| Oct 19 @ 9:15 PM |
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onecoyote
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Being a single parent was tough but when they
grew up and left it made things really really tough.
That when being alone is the hardest.
Trying to hold on to that last bit of your life and watching
it slip away was and is agonizing.
Has anyone else had to go through this?
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| Oct 20 @ 8:17 PM |
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JenRNinOhio
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I am awaiting that time.....
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| Oct 21 @ 2:43 AM |
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beckyiv42000
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Kinda sorta.. my oldest turned 18 got married and moved .. first out of state then back then just about 20 miles away .. having her out of the house felt very odd at first .. but the two younger ones keep me so busy now I dont have time to be sad about her being on her own ... I would have been devastated tho if she had cut contact off...Before they bought their new house they stayed with me for a month and I remembered how much I missed her ...I feel your pain there onecoyote... 
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| Nov 2 @ 9:55 AM |
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Gallows_Humor
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It's just a new chapter in the book of life... 
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| Nov 2 @ 2:21 PM |
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oct_cat
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I've already got a deal worked out with my son when he moves out . . . he comes over once a week for dinner.  
(Gotta have some way of getting rid of leftovers)!
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| Nov 4 @ 7:15 PM |
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BandTMom
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Since I will be 62 when my little graduates high school, it will be a while before I have to worry about this.
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| Nov 4 @ 7:22 PM |
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ColdinWisconsin
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Two and a half years. That's how long I've got left.
You have to be aware that it is coming I think. Start re-finding yourself before they leave that nest. All those things you used to love to do but gave up because it really wasn't feasible to drag a infant,, toddler, adolescent along with you.
I really went for it about a year ago. Started traveling again whenever she was gone. I signed on to do a volunteer archaeological dig, a great deal more camping (MY kind of camping) threw myself into my writing and am re-doing my house so that I can sell it when she runs off for a life of her own.
I'm ready for something smaller. Frankly, I'm sick of push mowing and acre. I scout around for houses and condo's on weekends to figure out what I would really like in the next phase of my life. Narrowing down locations I've found I love.
I'm researching and planning my future just as hard as we are planning her's (my daughters) I'm also volunteering more for grade school and middle school extra curricular activities. She's at the age she doesn't want her mom at every function (can you blame her) but it keeps me young and active being involved in my community.
Honestly? I'm looking forward to this next phase. BIG TIME! 
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| Nov 8 @ 8:49 AM |
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JenRNinOhio
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CiW
A year & 1/2 until high school graduation for the youngest 2.... But I think at least a couple of them will stay here in the house for some local college, community college. Much cheaper to get the basic Maths & English courses @ a community college price & transfer later for a major.
Maybe there will be some sort of grand maturing experience within the next couple of years but right now... I can't see these kids living out there on their own. Oh Lordy, I have been planning for the empty nest & now I am afraid to let them go.
I must stop typing in this forum.
It's screwing with my head.
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| Nov 11 @ 2:23 PM |
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bunnybiz
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My youngest son move away about three years ago at the same time oldest son with my grandson moved in for a short time.
Now the oldest is married and celebrated their first anniversary on the 2nd. The oldest was in Daytona for years. Now, he doesn't live far away but I do not get to see them often.
The youngest told me he won't be coming down for Christmas holiday. At least I got to see him in August. I miss him so much. Oldest is 33 and youngest 23.
The empty nest is just a phase of life. When other factors are added to the situation makes it a bit more complicated. However, one can choose to look at all the haves and not the have nots.
(With FB I can see what they both are up too...  )
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