| Jan 12 @ 9:12 AM |
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oct_cat
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I've reactivated my account just for this morning to explain my disappearance last fall & show some appreciation for the owners of this site.
Most of you know I was dating someone from Ripon that I met on here. What you all don't know is that the week I met him, my dad died. My mom, after 60 yrs of living with her husband, was now alone. Since my parents had named me as their representative, it was now my responsibility to handle arrangements, & assist my mom, as well as having to work 2 jobs & having/taking care of my two teens every other week. Being as my mom has never had to handle any financial/business aspects of her household, she leaned heavily on me for help.
As time went on in the relationship with the guy from Ripon, it seemed that the more time we spend together the more it was expected we'd spend together. Being an independent person, I enjoy some time by myself when my kids are with their dad, I also like having some "kidless weekends" to do things with my mom. Pretty soon I was hearing about how we were only spending every other weekend together & a couple of days during the week out of an entire month! (or "that's an average of 8-10 days we're together out of a 30 day period").
When a person is married for 15 or 20 yrs, & is then single, they enjoy their time alone, especially if in the marriage they were a fulltime employee outside the home, the caretaker of the children & of the house. When a person loses a parent they were really close to, they have a newfound appreciation for the living parent, just as they have a new appreciation for being a parent to their children.
My life was, and is, mine. Not to be told how to live, how often to see someone, how much time to spend with a parent or with children. If a person 'outside' pushes too much, I will push back.
Things didn't work out because he wanted more time together in something serious and I wanted to spend more time with my family & with myself. Some here labeled me as being "fickle" & "unstable", but I am just a single parent who realizes the importance of time being spent with family & time spent in solitude.
Since then I have met someone on this site who was known as mrobvious or wiggly. Realizations & expectations, likes & dislikes were all openly discussed between us in the beginning. After 3 1/2 months of spending time together, time alone, living our lives each how we want yet being together how we want, a promising life of togetherness is in the future for us.
I'd like to thank the owners of this site for continuing, even in this terrible economy, to offer a service for both paying & non-paying members. It's a great site for hooking up with potential dates and/or mates. But now it is my time to permanently leave as my man & I continue our relationship in the physical, real, non-cyber world. Good luck & good fortune to everyone in search of added happiness in their life!
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| Jan 12 @ 1:35 PM |
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WSOR
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Best of luck in your future endeavors! 
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| Jan 12 @ 3:11 PM |
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maggiemae684
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I've reactivated my account just for this morning to explain my disappearance last fall & show some appreciation for the owners of this site.
From what I am aware, no one was all that particularily interested in why you left or waiting with baited breath to hear your 'explanation' about it 4 months later.... 
Life goes on....the rest of the world has moved forward since last fall....time for you to as well. On behalf of all of us at MD we wish you well in your endeavors to move forward in life.... 
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| Jan 12 @ 3:41 PM |
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pleasanthethen
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someone forgot to send me memos 
PS,,good fortunes 
PSS,,I'm still here 
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| Jan 12 @ 5:00 PM |
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oct_cat
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From what I am aware, Not everyone can be aware of everything all the time; that's okay maggie, you do the best you can.
the rest of the world has moved forward since last fall....time for you to as well Oh I have moved forward, but thanks for your concern. My trips down memory lane ended last fall. Don't you go worrying about me, I've had my life moving into a positive future since then.Thanks again MD! 
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| Jan 12 @ 5:09 PM |
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pleasanthethen
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can this be about me now?,,me,,me,,me 
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| Jan 12 @ 5:20 PM |
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maggiemae684
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interesting....how the poster has left the building yet again....after snide remarks about other members on here.... 
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| Jan 12 @ 5:22 PM |
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pleasanthethen
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I thought this was a forum for luv ( lust ) connections  
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| Jan 12 @ 8:39 PM |
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ash_is_unforgetable
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If you have moved on my guess would be that you wouldn't be bring this up. Expectually in an open forum if you just wanted to thank MD you could of just did that in an email....
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| Jan 12 @ 9:04 PM |
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pleasanthethen
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I'm sensing tones here 
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| Jan 12 @ 10:51 PM |
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maggiemae684
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ash rocks.... 
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| Jan 13 @ 6:58 PM |
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pleasanthethen
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best date off the dating sites,,anyone with a nice outing? ( I have some )
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| Jun 16 @ 10:06 AM |
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mrobvious444
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 Great thread.......... ... ....
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| Jun 16 @ 10:37 AM |
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oct_cat
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