| Nov 12, 2005 @ 4:46 PM |
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playn4keps
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I am a 33 year old and have a wonderfill son and i have notice how some woman react when it comes to dads and there kids some woman think we do it just to pick up woman and some think we do it cause we have to Have some woman every thought that there are dads that want to be with theree kids and take on the resonsablity of the kids there are to many dads that dont do this and it is wrong I wouldn t change a thing with mine I love him dearly and would fight to the death for him so if you every see a man with his kids give him a chance frist thanks
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| Nov 12, 2005 @ 9:05 PM |
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chinabull2000
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To be honest, if a woman thinks I use my daughter to pick up women, or just have her because I have to, then she can pisz off and find someone else anyway! When I left my ex-wife I took my daughter with me because I wanted to, and certainly not because my ex wanted me to. And I wouldn't have had it any other way. My daughter comes first in my life, certainly well befoer any woman I might or might not date.
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| Nov 15, 2005 @ 9:00 AM |
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newmominok
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My 12 year old daugher also has been through alot,I'm very protective of all 3 of my children and I know what your saying!!!
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| Nov 22, 2005 @ 11:52 AM |
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lonelylady688
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Angel,
I feel touched reading your article. I can try to guess what happened, did this pervert rape your daughters? I am so so scared of this kind of thing. I just pray God gives me a sober one since I have two girls too. Best regards and keep being the protective and caring mom you have been.
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| Nov 25, 2005 @ 12:59 AM |
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blueeyes1128
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I am also affraid of someone hurting my kids especially my daughter... my son just turned 16 so, I don't think that I have to worry about him so much any more but, my daughter is only 10. That is about the right age for these perverts out there. I worked for the prison system here in Texas for 9 years and let me tell you, they prey on little girls about her age. I would kill a man that even thought about looking at my daughter. I don't play when it come to that kind of crap!! 
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| Nov 25, 2005 @ 4:10 PM |
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blueeyes1128
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Deb,
I know that this is really off of the subject but, I just wanted to tell you how sorry I am to hear about the deaths of your husbands. I have lost a child and I thought that would be the end of my world. When I lost my mom it pretty much was!!! I hear that when you lose your spouse that is the worth thing ever. They are the ones that you lean on for everything. When they are gone, you don't have that leanning post any longer....I hope I never have to know what it is like to know a loss like that. I am so sorry that you have had to go through it twice. You a beautiful woman and I hope that you find someone special soon. Take Care!!!!
Sondra
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| Dec 9, 2005 @ 11:30 PM |
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inncntdvl74
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I think this kinda goes both ways really....it's not that they are not giving you a chance...i think they just assume from a distance you are married (not everyone wears a wedding ring),or there could be a slight possibility that there may be some residual baggage (between you and the other parent). My daughters father has the same problem. He has been single for a couple of years now. "It's not you, it's them!" They don't want to share you or your attention with anyone, having a child, that's never an option.
I am the proud single parent of a thriving eight year old girl. To be honest, when I begin dating someone, I do not want to share any of the attention. Call me selfish if you will but it's the truth. I need time to figure out if this is the type of person I want influencing my child. I need to figure out exactly what my intentions are prior to introducing my daughter into the picture. Ultimately, it will happen for me (I may be 65 when it does but I remain optomistic).
Take care and I wish you luck in your pursuit of happiness.
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| Dec 10, 2005 @ 9:21 PM |
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lj450
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You can tell how true a date is when it comes to kids
I dont date kids......anymore
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| Dec 19, 2005 @ 7:35 PM |
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lookin4netpal
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HAHAHAHAHA nice reply above!!!!
I definitely have to have someone who accepts me and my son...but I completely agree with the people who don't necessarily jump into making introductions between the people they date and their children. I would not feel comfortable introducing until I am SURE that its something that's going to last. You cannot be too careful--as was also mentioned earlier.
I have a cousin (he's 22 and wayyyyyy too naive about how to be a parent sometimes), and he runs women through his house faster than you can say "idiot". I love him, but its true. His daughter is a wonderful, although completely confused, three-year-old. Lately, she's been having a lot of difficulty in daycare--everything from having accidents (even though she's potty-trained) to biting other children (once in the eye!!!) Not good. My cousin asked me for advice, and I tried to tell him that it may be her acting out over all the women she sees Daddy with. He told me to mind my own business--haha--even though he was the one who asked....Anyway, you know there's a problem when she calls every female she meets "Mama". Kids often pay for our poor decisions...
Cookie
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| Dec 20, 2005 @ 10:13 PM |
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CowboysDream
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well i agree darlin and Im a mother Im in the same situation as you are and hope you found what you are looking for merry christmas and happy new year darlin
jacqueline
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| Dec 21, 2005 @ 4:47 AM |
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dark_moon
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I've never made any of those assumtions. Has never even entered my head. Maybe because of the kind of father MY dad was. .....ok that leads me to wonder about the women who DO make those assumptions. Maybe it has to do with their own father and not you.
I have fairly high standards for what a man should be and what kind of father a man should be, because of the man my father was.
But maybe other women suspect the worse because they had a less than wonderful dad themselves.
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| Dec 23, 2005 @ 6:53 AM |
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walkingman
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My late father was a great role model and I learned all I could want to know about being a parent from him. I don't think anyone who doesen't have kid's can relate as well to them as someone who has. There is just a different mind set to being a parent. I will never introduce a lady to my kid's till I have been seeing her for a while. You have to be very picky. I
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| Jan 12, 2006 @ 12:50 AM |
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ashieng
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response to lukin4netpal,
I want the chance to agree with you 100 %. My parents divorced when I was small.
I will never forget some of the boyfriends in my mom's life. Never forget and ...sort of feeling like not forgiving either -- they have never told me sorry for things like kicking me in the butt when I didn't deserve it, giving my mother the wrong kind of advice about disciplining me (my mom rarely ever beat us -- but he said "If you don't, I will." at that point I ran away from home. It was just for an afternoon and I was a pre-teen but whatever.
And since I breaking up with my last girfriend, I have given more careful thought about what it means for my daughter -- me being romantically involved with a woman. My last girlfriend was patient, kind, and loving to my daughter. The problem was between her and I, not between her and my daughter.
Afterwards, I felt doubly bad about ending the relationship because of the fact that my daughter had known my girlfriend, and her family and friends. After breaking up, my ex would invite me out, or over to her parents house. It hurt me to say no, but I felt I had to.
I did sometimes invite her out after that. My daughter would come with us. But it felt strange since my ex said "I hate you." but could also say she misses my daughter.
Their are lots of people who might be good with and good for your kids -- but you and he/she are not solid as a rock, then it's no good.
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| Jan 18, 2006 @ 12:37 AM |
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Raven08603
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Wow ! reading back through this thread really shows how different everyone is. Gives me the following thoughts:
I truly respect the men that I know that are raising their kids. For men and women, single parently isn't the easiest. But I would rather be a single mom than married and miserable. What kind of role model would that be for my daughter???? I hate to say it and in NO WAY genealizing but have seen women who have a few kids take the first jerk that comes along. I will die alone and happy than lonely with someone and miserable. I hate the statement that single moms are just husband hunters.
One other issue in this thread has me concerned, how can a Mom bring her kid with her on a first date? I don't hide from anyone that I am dating that I have a child. I do not let any one meet my kid until I know first hand what kind of person they are. I know kids that have had some many "Uncles" because of the men their moms have brought in and out of the house it is confusing for the kid.
Well, this is just my thought on the issue.
I hope every one is having a happy New Year!!!! 
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| Jan 18, 2006 @ 12:57 AM |
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firstimer213
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Hi, Very good. Don't bring your dates in and around your kids like a revolving door. They won't ever have a stable relationship like that. I gave up many events, invitations and in some ways a big chunk of my life to see my kids a little bit ea. week but I don't throw that up to them it is a parental feeling that does that. We aren't supposed to get rewarded. it is nice to read your concerns and know where your head is at. i wish your head would turn my way. Beside the age diff. I know we would hit it off intellectually and that in itself is a turn on to me. paul 
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| Jan 21, 2006 @ 9:55 PM |
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Tunes4u
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Amen Sister Raven, on both points! 
Tunes
[Edited on 1/21/2006 10:02 PM]
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| Jan 22, 2006 @ 10:40 PM |
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Billstv
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Thank You, From A Single Dad.
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| Mar 12, 2006 @ 8:29 AM |
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mroo11
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If you are interested in a person then you are interested in what the person is all about.
As you are a "mom" par excellence, then consideration of the relationship between you and your daughter is a must.
Any boob can be childish and try to drive a wedge between the two of you but a true "man" wants the total package and that does include the love, devotion and admiration you surely have for your daugher. Once you can accept that a man really understands and accepts this then you'll surely find a place in your life for him.
You're a true queen. Hope "he" shows up!!
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| Aug 26, 2006 @ 9:55 AM |
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kv
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First date with kids in tow? No problem find a guy who either likes kids or has kids and go to the park or Chucki Cheese
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