| Apr 12, 2007 @ 11:17 AM |
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juzhey
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So what do you do when you and your kids have completely opposite views on an issue (the recent one for my daughter and I was the death penalty, one is for and one is against)?
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| Apr 12, 2007 @ 11:18 AM |
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twotall911
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just let them think as they want
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| Apr 12, 2007 @ 11:20 AM |
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Goodness_Gracie
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They are entitled to there own opinions and views on things. As long as you listen to her reason. Nothing wrong with having different opinions. 
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| Apr 12, 2007 @ 11:28 AM |
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juzhey
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I guess I should have asked how you handle the discussion. Can't really go along with "just let them think what they want" because of all the stupid, erroneous "information" they get from their friends, which can frequently be dangerous.
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| Apr 12, 2007 @ 11:30 AM |
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Goodness_Gracie
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That is why I say *listen*....let her tell you her points and views and her opinions on the matter! Reguardless.....we all have a voice it is how it is listened to and discussed.
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| Apr 12, 2007 @ 11:37 AM |
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juzhey
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Actually gracie, I do listen, even when she is talking so nuts that I get a headache LOL (hey, she is 13 right now, and I defy anyone to find me a kid that isn't at least a bit nuts at that age)
The way I handled this was to ask her where she got her views, and to explain where I get mine, calmly mind you, this is a discussion, not an argument (LOL yes, I am finding that my kid is a lot more mature than a lot of posters in these forums). The end was just to say, "Ok, but keep in mind that you are still young, and sheltered from a lot of things due to your age. As you get older and more experienced you might change your mind." And left her to write her paper, with her views, for her class assignment (which was what brought it all up in the first place). Didn't matter if I disagreed with every single word, just made sure she spelled them correctly.
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| Apr 12, 2007 @ 11:41 AM |
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Goodness_Gracie
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Good job Mom! 
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| Apr 13, 2007 @ 10:12 AM |
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juzhey
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Uh thanks, but this one is 13 now, and very smart, so I was actually looking for MORE ways to deal with her, just in case there comes a day when the old ones don't work. No, she doesn't act up or get in trouble in school or anything, just very smart and was born a natural negotiator. We have been negotiating since she was about 2!
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| Apr 14, 2007 @ 2:28 AM |
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blueyes101
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Many folks say there is nothing good on TV, but if you look hard enough there are many shows you can watch and that allows a discussion on the issue, recently there was a show on maximum security prisons, ( with lisa lieu ) showing how gangs have taken control of the prisons, and the violence. Drives me nuts to watch sometimes, but I like to be informed about such things, and I encourage my friends kids to watch them ( or part ) with me, so these types of discussions can take place, many times in our society, folks take an emotional stand, not that that is wrong, but how can you look at things objectively without all the facts. If you let emotions drive you, your daughter may wind up chasing after some selfish assh*le, and wind up pregnant, ( just an example, no offense by that btw, )
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| Apr 14, 2007 @ 8:52 AM |
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juzhey
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If you let emotions drive you, your daughter may wind up chasing after some selfish assh*le, and wind up pregnant, ( just an example, no offense by that btw, ) If you only knew LOL That one made me laugh out loud even trying to picture it. By the time she could tell the difference between boys and girls, she knew that the only boys you even gave the time of day to were the ones that are sweet to you.
 She was all of 4 years old the first time boys came to blows fighting over her!
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| Apr 17, 2007 @ 5:08 PM |
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painter007
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I have always tried to teach my sons...that just because you have a different opinion about something with someone..it doesnt mean one is right and the other is wrong......They are simply different.
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| Apr 18, 2007 @ 12:49 PM |
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juzhey
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Compromise it truly a blessed thing. 
We wouldn't survive without it around here, especially at mealtimes LOL Both picky eaters with different tastes. Oh yeah, we do a LOT of negotiating in this house!
Yep over just about everything. Just a way of life for us.
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