| Sep 9, 2007 @ 6:26 PM |
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Soggydog352
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A while back my sis met someone in the internet. That in itself wasn't so bad nor was the fact that she went to meet him. What got me was the fact that my sister left her child with some people she barely knew and left her for a few days. This isn't the first time she's done this. The last time was for two weeks when she went to the west coast. The most recent time she returned to her daughter telling her about the "sitter's" drunken screaming fit. Before that there was some indication of possible touching.
Frankly I'm not sure what to do about this situation because I know my sis loves the kid but I'm afraid of what will happpen. I've asked her to leave the child with me but she says she doesn't want to hear me nag.
I just don't know what to do. 
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| Sep 9, 2007 @ 8:37 PM |
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BandTMom
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How old is the child?
Sorry, but it sounds like your sis is a little more in love with herself than with her daughter.
Situations like this are sad and difficult. When in doubt, you can always get Social Services involved and you can do it without giving your name.
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| Sep 9, 2007 @ 8:43 PM |
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Soggydog352
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She loves the child which is why it's so hard for me. She doesn't talk to the rest of
the family very much so I told them about it and we're considering our options.
If she loses the child we want to be sure that my sis can still play a part but the safety of hey child comes first.
My neice is 6.
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| Sep 9, 2007 @ 8:46 PM |
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BandTMom
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Safety of the child, especially one that young does come first. Most of the time Social Services have the parent take parenting classes. etc. I really doubt if they take her away before other options have been used.
You could put your foot and and insist on babysitting. 
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| Sep 9, 2007 @ 8:52 PM |
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Soggydog352
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The problem is that my sister is afraid I'll nag her about running off to meet these people so she doesn't tell me. I watch my neice any other time like when sis has appointments.
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| Sep 9, 2007 @ 8:54 PM |
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BandTMom
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Promise not to nag her.
Actually her safety is in question too. How well does she know these people she is spending days and weeks with. What if something bad happens to her? What happens to the little girl.
She is an adult and you can't stop her from doing this, but I'm glad your family is thinking what to do.
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| Sep 11, 2007 @ 10:58 AM |
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Loreli
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Mom gave good advice.
If you can sit her down and talk gently to her, maybe she will be calm and open-minded.
Drunken screaming and touching?
Anyone that knows about this has an obligation to inform authorities.
I would err on the side of the child.
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| Sep 11, 2007 @ 3:14 PM |
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hotdognchilli
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Mom & Lori are definitely right...as usual 
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| Sep 11, 2007 @ 4:49 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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take her aside and say sister i love you. youre normally have a pretty good head on your shoulders. So im curious, a,b,and c.
can ya help me understand
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| Sep 11, 2007 @ 5:08 PM |
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Soggydog352
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I think she's just lonely but as I've explained that lonely or not she still has the child. A good man would come to meet her and rent a motel room but that's just my opinion.
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| Sep 11, 2007 @ 6:26 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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oh the lives our loved one live. If we could do it for them they would never be hurt.
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| Sep 11, 2007 @ 7:21 PM |
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your_princess
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She loves the child which is why it's so hard for me. Personally I think she needs to be turned into DHS, at the least maybe it will knock a little bit of sense into her. As mom said what if something were to happen to mom, where does that leave her daughter? I used to like to do dangerous risky things, drive really fast...lots of stupid things that with the blink of eye could go wrong and I would be done. But since the day I found out I was pregnant that all stopped! I can not stand the thought of my child growing up with out me...most importantly my bad decisions could endanger him as well which is a risk I refuse to make! I would hope if i were in her shoes my family would care enough for me and my son to step in. I guess at shes not dragging your neice with her...which could be even worse than the care she is receiving while mom is gone.
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| Sep 11, 2007 @ 7:44 PM |
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Soggydog352
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Thanks guys. I think I'll tie her to a chair and have talk with her.
Wish I could hook her up with one of my decent friends.
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| Sep 11, 2007 @ 8:50 PM |
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BandTMom
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And I have to say loneliness is not an excuse when you have a child. I brought my child into this world and it is my duty and obligation to care for him and protect him.
Besides, I just can't be lonely with this little guy running around.
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| Sep 12, 2007 @ 12:59 AM |
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burnslikethesun
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I used to like to do dangerous risky things, drive really fast...lots of stupid things that with the blink of eye could go wrong and I would be done.
Me too, now im careful not to wist and ankle unless its at work lol
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| Sep 12, 2007 @ 1:04 AM |
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burnslikethesun
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I used to like to do dangerous risky things, drive really fast...lots of stupid things that with the blink of eye could go wrong and I would be done.
Me too, now im careful not to wist and ankle unless its at work lol
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| Oct 14, 2007 @ 11:23 AM |
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SKIDELZ
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Frankly I'm not sure what to do about this situation because I know my sis loves the kid but I'm afraid of what will happpen. I've asked her to leave the child with me but she says she doesn't want to hear me nag.
as a parent this is very alarming ... the welfare of your child comes first and i'm not sure if i could go so long with my kids at a "sitter" .... It would be logical to leave them with family if you must but she seems to not really care if her child is in danger as long as she gets her trip
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