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ZoeWaltz
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Anyone here ever been suicidal? How'd you "recover"?
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| Sep 30, 2006 @ 2:48 PM |
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robodad
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When I was a wee little lad, my sister threatened to kill me if I looked in her diary...I took a chance.....I recovered 
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| Sep 30, 2006 @ 3:03 PM |
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sissycat411
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You draw determination and strength from within yourself and vow to not let anyone get you that far down again.....chuckle....why leave this earth and do them the favor of your absence....when you can stay around....build a great life for yourself and show your strength.........with suicide...its all over.....there is no changing your mind or enjoying a beautiful life you can build for yourself.....
Working to understand yourself, what makes you happy, why and how you tick....give you great insight as to what you need to do for your future happiness.
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| Sep 30, 2006 @ 3:10 PM |
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wiccked
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this is one thread i will not put the little icons on every sentence like i usually do---i appear to be a very happy go lucky person but the truth is.....there is not one day that goes by that i dont have a thought about death- it used to not be that way, but since no one really knows what goes on in a persons life, i will only tell you that i used to be happy at one time- now, i just try and get through each day - this forum has really been a Godsend- i have talked with many people about all subjects, except this one- so, now i am getting back to the business of being funny- people like me better that way!!!!
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| Sep 30, 2006 @ 3:28 PM |
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sweet5red
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i believe that people that do that have really no idea how much that hurts those that are left behind,, MY own mom took her life over 24 years ago and my daughter was 2 years old.. and my son never got the chance to know her.,. he was born when my daughter was 5.. hes 21 now..each january is a little easier to get thru now.. it took a alot of healing.. Sweet N Louisiana
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| Sep 30, 2006 @ 3:40 PM |
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definitelydi
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Unlike the majority of the psychological community, I think that random thoughts of suicide are not cause for alarm. However, when that thought becomes more than random, then there is cause for concern.
A lot of people view suicide as being the "chicken sh!t" way out. That couldn't be further from the truth. Imagine the courage it takes to go through with it. Now, imagine using that same courage to make it through another day. Sometimes we go through periods in our lives when it seems like that's all we're doing...just making it through.
As for "recovery," I've found a couple close friends to talk with makes all the difference. Sometimes, my "real life" friends just can't be there (physically) for me and that's when I turn to my online friends. Just knowing that someone is hearing me helps me to put things into perspective.
Yep, this all kinda seems cliche when I read over it, but living one day at a time is the only real advice I can give. It does work.
Feel free to email, Zoe.
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| Sep 30, 2006 @ 5:55 PM |
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twotall911
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From a personal view, as being from past and being the way i was by society years ago i had seriously thought about it because of the things that had happened..i was in the hospital for plumbing repairs and had asked my son to go home and get my 45 so i could terminate when i said that he started to cry and said dad we need you so much from that day forward its been a long trip within myself been to shrinks long time ago and of course they all said your just another crazy vet so i picked some one in my family to talk to it was my mom she died last dec best friend i ever had and the parts i didnt want her to know about the next best friends i had were my pets
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| Sep 30, 2006 @ 9:01 PM |
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Earl47
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I have known two people that actually did this to themselves, although AJ, which was in his 70's was suffering horribly physically for years, maybe it was un bearable, i do not know. And another man, i met buying car parts back in the early 70's, i was informed in the mid 80's he shot himself, i wondered why?? As he was a happy and level headed good person, so again, not sure.
I have known people become so upset, i feared they may choose that route, and that is one reason, i think people should realize we all, need to provide and give Moral support to others every chance we get, even if it's somethig as simple as HEY, i love your shirt you're wearing today, or, Hey, great to see you!! I always every chance i get, i try to say something positive to all people i am around, you would be surprised, simple statements such as, wow, i love the blouse you have on Ma'am, or mister, nice suit, it adds up to making people feel needed....Earl
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| Sep 30, 2006 @ 9:15 PM |
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SunBabe
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it adds up to making people feel needed....Earl
Earl, being "needed" is the least of it. Sometimes (much of the time) it's even the burden.
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| Sep 30, 2006 @ 9:19 PM |
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jamminjerry
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i figure being suicidal is like any crutch. alcohol, drugs, even cigs. if you were, you will always be. the logic i came up with is that if there is an afterlife, I wouldn't want to tak the chance of screwing it up. and, if there ain't, i ain't lost a thing.  to simplify: me and God had a chat, funny thing though, i wound up doing most of the talking. all God say was "its your decision", of course i am still suicidal LOL whats cool is i have found a loophole! " no greater gift can a man give than his life for his friends". bummer!!! Terrice lives in Raleigh N C and Leslie lives in Statesville N C 
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| Sep 30, 2006 @ 9:20 PM |
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Empath
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Help lines got me through the moment when there was no one immediately available. My doctor is a great man, and he talked to me for three hours one morning...that morning opened many doors for me. Since then, I have built a moral support network.
Now, when I have low days, I pull inside myself....I seek my place of 'inner peace' and focus on it and the pleasureable feelings it gives.
You are never alone, Zoe, no matter how bad you feel...you are NEVER alone.
Feel free to email me as well.
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| Sep 30, 2006 @ 9:34 PM |
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luvshorses644
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I agree with Di .. suicide is not the "chicken sh_t way out". But for those that have not felt that black hole in life consume them, it is hard for them to understand how someone could feel so desparate to seek ending their life. I found that finding a great counselor.. one that you trust implicitly with all of the issues you face, helps, even more so is finding a purpose, a reason, to know that you have self-worth, self-dignity, and that you will have the strength necessary to face the battles and come thru the other side by communicating with those you trust ..
Friends can help you see past the black hole and bring some light back to you to warm the chill that your body takes on.
With the inception of a circle of friends, it will also provide a sounding board and a different way of approaching a problem and even give you new solutions that you may not have thought of.
"Recovery" to me from my depression was finding some quiet and beautiful place to take pictures, to watch how life happens all around us. To witness the birth of a new calf, horse, goat.. to watch a hummingbird flitting about gathering energy. Life is all around us, it helps to know that there are things that we can still appreciate, even if they are small things like the smell of freshly mowed grass, the way the sun is hitting on beautiful flowers, the bees that buzz by. Embrace who you are, a unique and special person that has a journey on this planet...a journey to becoming who you long to be..
Reach out to your friends, and trust me, they will be more than happy to reach out back to you. We all pick each other up every now and then ..
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| Sep 30, 2006 @ 9:40 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Yep, even went so far as to grab a razor and start slashing. Strange feeling...it wasn't a decision, wasn't even me doing it...I was watching me do it, with no more control over what I was doing than I had over my heartbeat.
Sweet...I don't know if it was like that for your mom, and I'm so sorry you went through that. I was lucky, a friend actually realized what was happening and broke down the door to stop me. The strangest part to me is that I've never felt the slightest urge to do it again, and things actually got worse before they got better. It was some time later that I had my own 'conversation with God'...and like JJ, I did most of the talking too. Funny thing though, most people seem to feel that God will help them through things...I never had that feeling, not even then. What I felt though was a kind of warmly amused feeling...kind of laughing at me, but affectionately...saying what do you mean, you don't think you can handle this? You're talking to me, remember? And you'd better be able to handle it, because there's worse still to come...and that was the truth but I never again doubted that I'd be able to do what had to be done.
Zoe - anytime you need to talk, or vent, or cry...feel free.
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| Sep 30, 2006 @ 11:32 PM |
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warrior674
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I agree with Di too, and I don't believe people kill themselves because they don't care about anyone else. They do it because they just want to stop hurting. I have had depression since I was a little kid. When I get depressed I think about it from time to time. I was even hospitalized for about ten days because of my depression.
I can just go on one step at a time with help from doctors, meds, friends and family. I have even started liking myself more. Just one step at a time.
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| Sep 30, 2006 @ 11:51 PM |
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SunBabe
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Sometimes they do it because they care about everyone else more than anything....
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| Oct 1, 2006 @ 3:01 AM |
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Dovestreasure
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This a subject very close to my heart at the moment. A friends nineteen year old son took his own life this week. His mom came home from work and found him hanging in their garage. I spent most of the day yesterday at the funeral home with his family. . I do not think I will ever forget the anguish and pain his family are feeling. He did not leave a note . What ever caused him to be that despondent might never be known. He was cremated today. My heart breaks for his family. 
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| Oct 1, 2006 @ 3:42 AM |
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robodad
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They had a program on this on the Discovery Channel some years back.
Men attempt suicide because they can't think of anything else to solve their problem(s). Women attempt it to stop the pain.
Men attempt suicide more often than women. Women tend to be more successful at it than men.
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| Oct 1, 2006 @ 7:50 PM |
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waiting41
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Imagine the courage it takes to go through with it.
Geeeez! Are we talking about suicide bombers for Al Quida here or what? Suicide is what what does when they are so f*cking depressed they have given up all hope of things getting better! So they can't face life anymore and kill themselves leaving behind a whole trail of broken hearts and friends and family feeling guilty for not having stopped the person! You call that courageous! Oh yeah! That's courage all right! If anyone is feeling suicidal...seek professional help immediately. A combination of proper therapy and medications can help you. This too shall pass, but puleeeeezzzz...don't do the COURAGEOUS thing and take your own life! It will get better!
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| Oct 1, 2006 @ 8:09 PM |
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uab_5
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[edditted]Robodad, you got it backwards. More men successfully attempt suicide, where as women try more.
I've tried several times. In 2004, while manic, I OD'd on benedryl in oder to control my wife. The bitch left me and I got massively depressed and any minute suicidal to the point that I earned myself another 18 day stay at the country club.
After that, I learned that I needed to take care of myself first and foremost. The ex never gave a rats butt over me, so why was I willing to take my own life for her?
If you need help, DON"T BE ASHAMED TO DIAL 911. Better a patient in a hospital than a cadaver in anatomy lab.
The psych doctors are real good. They'll load you up wil anti-depressants and possible a mood stablizer. The one-on-one a LCSW can give will be greatly beneficial.
I participate on NAMI's forums. Please join us there if you need to talk to someone.
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| Oct 1, 2006 @ 8:12 PM |
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SunBabe
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Geeeez! Are we talking about suicide bombers for Al Quida here or what? Suicide is what what does when they are so f*cking depressed they have given up all hope of things getting better! So they can't face life anymore and kill themselves leaving behind a whole trail of broken hearts and friends and family feeling guilty for not having stopped the person! You call that courageous! Oh yeah! That's courage all right! If anyone is feeling suicidal...seek professional help immediately. A combination of proper therapy and medications can help you. This too shall pass, but puleeeeezzzz...don't do the COURAGEOUS thing and take your own life! It will get better!
That's all well and good IF it's depression. MANY times it's NOT.
...and that's all I'm going to say on the subject.
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