| Aug 15, 2006 @ 1:02 PM |
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HarleysB_WV
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I'm just curious to know how many other's feel that the mod's are about to do some serious revamping on this site? With all of the blatant disregard for the rules going on in the forums these days, I'm just wondering how much longer MD will allow the forums to continue at all. Please notice that I am not pointing the finger at any individual. I, myself, started a thread that got locked because it broke the rules of this site.
So, how long do you all think the mods are going to let it continue before something serious happens?? Either we end up saying bye bye to the forums altogether, or just bye bye to specific posters??
What do you think??
I hope we don't lose the forums. I enjoy the forums and would hate to see them removed from the site. I'd also miss some of the folks who post on here (even a few I don't agree with).
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| Aug 15, 2006 @ 1:07 PM |
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chinabull2000
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I really don't know what the mods are doing, or are planning to do. All I know is that many people have been warned and banned from this site for far less than what is currently going on in numerous threads. I find it hard to believe that it is a new policy of "tolerance", but have no other suggestions as to what the reason may be.
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| Aug 15, 2006 @ 1:08 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Don`t know what to tell ya...I haven`t paid much attention to the forums or what goes on lately..since I`m in a relationship  and been dating on a regular basis..  they`ll do what they have to do..I guess it doesn`t really matter to me one way or the other... 
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| Aug 15, 2006 @ 1:11 PM |
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kattsmeow
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If they do, can you blame them?
It was done before because of the "sniping", "bashing" and lots of other things.
I do hope if it happens again, they (the Mods) give us time to maybe get a "few" things out of here before they take it away.
We lost alot of good stuff the last time.
Sigh,,,
Not bashing the Mods, just asking if something like this is coming, that some of us have a little "warning". 
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| Aug 15, 2006 @ 1:17 PM |
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HarleysB_WV
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That would be a good idea Katt. I wasn't participating in the forums before they were shut down last time, but I agree, a little warning shot fired across the bows of the forum ship, would indeed be welcomed. I feel like I should hurry up and exchange phone numbers with the folks on here I want to stay in touch with.
Almost feels like the "calm before the storm". And no, I wouldn't blame MD one bit if they shut the forums down. I wouldn't like it, but I'd understand it 100%. Things are getting WAY out of hand.
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| Aug 15, 2006 @ 1:25 PM |
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kattsmeow
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I feel like I should hurry up and exchange phone numbers with the folks on here I want to stay in touch with.
Good idea. Plus e-mail addresses too.
That is how many of us stayed together after the last "good by". I believe a few were lost from then till now, but not many.
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| Aug 15, 2006 @ 1:29 PM |
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Snappygoddess
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What I do not understand is why they would shut the entire forum down... would it not be easier to just ban those who continually bash, insult and start threads that they know will incite arguements? I like reading the forums.. and I know the old rule "If you do not like what's written, do not read them"... but when it's all over the forums it gets rather discouraging to those who are genuinely interested in reading others calm, insightful and rational opinions.
Bashing, insults and immature actions are such a waste of intelligent minds.. *sigh*
Will there be any notice if MD shuts down its forums?
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| Aug 15, 2006 @ 1:31 PM |
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SunBabe
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Generally, forums can be effectively self-moderated if the majority remember the guidelines...until you get that one angry (ultra-defensive) person who ruins it all for everyone else because every little thing has to be taken beyond the nth degree  -- and then the same person, instead of withdrawing gracefully or listening to logical advice, turns everything around to make it everyone else's fault.
Happens in real life, too... unfortunately
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| Aug 15, 2006 @ 1:31 PM |
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Snappygoddess
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Tink... YOU GO GIRL  So happy for you....praying that he works out to be the "one" for you  Can't think of a more deserving lady then you to have a shot at happiness!! HUGS
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| Aug 15, 2006 @ 1:40 PM |
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kinglouis2005
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Snap I dont see a reason to stop forums..just moderate language. Many debates CAN be heated but it is still a debate until someone uses foul language to describe ppl or groups of ppl...or try to insult you, your family or the ppl you associate with. After a while enough IS enough and when ppl keep pushing eventually they push back...
Bullies were best dealt with directly I have found, trying to ignore them didnt work but when I finally rolled up my sleeve and punched them in the mouth they no longer had anything to confront me with.
I wish a mod would carefully look over the forum and in each case indentify the person or persons responsible for certain behavior and attitudes..Look over dates of posts, context and the language of the posts...I think there will be no surprise as to the conclusions.
but I think taking away the forum would hurt the site overall.
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| Aug 15, 2006 @ 1:42 PM |
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littleross
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Sun is right. In "real life", a few negative people can sometimes mess up good things for everyone else also. But it's a shame. I think we all enjoy the forums but it does get so flipping OLD seeing the same people arguing and name calling in every post.......
Maybe the mods could set up a new category called "hate and discontent" and it would be exclusively for those who want to argue and be nasty! 
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| Aug 15, 2006 @ 1:42 PM |
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Jankia
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I dont know about you folks but I wouldnt blame them if they did.
There are few new threads worth spending any time on and and few new members in the forums because of the constant utter nonsense posted by the same people.
Constant...meaning those who try to get there name on every thread and say nothing worth reading.
Its a joke and a waste of time reading from those so hypocritical.
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| Aug 15, 2006 @ 1:52 PM |
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Snappygoddess
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I have always been a firm believer in the fact that you can get your point of view across to others clearly., calmly and intelligently without resorting to anger, bashing and just sometimes being cruel. That doesn't make me afraid to be confrontational... I just honestly do not see the point in posting to some threads. It's just so insane to me... all this anger, hatred and negative emotions.
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| Aug 15, 2006 @ 1:59 PM |
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kattsmeow
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There was a forum in the old days called, 'the Back Alley". Only the "brave" went there.
It was a "venting" type forum. Did not work.
I don't think the Mods will close this down. I do think there will be some problem people given a small time out though.
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| Aug 15, 2006 @ 2:09 PM |
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SunBabe
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Whoops...
Uh, nevermind...I was seeing things this AM
Time to go back to bed 
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| Aug 15, 2006 @ 2:16 PM |
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keeno
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so i have been thinking about this for a while now and talking about it to a friend just last night.
i have been wondering if, would we would be having these same conversations in real life in real time, if we were sitting around a table somewhere. would the same people that argue here be the same ones that would argue there?
i also recognize that many online communications are misunderstood because we can't "see and hear" the poster. i don't post to many threads because of this very thing. i am often misunderstood and people don't take the time to understand my wry and sarcastic sense of humor.
what i have learned about fighting verbally though and is often forgotten here is the use of "I" messages. "what i thought you said was" why don't we take the time to let them rephrase it so that many more would understand where they are coming from?
i do know some people need the drama in their lives, and i imagine that is why they are someones ex. they can't get their point across without raising their voice or getting your attention by calling you names. i also have learned to ignore them and walk away, my point of view will never be understood, valued or respected.
i would also like to thank many of you for brightening my days with your humor, wit, and genuine caring for others.
"some humans aren't human, some humans just aren't kind" john prine
enjoy the day and each other, ken
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| Aug 15, 2006 @ 2:20 PM |
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SunBabe
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i have been wondering if, would we would be having these same conversations in real life in real time, if we were sitting around a table somewhere. would the same people that argue here be the same ones that would argue there?
Yep, some of us
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| Aug 15, 2006 @ 2:23 PM |
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kinglouis2005
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keenos you make a great point however after reading post after post that are designed to insult and demean a person or group of ppl time after time then there is no misunderstanding context...just look over some of the posts on the dating and sex page and you will notice a particular pattern time after time after time.
But then when ppl try to defend themselves, friends or simply argue that streotyping isnt a good thing to do we hear that we have a mob or gang mentality!
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| Aug 15, 2006 @ 2:24 PM |
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chinabull2000
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Yep, some of us LOL yep Sunny, some of us, but I think there are probably plenty of others that feel very "brave" online and say what they wouldn't dare to say in real life.
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| Aug 15, 2006 @ 2:29 PM |
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Jankia
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Yep, some of us
I was wondering if some of you also notice that after time you can tell,whether or not you agree with them or not,theyre honesty.
In reference to what Keeno said,you can still repect someone that disagrees with your opinion because they give an honest one,not one given to just make an impression on the opposite sex or to simply stickup for another member.
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