| Nov 20, 2006 @ 10:54 PM |
Why is it that people go into a bar, to find someone?
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GuitarGuy21
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I have to say, it amazes me to go out and see all these people on any given night; out and most of the time wasted. Now maybe it just never appealed to me or something in that general realm.
Think about this, Why is it that people go into a bar, 9 times out of ten there all in there for the same reason; down and out upset freshly broke up or out with their companion. What get's me is that many of the "down and/or out", will goto a bar or club and "scope" for something new. Now this is where I begin to laugh because it seems so effortlessly amusing to me. What is the point of going somewhere, usually upset or a lil' down-hearted, then meeting someone or "hooking-up" with someone who is/are just as messed up as you? Sounds like a lose lose situation to me or maybe im just not into that.....
Please respond back on this one....could be a good topic
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| Nov 20, 2006 @ 11:16 PM |
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steveemac
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GG, I agree with everything you've posted, and I want to tie it in with this: many of these same people, when discussing a personals site -like MatchDoctor, for example- will say something like, "I'd never do that! That's for desperate people!!" 
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| Nov 22, 2006 @ 9:40 PM |
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_single_and_looking_18
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I agree. I know a lot of girls that go out looking for guys when their boyfriends' leave them. If two people are "down" and want someone to be around to make them feel better, more power to them. I don't have to wake up the next morning and see their faces. As for me, well not so much. When I'm heart broken I usually just want to be alone. It's part of the 'healing' process...
I agree with you steve, being on singles sites to me is just having fun and meeting new people, but I have heard people say that they would only use it as a last resort. I prefer talking to people over sleeping around...but I guess that's just a personal preference.
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| Nov 23, 2006 @ 2:28 PM |
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WSOR
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I agree also. I can't see "combing the bars" to look for someone who shares your interests.. especially if you're definitely not a bar person (like myself). In my opinion you don't know if you're talking to the actual person's real personality, or the alcohol in their system. When I see a profile that involves bars, partying, or anything else along those lines I don't need to read any farther than that. Next please! Happy Thanksgiving & God bless. :)
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| Nov 24, 2006 @ 2:04 AM |
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justagirl2005
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 they go into a bar but they wont find anyone........not of value anyway 
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| Nov 26, 2006 @ 12:39 PM |
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Latin423
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I just go out to the bars to dance, maybe have one drink in the night and keep it simple. Why do most people go there to find someone, I have no clue.
What I can say, is that most people let their walls down, and like to flirt while they are at the bar. The tease and the attention makes breaking the ice a bit easier. Maybe this is why more people meet at bars.
I wouldn't go to a bar to meet some one, try a store or a shopping mall, its a lot easier to find good people there than at a bar.
Only met one lady at a bar, though she doesn't drink like I, and we both enjoy dancing. That may be the reason we still appreciate each others company, she is not my girlfriend or anything, she is a just a friend and a dance partner. Don't know what works for the rest.. but this works for me.
 
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| Nov 30, 2006 @ 6:01 PM |
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lilangel4u
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it is a lose lose situation which is why most of those situations never work out. Also, nothing worse than waking up realizing you were wearing beer goggles the night before!
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| Nov 30, 2006 @ 6:15 PM |
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Intellectual_Masochist
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Everything serves a purpose... Nobody has the right to judge anyone else's purpose... I'm sure people could pull to pieces certain aspects of each one of our lives, but it is solely from their vantage point.
Live your life the way you want to live it... Letting others determine your reality makes it neither your reality nor all that real...
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| Dec 27, 2006 @ 6:44 PM |
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justagirl2005
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oh they may find someone all right, but will it last more than a night or two??? NADA!!   users, users, users, 
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| Dec 30, 2006 @ 10:10 PM |
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catman602
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I have not found anyone in a bar . I go to the bars for karoake . that about all . NOW if a girl here asks me out and we hit off  yes baby
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| Jan 1, 2007 @ 9:47 AM |
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Intellectual_Masochist
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I remember a time when stating that you had met somebody on the Internet was a reason for shame and ridicule. It now seems that meeting people in a bar has taken over that illustrious honor.
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| Jan 1, 2007 @ 5:53 PM |
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justagirl2005
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no ,,, the bars were around a lot longer than the internet, i suppose it has always been a shame to meet someone in a bar,,,ever since i can remember
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| Jan 1, 2007 @ 9:14 PM |
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midnightthunder
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I have to agree with Intellectual_Masochist, going to a bar is an option just like speed dating, matchdoctor, lunch dates etc.
When you limit yourself then you also limit your options, and for that matter your ability to see things differently, it helps you define your parameters
There are plenty of people who have met at a bar, or nightclub, or even pub have you, doesn't mean you are going for the bottom of the barrel. Does it really matter where you meet someone if they can make you happy, if not forever at least for a while.
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| Jan 2, 2007 @ 4:50 PM |
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justagirl2005
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quote "i have to agree with intellectual masochist" unquote=====you would!  you know what they say,,, you can take the people out of the bar but you cant take the bar out of the people,,,,anyone who is willing to settle for that must be desparate,,,,99% of them that is their life,,,,good luck, but been there done that as so many people have and thats why you see "tired of the bar scene" everywhere you go. i do not know of one person who has met in a bar and it lasted more than a few weeks....why????why the bar of course
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| Jan 2, 2007 @ 6:08 PM |
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TommyRay
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I dunno met a couple in a bar throughout lifetime, none worked of course, and since I am not a drinker really at all, I am here instead of such places. I'm not about to make such mistakes again. But a 12-stepper can be worse LOL so I seek neither of those types.
Nowhere else I can think of offers possibilities like the dating site online. And yes it is less a scourge than bars. And more time friendly, as well being bale to sort out a few things before even meeting. So it's practicality and possibilities make it attractive in itself for us singles who are here in this... lost and found... all seeking basiclaly the same thing.
But Bars will always be there, and there are the partiers who have made it integrate with thier lives in different ways. People who just break up are not well suited for bar hopping so soon. But it will always happen, because they DO need someone else to feel good about themselves, as if thier opinion of themselves didn't count. That's a lacking in people, and only experience or maturity can counterbalance that, along witht ime to heal from being hurt from a breakup.
Singles go to look, but they eventually just blow off steam, I think, and I have had a long term relation from someone I met at a bar. Ijust got tired of my wallet being empty with a note saying went to bar LOL. There's a tip fer ya, if you're thinking of that route.
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| Jan 2, 2007 @ 8:48 PM |
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midnightthunder
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quote "i have to agree with intellectual masochist" unquote=====you would!
So what is that supoose to mean, someone wake ip on the wrong side of the bed, you don't like bars thats fine, thats you, so tell me how is your batting average on matchdoctor.
you know what they say,,, you can take the people out of the bar but you cant take the bar out of the people,,,,anyone who is willing to settle for that must be desparate,,,,99% of them that is their life,,,,good luck, but been there done that as so many people have and thats why you see "tired of the bar scene" everywhere you go. i do not know of one person who has met in a bar and it lasted more than a few weeks....why????why the bar of course
If you read my post again which I don't think you did, you just picked out what you wanted, I make the point of OPTIONS, which means don't limit yourself to just ONE way of meeting people.
You can meet someone in a grocery store, or drug store, and the realyionshop won't last, and you can meet someone on matchdoctor, and the relatiohship won't last. So please tell everyone what is the best way to meet people, meaning your way, enlighten us all and tell us what works best for you.
By the way no one is twisting your arm to go to a bar, you don't want to go...don't go...easy as that.
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| Jan 2, 2007 @ 9:54 PM |
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beth490
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I just want to meet a nice guy fall in love and live happly ever after.Is it just a dream that won't happen? Am I looking in the wrong place? It would be nice to know where to look the bar isn't always the worst place hell would be the worst then the bar. Just want to be in love again.
Beth
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| Jan 2, 2007 @ 10:11 PM |
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justagirl2005
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i just dont go to the bar to meet people, speed dating , matchdoctor, etc. lunch dates, are just fine,,,,,bar should not be included in in meeting places,,you are just asking for trouble,,,most of the time it is someone just broke up and ready to jump right back to that person, they are just out and depending on someone to make them feel better for the time being ,so midnightthunder, if that is what you think an option is go for it i was just giving my opinion,and as tommyray here has also stated,,,,just not a good idea.
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| Jan 3, 2007 @ 6:19 AM |
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koocnosaj
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I guess i haven't been into the bar much myself but from what I have seen, it serves as a place to actually find people. I mean seriously, are you going to go to the mall or wal-mart to find that special person. There is always church, but you really can't mack on people there. One of my good friends actually did find someone at a bar and now they are happily married. Also, when my mom and dad got a divorce, my dad met his new wife at the bar, and they have now been married for 11 long years. I guess it just matters what the other people, you are meeting, want.
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| Jan 3, 2007 @ 8:36 PM |
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country_cowboy
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Good question. The kind of woman I look for isn't one I will find in a bar. So, I get dates far and few in between.. but I think they are better than anything I would pick up in a bar in the first place. I won't say its a better class of people.. but I will say that I am not the kind of man that you would find in a bar, so why would I look there for the kind of woman I would want?
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