| Jul 8, 2007 @ 5:40 PM |
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mlittle1
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HELP! the father of my child has not seen my daughter in two months. Back in march he made a "suicidal gesture" i guess you could say, but his attention seeking episode ended him up in a hospital psych unit for two days. my lawyer had advised me to limit his visitation to supervised visits only because of his altered mental status until we go to court. this last week he stopped paying his child support and actually wants to see his daughter! AFTER TWO MONTHS! he has some nerve to want to see his daughter after not paying support. his family doesnt talk to him anymore so it is up to my parents to supervise the visits and i dont want his crazy ass over at their house. especially with all these crazy men in the world killing their ex's and in laws on the news! what should i do? and cant i throw him in jail for not paying child support????
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| Jul 8, 2007 @ 10:31 PM |
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twotall911
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as far as your problem im a former bounty hunter for non support payers and yes they can be arrested ive seen this done before its called blown smoke so he tries to get out of paying child support if you have a ttorney have a restraining order put against him and supervised visition as soon as he begins his support payments any verbal,physical or mental abuse towards yourself and or child press charges
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| Jul 9, 2007 @ 8:17 AM |
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katydid438
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My ex followed the letter of the law when it came to support so I guess that's good. Can't understand why some men resent supporting their offspring 
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| Jul 9, 2007 @ 12:03 PM |
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juzhey
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The OP is a good example of why I don't have a problem with my second child's father being COMPLETELY GONE. (Birth certificate even reads NONE on the line for father.) After having so many trips to court and back with my first kid's father, and all the damage he did to our kid, it is just plain easier for me to do without the hassles, and I can see the difference in the second kid, who has never been caught in the middle of a war. Never saw any support money from the first one, so that was never even an issue. Raised the first one alone, with no contributions but grief from the first dad, and it has actually been easier and more pleasant with no dad this time.
Don't even know what it would be like to actually have a positive contribution by another LOL I do wonder some times though.
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| Jul 9, 2007 @ 2:48 PM |
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onoudn
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The OP is a good example of why I don't have a problem with my second child's father being COMPLETELY GONE. (Birth certificate even reads NONE on the line for father.) After having so many trips to court and back with my first kid's father, and all the damage he did to our kid, it is just plain easier for me to do without the hassles, and I can see the difference in the second kid, who has never been caught in the middle of a war. Never saw any support money from the first one, so that was never even an issue. Raised the first one alone, with no contributions but grief from the first dad, and it has actually been easier and more pleasant with no dad this time.
Don't even know what it would be like to actually have a positive contribution by another LOL I do wonder some times though.
Don't blame all men for what one person did. Male bashing is not going to change your situation at home. It was one guy. Stop taking out on the rest of us men.
This explains a lot
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| Jul 9, 2007 @ 2:57 PM |
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sir, that comment she made had nothing to do with "all men" or "male bashing". 
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| Jul 9, 2007 @ 3:05 PM |
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tulip717
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| Jul 9, 2007 @ 3:07 PM |
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graywolf
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You can certainly take him to court for non-payment of child support and if he continues in non-payment then yes he can be jailed. As for the visits if you chose to let him vist with his daughter it should be in some neutral and public place and only with supervison would be my recommendations. I would also lik eto add that even though your title is :Dead Beat Dads" it probably should really be "Dead Beat Fathers". Most any male can be a father but it take a real man to be a Dad and there is areally big difference between the 2.
Best of luck and remember that there are lots of people here who support you and will be here to talk/chat with if you need them.
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| Jul 9, 2007 @ 3:39 PM |
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onoudn
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scary
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| Jul 9, 2007 @ 3:41 PM |
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tulip717
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^^^^^^^^^^^^^
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| Jul 10, 2007 @ 12:28 PM |
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steveemac
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My ex followed the letter of the law when it came to support so I guess that's good. Can't understand why some men resent supporting their offspring
Several times, I have called Support Enforcement (or whatever they're called) to let them know they weren't taking enough out per the divorce agreement...once, one of the ladies I talked to there paused and said, "...ummm, this is really nice of you, actually." I told her while I may not always agree with how my ex spends the money, I don't dispute her right to receiving it.
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| Jul 10, 2007 @ 1:39 PM |
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Angel178
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If you ever want to talk...e-mail me on here...i will tell you what to do...
I have three children...
You can put him in jail for child support...plus i know first hand what it is like to fear for my parents...my ex after 18 years told a court appt. psy that he hated my parents ( who are 78 and 79) and if they were not around, we would be together....I feared for their safety for the past 2 1/2 years...and still do.
Contact me...i can help you  Angel178
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| Jul 10, 2007 @ 3:38 PM |
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theresam77
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Going on 5 years divorced and no payment...3 years since he has bothered to see my 6 year old...some men just don't get it
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| Jul 10, 2007 @ 4:52 PM |
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mlittle1
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ok what should my parents do since they have to supervise the visits??? it scares me about all these people getting killed over divorces/child custody/etc... and just this last weekend this guy killed his ex's parents near the county where i live, and my daughters' father is a mental health patient so we dont trust him a bit! and it is alittle weird that his family wont supervise the visits because they dont want him around!
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| Jul 10, 2007 @ 9:41 PM |
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Pete73052
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Aren't there social workers that can supervise visits? If there aren't there should be...
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| Jul 10, 2007 @ 10:04 PM |
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LittleMsDangerous
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mlittle, if you still need info email me, I can give you some advice but I need more details
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| Jul 10, 2007 @ 10:22 PM |
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Jamies38
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My daughter is going through something like this. She was the dead beat to the tune of $9,000.00. The X tried to take away all rights. Grandparent rights and all.
The court case was today. She has two Hour visits once a month with a Social Worker. We have one weekend a month. I'm having to pay her chidsupport to keep her from going to jail.
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| Jul 11, 2007 @ 12:45 PM |
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juzhey
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Regarding the question as to how to get someone else to supervise these visits, it is done all the time. In many cases parents can't agree on a particular party so one is assigned by the courts. Knew a couple that were so at each other's throats and all that they had to even exchange the kid AT the police station.
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 8:55 PM |
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ThangelM8
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Why do some parents; feel as though they have no financial responsibility, where their child is concerned? They seem to think, if they have to pay child support, the ex-spouse is unjustly wanting some of their income. It isn't exactly cheap, trying to raise a child. Just a thought, since earlier today, I was dealing with something along these lines.
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 5:52 AM |
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imhope
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Laws vary from state to state, so you need to check with an attorney or courts in your state. If you fear for the safety of your child you can explain the situation to the courts & request supervised visitations - in some cases the courts will even make him pay the costs for a impartial 3rd party(usually a officer) to supervise the visitation. If your parents aren't comfortable supervising the visitations in their home don't make them - request the visitations be in a public place - our police dept has several parents that even do their child visitation exchanges in the PD lot w/a officer watching. As for the child support one parent cannot keep another parent from seeing their child just because they haven't paid their child support, especially if they are only a week behind. You can contact domestic relations & report him for being late & when he get's to the point where they feel he is in contempt(they allow him to be late a certain number of weeks) of the child support order they will set a court date for a contempt hearing. Child support and it's non payment is not like a mortgage or car payment where if you don't pay they take your house or car away - unfortunately some dead beats can go years without paying & still be allowed to see their children  Good luck!
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