| Nov 22, 2005 @ 12:18 AM |
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alleycat624
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Amam117,
I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only one that is like this. I was beginning to think I needed to see a therapist. I have been told that I am self-centered, I will be by myself forever, etc., but I guess I just haven't found the right one. Maybe I am too picky, but it's my choice. I don't want to be with someone that I'm not completely happy with. And, I've always said that I will get my kids grown and then have a life. We'll find someone right eventually. I know it.
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| Nov 23, 2005 @ 11:48 PM |
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blueeyes1128
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 They keep saying that the right one will come along!!! I don't know when it will happen, I guess that the time just isn't right yet. I think that the key to finding someone is to be completely happy with yourself first!!! That is when I found my last one.....I had my head on straight and had all my sh*t straight and then I found someone.....the problem is, he wasn't the right one for me!
He drained my bank account!
Put me down at every turn!
Has me now to where I am affraid to even "be" with another man!!!!
He would tell me how fat I was and how ugly I was and things that are even worse that I am to embarassed to say!! 
That is okay though, I have decided that I am going to build my bank account back up and I am going to get my sh*t straight again and I WILL end up back on top so help me God!!  I REFUSE to let him win......I will learn from my mistakes and make better choices next time.
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| Nov 24, 2005 @ 9:15 PM |
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MelMel
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I am also very upfront that I am a single parent.. and also very strict about dating.. Only when my son is with his father.. no babysitters.. the person that I am "dating" should not expect to meet my child unless we both are sure it will be a lasting thing..
I would more than welcome another persons child(ren) into my life.. my son would love the companionship of other kids in the house..
He wants me to get married... trying to a explain to a 6 year old why mommy isn't quite ready yet is like..  LOL
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| Nov 25, 2005 @ 12:42 PM |
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ddbibc
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Chinabull,
I can relate to how you feel because I have experienced it myself. Like you, I just cannot drop everything and go off on a date or a trip or something with someone without planning for it first. My youngest child is nine years old. You are so right because it is hard for someone without kids to understand what it is like to be a single parent.
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| Nov 26, 2005 @ 1:07 AM |
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sparky1960
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I also am a single father, but one thing wheather it be a man or woman is this, our children come first! period, but I can,t understand the people who say they won,t meet my children untill I know there the one! How do you know thier the one till you see how they handle bieng around your children! No,wonder kids feel left out!! They should be involved from the first, for 2 reasons kids are very intuitive, and if the magic does happen they will be involved anyway!!! Lets not forget they are somekind of little creatures to be tucked away untill they can come out! If we find ouselves ready to be with someone with kids ,we need to understand that the tree and leaf are part of the whole!!! 
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| Nov 26, 2005 @ 7:58 PM |
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MelMel
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Which brings me to this question..
Why are winks given from people who clearly state that they do NOT want children and they prefer their "mates" have NO children as well?? Like they will suddenly disappear when you step thru the door???
Seems kind of redundant doesn't it??
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 6:15 PM |
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wkd2006
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I am a single father and I have found relationships difficult not only because of the children, but also because of the families on both sides. Blended families can be a mess!
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| Nov 30, 2005 @ 6:13 AM |
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Gmanbody
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[B]ruready you gave me a flashback to when I started dating again as a s/p. The oldest was 3 and the youngest was about 2 weeks old. A woman I was seeing would come by on the spur of the moment and want to take me out. Then I'd have to run around and get a babysitter and if I couldn't she'd get an attitude until her selfishness ended that relationship. As the kids grew older other women would use the excuse that they didn't want to be a step mom even though I've told them I'm both to them and was not looking for that. I guess that's why I'm single as well 
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| Nov 30, 2005 @ 10:31 PM |
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MelMel
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Why get a babysitter.. if they can't work around your kids and your visitation schedule.. then they need to move on..
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| Dec 5, 2005 @ 11:30 AM |
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torees121
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MelMel-- I agree with your statement. Kids first no matter what!
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 3:30 PM |
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lj450
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I like dating single moms cause you know they already have sex.
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 4:08 PM |
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MarysPlace
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I like dating single moms cause you know they already have sex.
Just so you now, I'm following you around. Actually, I'm stalking you because I'm the self appointed president of your fan club.
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| Dec 7, 2005 @ 10:49 PM |
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ruready4me2luvu
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He dont care if you stalk him, he already said he likes single moms cause he knows they have sex
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| Dec 8, 2005 @ 5:41 AM |
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Baiba
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Well, i can tell the story, a guy asked me out for a dinner, i said, ok, but can i take Nina with with me? He said, ok wuth the voice that turns one guy happy. i will never forget his face when i went into restaurant with my girl on my hand in carseat. He was like BIG pause, and then - This is Nina? I said, yes, this is Nina... ´oh´he said, you never told me you are going to take you kid with you... That moment i was going to tunr arounf and go avay, bt i said something like, is that a big problem for you? He said yes, and i felt that my stomack is feeling an anger insise but still in peace i asked why, and then he said - NOW we have to change the table, i have it in smokers area. Well.. Then i realised, that KID for a most of NORMAL guys is not a problem, its just a problem inside our heads. 
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| Dec 8, 2005 @ 4:05 PM |
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Technologic
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I really dont care how hard of a time single men or women have. It's futile to even discuss it because nobody can or will do anything about it! Discussion only begets debate and the last I checked, nobody here jumped off the keyboard and lifted a finger to help anyone.
I have been widowed with twins, a boy and girl who are 4, since December 2003. I haven't been able to find a partner since.
Most run and admit why:
1. I drive a Mini Van
2. Widowed
3. Too much baggage (twins)
4. Doesn't want to be a "Soccer Mom"
One even said, "To go through what you went through you must have a mental problem!" Another asked "How much money do you have?"
When I mention these responses to others they say the usual, as anybody would, "You don't want those types anyway!"
Well, those types are all I have found and I've found MANY!
It seems my only other option is to rescue some young S.E. Asian from poverty. I'm sure somebody has something to say about that! I've accepted the fact that I will be dating myself until I go buy a wife!
[Edited on 12/8/2005 4:11 PM]
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| Dec 8, 2005 @ 4:14 PM |
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Glitter0kitten
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I dont really have a hard time,but then again i really dont know i only dated one guy sinve me and the father broke up, now me and that guy are getting ready to break up
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| Dec 8, 2005 @ 5:35 PM |
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torees121
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I would prefer to date a single dad. When I date I don't let me children (18&13) meet the man unless it is going to be serious. Most men I date that are raising their children feel the same way. So children have never been an issue with my dating life.
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 2:21 PM |
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lj450
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now me and that guy are getting ready to break up
hahahaah
How do you "get ready" to break up?
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 2:29 PM |
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Technologic
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After sex you get ready, then, break up.
It's simple!
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 3:56 PM |
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torees121
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Tech--
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