons of me attending. He was all for it as we have a fantastic relationship (and I was helping him plan it) however I was more iffy since the lady's background (she was Russian) indicated she had a negative relationship with her ex and so didn't understand ours. We both attend Christmas's together with the family, including my 'extra children' who regard him as a kind of Uncle, and of course any Family celebration means everyone attends. He's got a handicaped foster child who we also consider a member of the family. So, it is possible to have a good relationship with an ex and attend their wedding IF the soon to be new member is agreeable, and if I ever got married again then I would definitely be inviting him (even if I had to put up with his laughing like a jackass because I swore never to marry again   ).
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| Mar 24, 2007 @ 4:14 AM |
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beckyiv42000
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maybe in some instances that could be true that the break up was congenial enough to foster that type of relationship afterwards.. but two reasons why maybe its not so good an idea...
for a normal divorced couple I mean ..
1)the drama...not needed at a wedding
2)the NEW spouse.. respect for thier feelings and letting THEM have thier day inthe sun should be paramount... a new wife should NOT need to be COMPARED at her wedding to the EX and vice versa ... even if it only in thier minds ... and that it is THIER DAY TOO !!!
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| Mar 24, 2007 @ 4:49 AM |
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| Mar 26, 2007 @ 9:27 AM |
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RachelVaz
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I totally agree... and I told my sister... who knows what she will do...
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| Mar 26, 2007 @ 9:53 AM |
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juzhey
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The mental picture I got from this one made me laugh out loud. Would have to be a very important reason for me to even find his address so I would know where to send the invitation. Can't think of ANYTHING that could get me to do it LOL
Yes, I have a total divorce, don't even really know the man any more. For us, it is best this way. Even the judge told him to quit complaining about my just honking to let them know I was there to retrieve the kid after his visitations. Told him, "In a case such as yours, where there is such clear animosity, it is the appropriate thing to do."
Heck, I worry about the two of us running into each other at the kid's wedding, if he ever does get married. (Not everyone feels the need for paperwork to establish a relationship.) Should be funny if it ever happens.
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| Mar 26, 2007 @ 1:44 PM |
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poniepower
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My ex hubby doesn't even come to the same celebrations for our grandchild, because I'm there.
This is MY grandson, I couldn't give a care less. If he wants to miss out on the MOST IMPORTANT things in Jadyn's life, because he has such annimosity towards me, and he feels guilty for what he's done in the past, so be it.
I could care less.
He's the one who kicked us out of his life....not the other way around. Guilt has a tendency to "eat people alive" and i feel this is what's happening to him.
I WON'T, I REFUSE, to stop living my life w/ our grandson, to accomadate him.
The one thing he's NOT getting a clear picture on is.....everytime he's invited to something and he doesn't show up...it's only making himself look like an ass in the kids' eyes!!
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| Mar 27, 2007 @ 11:47 PM |
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daisy315
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when my twin sis got married the first time, my real father was there to give her away.. my mom would not go, so my moms sister Audrey went instead.. God Bless ya Audie.. 
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| Mar 27, 2007 @ 11:59 PM |
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JesterDrawers
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when my twin sis got married the first time, my real father was there to give her away.. my mom would not go, so my moms sister Audrey went instead.. Now THIS I truly don't get. I wouldn't in a million years invite my ex to MY wedding, but there is nothing in heaven or earth that could stop me from being at the wedding of OUR child, regardless of whether we were on the best, or the worst, of terms.
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| Mar 30, 2007 @ 9:36 AM |
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daisy315
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oh well.. ya had to know my real Father to understand this one.. before the ceremony, he was in the parking lot of the church popping the top of a beer can.. lol.. 
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| Mar 31, 2007 @ 11:34 PM |
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Monsterboy
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My relationship with my ex is pretty atypical, I guess, but seeing this thread just made me call her and ask whether, were I to get remarried, she'd agree be my best man. She said yes. (She looks good in a suit.)
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| Apr 29, 2007 @ 10:44 PM |
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Magickman
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I cry at weddings. Well, actually I cry at the mere thought of weddings.
While I have never been to a wedding, I am sure I would not ever want to go to one, especially as the victim.
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| Jun 8, 2007 @ 3:03 PM |
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HollyDaze
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I am invited to my ex's wedding. I'm not going as I think people would find it wierd that I was there.... therefore making his day about me being there rather than celebrating that he's found someone better suited for him.
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| Jun 10, 2007 @ 2:46 AM |
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beckyiv42000
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good for you!! I truly doubt I COULD attend an exes wedding...In one case I would proabably be screaming at the tip of my lungs DONT DO IT ! HES A POS!!! and in another I might DIE from heartbreak just not a good thing 
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