| Apr 2 @ 9:35 PM |
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Bob1968
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Honestly do they do anything beside give a false sense of hope?
I'm so sick of the cam girls, spam girls and the girls who can't write a simple sentence or the ones I reply(they emailed me first) to and the the first two questions are whats your name and do you have a cam? 
I for one have a hard time putting in writing who I am and what I would like but I'm sure what I have written is not a open invitation for the bottom feeders I get emails from.
What happened to all the nice guys?
I see this question posted with some regularity in the personals section.
The answer is simple: you did.
If you want to read the rest of the above email me and I'll send it to you.
Before I get pounced on this is not directed to ALL the ladies, just the ones who make the good ones look bad and yes I've heard this is a two way street and the ladies have the same problem with the guy's. 
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| Apr 2 @ 10:58 PM |
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steveemac
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I know this much: this site has worked for me; I have found the one I have been searching my whole life for, right here!
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| Apr 6 @ 9:30 PM |
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Bob1968
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8 sites and 9 months into this "On-Line" dating I give up!
I see this question posted with some regularity in the personals section, so I thought I'd take a minute to explain things to the ladies out there that haven't figured it out.
What happened to all the nice guys?
The answer is simple: you did.
See, if you think back, really hard, you might vaguely remember a Platonic guy pal who always seemed to want to spend time with you. He'd tag along with you when you went shopping, stop by your place for a movie when you were lonely but didn't feel like going out, or even sit there and hold you while you sobbed and told him about how horribly the (other) guy that you were f***ing treated you.
At the time, you probably joked with your girlfriends about how he was a little puppy dog, always following you around, trying to do things to get you to pay attention to him. They probably teased you because they thought he had a crush on you. Given that his behavior was, admittedly, a little pathetic, you vehemently denied having any romantic feelings for him, and buttressed your position by claiming that you were "just friends." Besides, he totally wasn't your type. I mean, he was a little too short, or too bald, or too fat, or too poor, or didn't know how to dress himself, or basically be or do any of the things that your tall, good-looking, fit, rich, stylish boyfriend at the time pulled off with such ease.
Eventually, your Platonic buddy drifted away, as your relationship with the boyfriend got more serious and spending time with this other guy was, admittedly, a little weird, if you werent dating him. More time passed, and the boyfriend eventually cheated on you, or became boring, or you realized that the things that attracted you to him weren't the kinds of things that make for a good, long-term relationship. So, now, you're single again, and after having tried the bar scene for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, you wonder, "What happened to all the nice guys?"
Well, once again, you did.
You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy. You laughed at his consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend more than the attentive "just-a-" friend. Eventually, he took the hint and moved on with his life. He probably came to realize, one day, that women aren't really attracted to guys who hold doors open; or make dinners just because; or buy you a Christmas gift that you mentioned, in passing, that you really wanted five months ago; or listen when you're upset; or hold you when you cry. He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he'd have to act more like the boyfriend that you had. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, and generally acted like more of an asshole than he ever wanted to be.
Fact is, now, he's probably getting laid, and in a way, your ultimate rejection of him is to thank for that. And I'm sorry that it took the complete absence of "nice guys" in your life for you to realize that you missed them and wanted them. Most women will only have a handful of nice guys stumble into their lives, if that.
So, if you're looking for a nice guy, here's what you do:
1.) Build a time machine.
2.) Go back a few years and pull your head out of your ass.
3.) Take a look at what's right in front of you and grab ahold of it.
I suppose the other possibility is that you STILL don't really want a nice guy, but you feel the social pressure to at least appear to have matured beyond your infantile taste in men. In which case, you might be in luck, because the nice guy you claim to want has, in reality, shed his nice guy mantle and is out there looking to unleash his cynicism and resentment onto someone just like you.
If you were five years younger.
So, please: either stop misrepresenting what you want, or own up to the fact that you've f***ed yourself over. You're getting older, after all. It's time to excise the bullshit and deal with reality. You didn't want a nice guy then, and he certainly doesn't f***ing want you, now.
Sincerely,
A Recovering Nice Guy
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| Apr 11 @ 12:01 PM |
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doublej118
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I'm starting to think that the term "on-line dating" means just that. You never actually have a real relationship, just one that exists in cyberspace.
I've met several women on-line who are incapable of taking the "relationship" to the level of actually meeting in person. It seems they are content, as pathetic as that is, with forever sending emails and endless on-line chatting.
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| Apr 14 @ 4:29 PM |
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elvisdog
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hey bob, you're exactly right on the money!!!!! these women don't want the nice caring guy they claim they do!!! all they want are these musclebound idiots who will screw them and then leave them. if there are any women who actually want a decent guy who will work hard to provide for you, care for you, be a sounding board for you to unload on, etc..... then where are you?????
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| Apr 14 @ 10:57 PM |
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steveemac
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Elvisdog, you keep carrying that rather large, heavy chip on your shoulder, and you will find yourself walking funny-and alone...
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| Apr 15 @ 4:52 PM |
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elvisdog
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stevemac, first of all; thanks for your opinion. apparently you haven't run into the "everything revolves around me" women that i have. i've tried the "giving every lady the benefit of the doubt "trick; doesn't work!!!!! yes, it may seem that i do have a chip on my shoulder, but if you have been out with the women i have and have been told the crap by them, you would have one too.
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| Apr 15 @ 10:49 PM |
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SportsMom677
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Well....just so you boys know...not ALL woman are the "world evolves around me" types! There's many of us that just enjoying being with that someone special and it's the little things in a relationship that mean the most...not what can you buy me, or what have you done for me lately! So please don't categorize all women....some of us yankee babes are pretty 'swell'.....hahahahahhahahaha 
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| Apr 20 @ 9:39 PM |
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vanstreetgirl311
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I guess i'm in the same boat i really dont think these sites work but i try because guys really dont come up and talk to me and if they do they are losers ... so for some reason i think one day it will work and ill fine mr. right online
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| Apr 25 @ 9:58 AM |
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masterjaguar_2001
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I've had it from all the girls in 3rd world countries. I am one of the good men. So where are the good women here in Wisconsin ?
Are you women looking for that perfect man ? If you are, let me suggest he doesn't exist. May I also suggest that there is not "the perfect woman" either.
How about a reality check.
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| Apr 26 @ 4:08 AM |
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girlnextdoor
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On the other hand....Why do men assume just because women are on a daitng site, it means we want to hop right into bed with them?
I'm new to this dating site stuff, and already I have had to delete mail from men who weren't really interested in a relationship. Nope, they wanted a quick discreet meeting at some hotel.
Bob, there are men on here and most likely on other date sites, that do the exact same thing you are complaining about. And just in case anyone should ask; No, I am not a cam girl, what ever that is. I probably don't even want to know what it is.
I wonder how many women who use date sites actually meet the men on these things just to find out all he was interested in was going to the nearest hotel?
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