| Apr 26, 2007 @ 1:21 PM |
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Realistic911
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Do you find it harder to find/keep a man due to the fact that you have kids?
*note: We know you love your children, and if the guy can't accept it, blah blah blah. I'm just asking if you find it more difficult to have a steady relationship. Not speaking about sacrifice.
Guys: Are you hesitant to date a woman who has children, fearing that your time with her will be limited, or that it will put a strain on your relationship?
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| Apr 26, 2007 @ 1:39 PM |
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Loreli
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The men I have dated always knew up front, and were always great with my kids. Maybe it's a kind of radar, but through conversations, it's easy for me to pick out the ones that are too self-absorbed to deal with kids.
It was other things that caused the relationship to fall apart. And I'm still friends with every man I dated. So no, it wasn't hard to find them. Like anything else in dating, it was a process of elimination that was second nature to me at the beginning.
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| Apr 26, 2007 @ 2:47 PM |
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vicryder
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A lot of it depends on the kids. I've dated single moms and even married one.
Some kids are real cool. Others are immediately hostile, with no intentions of ever getting along.
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| Apr 26, 2007 @ 2:51 PM |
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Realistic911
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A lot of it depends on the kids. I've dated single moms and even married one.
Some kids are real cool. Others are immediately hostile, with no intentions of ever getting along. Yea. And those are the ones who don't want you getting close to their mom.
If you ever meet a single mother with a SON, it's the WORST. Because they're almost ALL "momma's boys." Which means they will be ALL UP UNDER the mother 24/7, preventing you from having any privacy with her. In person or even on the phone.
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| Apr 26, 2007 @ 3:41 PM |
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irish20835
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Do you find it harder to find/keep a man due to the fact that you have kids?
it goes the same for us single dads
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| Apr 26, 2007 @ 3:49 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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If you ever meet a single mother with a SON, it's the WORST. Because they're almost ALL "momma's boys." Which means they will be ALL UP UNDER the mother 24/7, preventing you from having any privacy with her. In person or even on the phone.
okay that kind of thinking is just silly... I have a son he is in no way a MOMMAs boy .. yes he loves his momma.. yes hes is protective of me, but he also knows that Mom needs her time and respects that.. and actually does the meeting and talking to the guy once I feel comfortable with the man enough to let him meet my kids.....those that have the overly demanding children that create a atmosphere of resentment or jealousy when a parent dates, have created that themselves as a sort or reason to not get involved.. by the fact they tolerate such action from their children,... they only learn what they are taught ...JMHO
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| Apr 27, 2007 @ 4:24 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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im a mother lover.....
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| Apr 27, 2007 @ 6:57 PM |
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your_princess
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Never really found issues with it...but I lay it out on the table to start with, maybe that makes a difference. I do remember that as a child...I was hell on the few boyfriends my mother had.
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| Apr 28, 2007 @ 5:17 AM |
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painter007
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didnt date when they were little....didnt want to introduce my sons to someone that may have just disappeared.....it takes a real man to have responsibility....and seems its hard to find these days.
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| Apr 28, 2007 @ 6:22 AM |
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sthnhylander
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as a sole parent, I only know too well how hard it is...I have no problem dating a woman with children, as she would have no problem dating me, with my son in tow....
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| Apr 29, 2007 @ 1:17 PM |
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truegent65000
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I probably wouldn't have a problem dating a woman with kids that have children early in life that are around my age
between 35 and 40 I meet women that have kids, but their kids are practically adults or sophmores in highschool, (some even have left home for college). and can probably be less problematic...well....at least when it comes to dating
Teens don't really need baby sitters, dont need their faces wiped, they have ability to use a microwave or make a sandwhich to feed themselves on a Fri night when mom is out with her date.
But when they are little tykes, it can be a bit of a problem, little or not privacy for intimacy, you can't do anything spontaneous, stuff like that.
However, if they have joint custody, I'd prefer to date when she has sent the children off to the ex husband for a week, and that's when you can be alone to do stuff.
But some mothers are in situations where they have FULL custody, so they might as well wait till their children are adolescents to start dating again.
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| Apr 29, 2007 @ 8:23 PM |
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BandTMom
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Gee, I would be pushing 60 then!
Someday I'll find someone who wants me and my little boy!
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| Apr 29, 2007 @ 8:57 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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so they might as well wait till their children are adolescents to start dating again.
why? just cause you can't handle a woman having kids doesn't mean there aren't other men who can  .
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| Apr 29, 2007 @ 9:02 PM |
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BandTMom
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| Apr 30, 2007 @ 12:00 AM |
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Realistic911
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I have a son he is in no way a MOMMAs boy .. yes he loves his momma.. yes hes is protective of me, but he also knows that Mom needs her time and respects that.. and actually does the meeting and talking to the guy once I feel comfortable with the man enough to let him meet my kids...
How old is your son, if I may ask? Because I'm referring to the younger kids, like 2 through 8. The way you speak about your son leads me to believe that he's a TEENAGER, since you mentioned him meeting and talking to the guy.
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| Apr 30, 2007 @ 12:49 AM |
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Realistic911
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Teens don't really need baby sitters, dont need their faces wiped, they have ability to use a microwave or make a sandwhich to feed themselves on a Fri night when mom is out with her date.
But when they are little tykes, it can be a bit of a problem, little or no privacy for intimacy, you can't do anything spontaneous, stuff like that.
However, if they have joint custody, I'd prefer to date when she has sent the children off to the ex husband for a week, and that's when you can be alone to do stuff. Aint that the muthaf--kin truth! lol
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| Apr 30, 2007 @ 10:26 AM |
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beckyiv42000
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My son is 12 and has been the way he is since he was little, like probably since he was 3 or so... a lot has to do with how clingy they are brought up...how much the mothers/fathers dote on them (this goes for both boys and girls) if you don't teach them to think and do for themselves of course they are going to be extra clingy and resentful of those who take some of your time....also those without a social life outside the home are also going to be a lot more clingy.. also individual personalities come in to play...some people just basically don't get along with kids and the kids can sense it
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| Apr 30, 2007 @ 10:42 AM |
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Pete73052
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I prefer dating women with children (even if they're older). There's never any question of priorities - kids come first, no matter what. It makes the time we get to spend together more precious.
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| Apr 30, 2007 @ 10:44 AM |
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| May 1, 2007 @ 11:43 AM |
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momma24
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If you ever meet a single mother with a SON, it's the WORST. Because they're almost ALL "momma's boys." Which means they will be ALL UP UNDER the mother 24/7, preventing you from having any privacy with her. In person or even on the phone.
that's just rubbish. first and foremost, when my son is awake my attention is on him. I don't care if you are there or not. My attention is on him. It is not his job to provide me and my "guy" privacy; as my child, he is suppose to be on me all the time...hello that's what children do! As his mother, it is my pleasure and responsibility to put him and his needs in front of my own, and most definately in front of yours or any other male's. second, if and when i spend time with people alone...it is when my son is asleep. yes, there are stipulations...can't be too loud, can't be too spontaneous....but that is part of being a parent. Your life changes and you adapt. If you are not ready to except the limitiations a single mother has, then perhaps you shouldn't be going after single mothers.
your attitude, to me, is that of a person who does not have kids and has no clue what it means to be a parent. I did not read your profile and don't care to. I don't know if you have kids or not....but I personally want my son to know that he comes first, he is not overlooked or put on a backburner. If hope your kids (if you have any) grow up with the same feelings from their childhood.
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