| Dec 10, 2008 @ 10:35 PM |
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Camiebabe
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Smetimes it's hard to raise kids without a father figure. It's not easy being both mom and dad. Sometimes i like it and othe times I wish i had a loving man in the house. To help out when i need it the most.
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| Dec 10, 2008 @ 10:38 PM |
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wandaful123
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Maybe you might want to stop playing both roles... just be the best Mom you can. It feels tough now, but things have a way of working themselves out when love is abundant.
Much Luck and Love sent your way...
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| Dec 10, 2008 @ 10:57 PM |
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Camiebabe
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your right, have to learn how first
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| Dec 11, 2008 @ 8:59 PM |
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SensualGemini
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Cam: Smetimes it's hard to raise kids without a father figure.
...It is difficult to raise them without a Mom as well... I learned how to cook, wash clothes and walla! ... replaced.
...Seriously though, it is very difficult, if not impossible to bring what the missing parent brings of that gender. Just do the best you can and if possible, include trusted male members of the family for that required influence.
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| Dec 16, 2008 @ 1:10 AM |
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MisterMatt
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I agree. It's hard to be the missing "other". In my case the girls mom. And with puberty just around the corner. 
I thought I had to be Mr.Mom. But not anymore. I'm there dad. I just happen to cook, clean, do laundry, shop,.....
Just be there parent.
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| Dec 22, 2008 @ 4:37 AM |
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justme123
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don't identify your self in a gender role take it more as a care takers role and keep in mind they simply need treated with respect and understanding they are little adults everything you say molds who they become
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| Jul 12 @ 1:22 AM |
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southernlass
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We've had some very close family friends who are actually more active in the "father figure" role than many real fathers are. I'm thankful for that.
I'm sure it's probably better for the child to have two non dysfunctional parents at the helm versus one, but life is not always a picnic and one doesn't always get to live the ideal in this life.
I think my little girl kind of enjoys the bachelorette pad we've got going, as well as the lifestyle. It's peaceful and laid back, and most of all FUN! Kind of like a small scale example of the single woman's version of Noah's Ark. 
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| Jul 18 @ 10:24 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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don't identify your self in a gender role take it more as a care takers role and keep in mind they simply need treated with respect and understanding they are little adults everything you say molds who they become  
We all get by the best that we can. Good luck
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| Aug 23 @ 12:09 PM |
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chevymn
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I agree it is hard for a single parent in some ways. I don't have a problem raising my girls {that's what my mom is for}. I do hate the fact their mother has been a complete void in their life. It's easy to create the illusion of a loving parent if they atleast see the kids every now and then. My youngest says her mothers dead because she never sees her. It's a long story related to a horse and dog dyin', but it's just how she sees it at her age. I correct her time and time again, but then she ask where mommy is, and to that question I've made up so many lies to try and make her understand that mommy isn't dead. That's the hard part for me. The, bathing, cleaning, cooking and dressing 'em part is the easy stuff.
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| Aug 25 @ 4:36 PM |
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gypsy29
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As the single mother of a 17 year old, I have often felt like I was the most worthless mommy in the world. I musta screwed up my dtr so bad that she would either be a motorbike riding lesbian, a bank robber or a motorbike riding lesbian-bank robber (not that there is anything about those just to keep it all pc). I have a talent for piling up guilt on myself at every turn. And in the end, I have a bright, beautiful, caring, kind, articulate, independant, artistic, talented young lady. After the years of fighting for child support, visitation (as in "please can you come and visit your daughter you piece of mud") and going bact to school when she was 9 years old, it would seem that I did alright. It amazes me how resilient kids are and how smart they can be. We celebrate mothers day AND fathers day. I get a card for both. And we have learned to forgive our mistakes. Did I screw up? Uh, yes. Big time and a lot. But she turned out ok in spite of it all. Go figure.
And if I can do it, so can you.
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| Aug 29 @ 3:21 PM |
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willowy1
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I guess I can legitimately post in the single parents thread now. 
I do worry about raising a boy without a Daddy, I worry about being the oldest Mom at graduation, I worry that eighteen years will fly by too fast. 
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| Aug 29 @ 3:36 PM |
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chubs
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treasure all those moments, mama; because the yrs do fly by fast...take lots of pics and film too 
oh, and welcome, jhey!
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| Aug 29 @ 5:20 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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God does not give you problems in which you can not handle, only the ones you doubt that you can to once again prove you wrong.
Twisted sense of humor, first thing I am gonna do when I stand before him is kick him in the shins and cry.
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| Aug 29 @ 11:47 PM |
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chubs
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"the oldest mom at graduation"  boy, I'd love to see that when it happens! 
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| Aug 30 @ 10:23 PM |
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painter007
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Willow......you will be amazed how time flies by.......Before you know it.....those tiny little hands reaching out to you turn into big hands.......that dont need you so much....
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| Aug 31 @ 7:48 PM |
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JenRNinOhio
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willow is gonna have a BayBee???
wow
cool
congrats.
No worries about being the oldest mom at graduation.
I had my 3rd after I was 38 & then the twins were born 9 days after my 40th bday.
More & more women are having kids *later in life*.
yep
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| Aug 31 @ 7:51 PM |
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ColdinWisconsin
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Twisted sense of humor, first thing I am gonna do when I stand before him is kick him in the shins and cry. 
I guess I can legitimately post in the single parents thread now.
I do worry about raising a boy without a Daddy, I worry about being the oldest Mom at graduation, I worry that eighteen years will fly by too fast.
Oh my LORD! Congratulations honey!!!
And yes..it DOes fly by.
playdough.
Sit on the sidewalk and watch the bugs with him...for hours.
Read, READ...READ to him. 
Every damn minute of it is so awesome.
Wow.
I'm just so happy for you.
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| Aug 31 @ 8:42 PM |
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chubs
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well, I just want to know why willowy didn't tell any of us she was preggers and in the family way...grrr 
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| Aug 31 @ 10:59 PM |
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willowy1
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rabble rouser ^^^ 
I kinda wanted to keep my treasure all to myself for just a bit longer but I couldn't keep my dang yap shut it seems.
His name is Alexander, I haven't use the Alex part yet. Just Xander.
And I'm not just saying this  he is THE MOST BEAUTIFUL CHILD. I hold him and touch his little face and it feels like my heart is just going to bust. The feeling is just indescribable. I am sure all of you Mommy's and you Dad's too can relate.
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| Aug 31 @ 11:07 PM |
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Tiramisu4u
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WHAAAAAAAAT?????????????????? 
OMG...I am absofrigginglutely happy for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  
Congrats on the best kept secret in the history of MD!!!! 
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