| Jul 18 @ 10:20 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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Don't ya just hate it when someone else comes along and tells you whats best for your kid.
I mean just who in the hell do they think they are.
Now dont get me wrong, Ill step right up when I see someone not sparing the rod, but shy of abuse, back the phuck off. Who named you polly prefect parent anyways?
Has this happen to you? What did you do about it?
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| Jul 18 @ 10:41 PM |
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JenRNinOhio
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Looking back about 14 1/2 years .. it's funny to me in retrospect...
Christmas time.
Twins were almost 2. The other one was 3 1/2.
In the mall.... closing time...
double stroller ... bags of Christmas shopping...
Mom & Sis were there with me.
Long day ... Longer evening... Probably a Santa trauma earlier.
"Time to GO!!"
Of course the boy twin was being beligerant.
"Come ON!!"
Two were strollered but boy twin whined and stood.
And wouldn't let Grandma pick him up.
"Now!!!!! Let's GO!"
no movement from him ... just crying.
So
I said:
"FINE!! Stay there!"
&
walked away pushing the stroller.
Never intending to leave him ... but you knew that.
Stranger Woman thought she knew better
and accosted me
ATTEMPTED to berate my parenting.
But she had no idea how old & exhausted I was.
Mom & Sis tried to intervene ..
and did pretty much stop me before
I ripped a new one into Stranger Woman.
But not before I said to her:
"You think YOU can do better???? Here.. Take them!!"
NOW I can laugh.
THEN? Not so funny.
Walk a few miles in my worn out sandals for several months...years ...
before ... well... you know.
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| Jul 19 @ 4:01 AM |
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summerfun
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Yes ive had this happen. A lady was ranting at me because I left my nine year old daughter behing after a baseball game. I wasn't going to take off and leave her. Duh. Anyway I just looked at the lady and said thank you for your opinion and walked off. My oldest (13) heard her and asked me why that lady was so rude. I looked at him and told hime that I dont know. Imagine my surprise when I looked back and saw that she had overheard my son's comment. Oh that was a priceless picture indeed. LOL
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| Jul 19 @ 4:37 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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Great stories.
Once some time ago, my son and I were out eating. I was finished and decided to go have a smoke. I got up and went to the enclosed, smoking section. Boston was still in eye shot, and if ya can see me, ya can hear me.
Anyways this old couple get up and leave to pay for their meal. They pay and instead of leaving they decided to turn around and lecture me on smoking around my son, which I wasn't. After I had heard enough, I finally turned to the old bat and said,
Hey, listen, this is the only legal ways to kill the little bastard.
Her jaw dropped and that ended the conversation.
Another time out to eat, my son was choking. Something like the 100th time. Way used to it. Part of his condition. I normally give him a second to try to work it through. If nothing then Im a pro at the ole dug and swoope. But this like 90 year old lady comes swooping in and grabs my boy by his ankle and starts shaking him up and down. I firmly tell her to set my son down, I got this covered its nothing new. Once Boston was free to breath, I politely explained what was going on and that grabbing a kid by the ankle should never ever be done. Maybe back in 1902 but its not practiced anymore. And that in today's world, grabbing someone's child without permission can get ya in al ot of hot water. I thanked her for her concerned, and she went on her own way.
Once, not to long ago, I was posting on line, and apparently it caused another parent/ site member feathers to ruffled. So they commented along the lines of how they cant understand how people can spend "so much" time on a site and mind their child. Hypercritical huh. Here we have a person commenting on how playing on a site is taking away time from someone else child, while they are doing the exact same thing themselves.
What I find funny. When ya ask for help, ya cant get it or ya declared a lazy or deadbeat parent, and when ya dont ask, peeps just feel the need to stick their nose in your way, to just add to the problem.
[Edited on 7/19/2009 4:43 PM]
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| Jul 25 @ 3:09 PM |
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Jankia
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I mean just who in the hell do they think they are. Probably some other kids....mother?
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| Jul 25 @ 3:36 PM |
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ColdinWisconsin
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Once, not to long ago, I was posting on line, and apparently it caused another parent/ site member feathers to ruffled. So they commented along the lines of how they cant understand how people can spend "so much" time on a site and mind their child. Hypercritical huh. Here we have a person commenting on how playing on a site is taking away time from someone else child, while they are doing the exact same thing themselves.
What I find funny. When ya ask for help, ya cant get it or ya declared a lazy or deadbeat parent, and when ya dont ask, peeps just feel the need to stick their nose in your way, to just add to the problem.
Not sure, but you may be referencing my blog Burns. If so, it was not aimed at you. In fact, it was not aimed at anyone in particular. In fact, I even stated that blog was done to make people think. I'm surprised as the people who said it set them on their ass and made them view their lives differently were for the most parts, childless.
Perhaps I am being hypocritical, but then my child is pushing 16. So...if she's on the treadmill, out for a bike ride with friends, or in the pool...yup, I'll hop on for 15 minutes to a 1/2 hour.
In fact, she's been home 3 days out of 3 weeks with her many vacations to New Mexico, Tennessee and The Carolina's. During that time, I had a whole bunch of free time. Between ripping up carpeting, mowing the lawn , cleaning out the gutters and other stuff, sure..I'll hop on and off. But I can say with a clear conscious that I'm not sitting in front of this screen while my child is home.
I'm a single parent, there is no one to tag while I have flirty fun. And yes, I DO think that people spend too much time on the computer and not enough time with their kids. I do. 
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| Jul 25 @ 7:49 PM |
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Sweetheart83446
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I DO think that people spend too much time on the computer and not enough time with their kids. . I agree. Especially a lot of these people with little children. But, it's not like it bothers them anyway, "we" just allow the T.V. and video games to fill the roll as babysitter. Why not bring them outside to play or enroll them in sports? Ohhh, I forgot, that would require adult supervision. No wonder there are so many over weight kids, poor guys never even had a fighting chance.
Ohhh and I don't think a 16 yr old is going to miss you too much if ya spend a bit of time on the computer. She's probally just happy you're out of her room. 
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| Jul 25 @ 9:37 PM |
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Merchitown
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Just as long as you have the fridge stocked, Cold.
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| Jul 25 @ 10:11 PM |
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ColdinWisconsin
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I agree. Especially a lot of these people with little children. But, it's not like it bothers them anyway, "we" just allow the T.V. and video games to fill the roll as babysitter. Why not bring them outside to play or enroll them in sports? Ohhh, I forgot, that would require adult supervision. No wonder there are so many over weight kids, poor guys never even had a fighting chance.
Ohhh and I don't think a 16 yr old is going to miss you too much if ya spend a bit of time on the computer. She's probally just happy you're out of her room
Ya know...I don't normally get riled up about stuff, but I work in a school as well. Now that you mention extra curricular activities...It's funny how I've got 3-5 kids stacked in my car for volleyball, basketball, cheer leading and soccer. Funny how the other parents can find the time. Even when there are two parents in the home.
Away games? 17 kids out there and 5 parents? How the hell does that work? Maybe I'm just a loony here, but I have a feeling that about 25% of her joy in that sport is having a parent in those stands cheering her on, biting their nails and of course...an open pocket book for popcorn and Power aid.
This is her time. Their time. Am I wrong? Did we not have our time? Did we not make the choice to have and keep these kids? It's like buying a car and never putting oil or gas in it. It's not a one time deal, it's a lifetime deal.
And yeah, she may love her dance dance revolution and her sing star, but she dry heaves if I try it. 
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| Jul 25 @ 10:19 PM |
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Loreli
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There was no computer around when I was growing up.
But my Mom loved to socialize.
Yesterday we had a variety show at my old high school, for my daughter.
I TOLD my Mom it was in the auditorium. She couldn't figure out which way to turn in the building (auditorium is it's OWN bldg)
I just said well, 3 years of me singing in the honor choir, and you're lost? She may have gone to 1 or 2 productions.
It's been SOMETHING for a lot of people....
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| Jul 26 @ 6:09 AM |
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ColdinWisconsin
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Does that make it alright? Does there come a point where we as parents can nod our head and say..."yes, I've been selfish" instead of "I did better than my own mother" ???
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| Jul 27 @ 6:53 PM |
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SensualGemini
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Burns: Has this happen to you? What did you do about it?
...Oh, they may have tried once or twice, but that flew about 2 seconds. I am the one raising and supporting four sons alone and the only advice I might have considered, was from someone that has proven to have done it right themselves.
...Nevertheless, I will always say something to the idiots in a restaurant with brat kids, that insist on counting to 10. I have told more than one, that the kid is more intelligent than they are, as that child is not going to do anything until 9-3/4, while everyone else that is trying to enjoy a nice dinner is forced to suffer from what should have been taught at home.
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Meems: I'm a single parent, there is no one to tag while I have flirty fun. And yes, I DO think that people spend too much time on the computer and not enough time with their kids. I do.
...  ... I agree and especially if it has become their social outlet.
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Meems: Does that make it alright? Does there come a point where we as parents can nod our head and say..."yes, I've been selfish" instead of "I did better than my own mother" ???
...When my kids start to complain about my past parenting, I tell them that none came with an instruction manual and although I did the best I could with four, they will each have an opportunity to improve on my "failures" and we will see how they do.
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| Jul 27 @ 7:34 PM |
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Loreli
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Does there come a point where we as parents can nod our head and say..."yes, I've been selfish" instead of "I did better than my own mother" Nope-
I wouldn't have wanted to parent like my Mother. But that doesn't take away from how much I care about.
I did what I did, while working a full time job. My kids came first. I could explain better, but I don't want to air dirty laundry
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| Jul 27 @ 7:57 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ Pretty much ditto that, and she had even more to deal with than I did.
Since it was still the stone age, no computers when I was raising mine. Was I a super Mom? Nope. I tried my best and think I did really well with the basics, but no, I wasn't there for all the extra-curricular events. I made it for Parents Day and any time a teacher had a problem with them (rare, I'm happy to say), but being a single mom made going along on school trips close to impossible. I had to use my sick time to cover Billy's illnesses - he was the emergency room kid.
Occasionally I would have been the one biatching at a mom - for some reason kids trusted me. More than once I'd be in the supermarket or the park and a little one would just walk up and take my hand. I'd take him or her looking around and invariably found the mom yakking away and totally oblivious to the fact that her child was missing in action. I don't yell or scream, but I can be quietly blistering. I'm not sure they even comprehended what I was saying though.
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| Jul 30 @ 3:55 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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When I was first thrust into a single parent role EVERYONE and their momma thought it was their duty to tell me how to raise my child.. some I listened too .. like my mom and some I ignored . A lot of those who told me how I was messing up or being over protective or too strict blah blah are not parents yet they have time and again NOW remark and praise me on how well my children act (well in public  ) and how good a parent I have been. I have basically raised all my kids alone and my word is THE final answer when it concerns them. Some of these same people who tried to tell me how to raise my child and whose children I was there for and helped raise( and well the kid always listened to me ) their kids who are now raising their own children ask me for advice and help etc.. hmm I wonder why?? could be because my system WORKS and those that I used it on KNOW it and appreciate the fact it instilled some sense of right and wrong and work ethic along with a ton of HOW TO LOVE .. that is the biggest part... So when someone questions my parenting.. I can say Oh yeah? well hmm have you ever experienced a hat trick?? after a quizzical look I explain to them.. that is when all three of your kids have won the 5th grade science fair  thats a hat trick BABAY!!!!!!
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| Jul 30 @ 4:08 PM |
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ColdinWisconsin
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 MOST awesome!!!
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| Jul 30 @ 8:12 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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Nope Cold, my post never have anything to do with ya unless I mention ya. All good.
thanks for the stories yall.
The point of this is whats good for " your" kids, may not and most likely not the same good for others " kids"
There is no such thing a the super parent.
We are allowed to live our lives and raise our children as we see is best fit.
It burns my bubble when I see others trying to attack peeps threw their kids, how they are acting or what they are doing. Shy of abuse, its no ones business what is going on in your home.
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| Jul 30 @ 9:01 PM |
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ColdinWisconsin
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Good to know Burnsy!
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| Jul 30 @ 9:04 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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Burnsy, Ya one of the very very few I let get away with that.
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| Aug 12 @ 8:05 PM |
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NYFemme
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perhaps if we all concerned ourselves with what works for us as parents we may stop critisizing others with the better than though attitude and do better for ourselves and our kids...personally i dont let people tell me how and what to do as i dont take that liberty to them..but rudeness is best regarded with a curt thanks and keep on moving lol i dont like peeps in my biz
ps regarding telling parents they spend too much time on the computer...gee how can you possibly know what their schedule allows??? i know when mine was young he had a sleep schedule that bored me to death for hours to the point that i actually went and found a job i could work from home online!! would you have critisized me ?? i bet you would since you have no clue what my schedule allowed me oh and yea the park,.. i do know how to use a laptop and piggyback on a wireless dsl been doing that since late 90's in the playground..lol haha that turned out so well..i still work online from home! gotta love the net!
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