| Sep 23, 2006 @ 11:28 AM |
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twotall911
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If you found a person your interested in would you travel the distance so they wouldnt have to
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| Sep 23, 2006 @ 12:23 PM |
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Danger
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it depends on how far. if it's the first 'date' i would probably suggest meeting someplace in between the two. like if it is within your state, meet 1/2 way. if its far enough to have to fly...then i think you need to discuss that-but i would say that the man usually either goes or pays for the woman to come there.
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| Sep 23, 2006 @ 1:18 PM |
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Lacey
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In my opinion, it would be wisest for the man to make the first trip. That keeps the woman in her comfort zone and the protection of her friends and family. Let's face it....if a woman wigs out, most men are strong enough to get out of the situation. But if a man wigs out, a woman could be easily overpowered and if she has gone to his domain, she is not familiar with where to find help. But once you meet and feel comfortable with someone, I would say yes...I would make the trip. I had planned on doing that after I met tocools...but ummmm...he moved out here before I had the chance! hehehe 
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| Sep 23, 2006 @ 1:27 PM |
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grumblebear
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no.... distance is no longer an option....
I've been online for over 10 years.... I've spent thousands flying, only to find out that in person chemistry was all that mattered... that the chemistry felt online is fake... all an illusion... that it will not survive the in person meeting...
there is such a small percentage of success online, That is why I quit, For everyone who succeeded I wish congrats to them, but there are thousands of failures for each success...
I've lost count of the hundreds of people who I've met, thought I was at least friends with and "poof", after meeting.... never hear from them ever again...
if people are beyond a pleasant drive, its not worth it...
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| Sep 23, 2006 @ 1:28 PM |
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Silvertongue62
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Yepp!
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| Sep 23, 2006 @ 1:32 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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I'm pretty much with Grumble on this. It gets really old even when there's no travelling involved...one date wonders, or fifty first dates gets pretty tiresome. The thought of travelling any distance, unless there's another reason behind it, just makes no sense to me. Building a relationship is tough to do even if you're relatively near each other...meshing schedules can be a challenge at best. As Bear said, thousands of congratulations to those who've succeeded, but I think that's something like winning the lottery!
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| Sep 23, 2006 @ 2:01 PM |
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mogrl1000
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I have in the past and it lasted for 3 years but i wouldn`t do it again.45 min drive at the most is my limit now.
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| Sep 23, 2006 @ 2:15 PM |
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lacyvsq
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I have and I would, but I will always have a backup plan.
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| Sep 23, 2006 @ 2:23 PM |
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kattsmeow
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Well, of course.
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| Sep 23, 2006 @ 2:27 PM |
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Ladyhawk920
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I have and it lasted a few years but sometimes think it was all in vain. I don't do the long distance thing anymore and tend to look more within a reasonable distance. I do know some people that get my curiousity up and I have known them for YEARS....but have not gone to see them or had the courage to just go. Now, it's the friendship that would send me than romance but that's how a good romance starts right? lol. For a woman, we also have to feel "safe" with that person and it takes time to build on that before venturing out into unknown territory. Yes, it's better if they come to see you first.... 
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| Sep 23, 2006 @ 5:19 PM |
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Silvertongue62
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For a woman, we also have to feel "safe" with that person and it takes time to build on that before venturing out into unknown territory. Yes, it's better if they come to see you first....
Just tell them to send you a round trip ticket so you have the freedom to leave whenever you like.
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| Sep 23, 2006 @ 5:23 PM |
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Lacey
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I disagree that online dating success is rare! I have met a whole lot of people who are now in a wonderful relationship with someone they met online. I think it depends on how you go about it. I met people on the message boards and we all talked for quite some time before a meeting ever came about. Some of my very best friends were people I met through message boards and we've been friends for 6 or 7 years now. If I were still single, there would be no way I'd give up on meeting people from online. It opens up an avenue that you don't have, if you just depend on meeting people by random out there in the world.
I suggest organizing a gathering of people in or near your areas and meet that way. It has been very successful in my immediate group of friends. 
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| Sep 23, 2006 @ 5:38 PM |
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kattsmeow
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You said it Lacey! 
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| Sep 23, 2006 @ 5:59 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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If you found someone would you travel the distance to see
Yup..cause the distance is only 30 miles.. 
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| Sep 23, 2006 @ 6:13 PM |
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Jankia
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I see it this way in online dating and traveling far to meet.Because I am apparent in my profile of my not being willing to move from where I live and knowing thats kind of self-centered I dont initial contact with anyone.
If someone contacts me knowing that about me it tells me they are not afraid of traveling or moving if it worked out so it would be logical for them to travel to see where I live first.
If I'm impressed with them after they made that initial contact,I also wouldnt have any problem traveling to meet them first.
Within North America. 
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| Sep 23, 2006 @ 6:40 PM |
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candylily
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If I had been able to get out of my marriage civilly and had stayed in my house or at least in the town I had grown up in close to all my family, then I probably wouldn't see any point in meeting anyone who lived far away unless that person was willing to relocate. As it is, I'm living in an apartment, I only know the people here that I've met at work or who have the same interests as I do. I like living here, but I really have nothing to keep me here if I wanted to leave. I don't own any property and I have no family or close friends in town. As long as I have enough money to buy a plane ticket to visit my family as often as I want, then I'm free to go anywhere I want. I'm starting from scratch anyway, so the distance isn't much of an issue for me. I could relocate very easily so I'm willing to go meet someone half-way or fly to meet him if I'm really interested. I like going to new places and taking little mini-vacations and I know that I can be perfectly happy just going places and doing thing with someone I like as a person even if it turns out there's no romantic interest. Yes, there are risks as my mother always reminds me, but I'm not all that concerned about it. I've always gotten in my car with just my kids when they were at home and drove as many miles as it took just to go someplace we wanted to visit. It's not a new thing for me.
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| Sep 23, 2006 @ 7:14 PM |
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littleross
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I once moved from WV to WY for someone. It lasted 6 years, and I can't say I regret it..... Would I do it again? Very very slim chance - maybe in another 10 - 15 years! 
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| Sep 23, 2006 @ 7:51 PM |
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ServantOfChrist2
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Okay, now I don't get scads of messages like you all do.
Perhaps that's why I attach a fair amount of value to the messages I do get.
(And I am not putting anybody else down here. I'm the one who ends-up scarin' potential romance away with my almost-unharnessed Christian speaking.)
And while I often get pretty worked-up about a message from a woman who's comin'-on-to-me-a-little, I don't have the financial resources to go too much farther than downtown Toronto to meet her.
Do you think this might be one way God's sheltering me???
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| Aug 21, 2008 @ 10:35 PM |
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KlassyKasmirLady
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I would fly all the way around the World If He & I felt we had chemistry.
Distance means nothing to me..But, when you live in Land of Sunshine AZ
I could not/would not relocate back east unles we kept both homes. Winter
here
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| Aug 21, 2008 @ 10:45 PM |
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Loreli
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 It would have to be a shared exoenditure...I cannot afford a lot of travel!
welcome KKL
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