| Oct 25, 2006 @ 6:49 PM |
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torees121
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How do you know if someone you are dating has a drinking problem? Not necessarily an alcoholic but just drinks too much or more than "normal"?
Thanks!
Victoria
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| Oct 25, 2006 @ 6:53 PM |
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robodad
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What's normal? One a day? Twice a week?
I never touched a drop while on Tour (very dry Camp). I'm on vacation now and I've had quite a few, but haven't been drunk yet.
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| Oct 25, 2006 @ 7:15 PM |
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twotall911
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ok take away my rights,take away most things but nobody and i mean nobody will take away my coffee
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| Oct 25, 2006 @ 7:22 PM |
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spongebob777
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Hey Tor, ya been hiding from us.
In my opinion, anyone who drinks every day probably has a drinking problem. If they get drunk every day they do have a drinking problem. In fact if they get drunk every weekend I would suspect a drinking problem. However there are also guys who drink a single beer just about every day that I don't consider to be problem drinkers. Those are the guys who come home from work, have dinner then spend an hour nursing a single beer before bed.
It's something I know plenty about because I had a drinking problem and have managed to whip it. In my case I drank to get drunk every day. I started out just drinking on the weekends but always drank to get drunk.
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| Oct 25, 2006 @ 8:04 PM |
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Tenacity1
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 I drink most every weekend...what? Wine is good for your soul pretty good for my smiler too!
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| Oct 25, 2006 @ 8:29 PM |
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carpediem48
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Doesn't matter,,,how much ....how long...where or why
you drink
If you wan't to stop and can't 
u have a problem.
If you 'don't' want to stop and can't
u have a problem
On the other hand...try to tell ''me'' I can't have wine when I
dine out in a restaurant.... 
and you'll ''definitely'' have a problem 
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| Oct 25, 2006 @ 8:31 PM |
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violette1967
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He never has that minty fresh breath?
Ignores dates, is always late, has a red tinge around his nose.....???
Is hiding bottles? Is hiding his drinking from you!
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| Oct 25, 2006 @ 9:04 PM |
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irish20835
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Trust me if you suspect there is a problem ...then there is ...there is no fine line between a alcoholic and a normal drinker...i have a few years recovery if ya need some advise or have any questions feel free to drop me a mail
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| Oct 25, 2006 @ 10:01 PM |
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uab_5
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There are two types of drinkers in the world: those who can and those who shouldn't.
I'm a self medicator: one beer turns into a case in minutes, and often a crying fit. I'll go long periods without alcohol, but once I start, I'm out for the night. 
I'm of the later.
Plus, given my medical issues, I shouldn't drink any way.
I know people that start the day with a mimosa or bloody Mary, have a three martini lunch, and finish the day with a pint of bourbon. 
They can't exist without booze. They, too, are of the later type.
I've seen first hand the withdrawal from heavy drinking and it's aweful. MD's have to step alcoholics down with benzos so the cramping doesn't kill them.
Here's a website for you to read about an Alcoholic in your life
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| Oct 26, 2006 @ 12:46 AM |
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T_i_m
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They call you up on the phone rather frequently
and so drunk you can't understand half of what they are "hic". . .
they are "hic". . .
they are "hic". . .
they're saying.
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| Oct 26, 2006 @ 3:16 AM |
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carpediem48
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Is a ''problem'' drinker someone with a 'negative' attitude
Can't walk away from a glass that's ''half'' full.???? 
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| Oct 26, 2006 @ 5:15 AM |
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countryboy69995
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hmm. The last fishing trip I was on we were doing an indian dance around the camp fire. The next morning I woke up with my legs in the lake. Everyone thought it was funny but ya know my tootsies were mighty cold. I probably survived from frost bight from the alcohol going through my veins. Problem not shure. I went swimming any way that day. Go figure.
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| Oct 26, 2006 @ 5:36 AM |
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Danger
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i would have to agree with irish...too much drinking in his eyes may be not being able to stand up...and in your eyes if he has a few too many a few too often...
you are the best judge on that and use your gut feeling...he may not see it as a 'problem' but would always be one if the two of you stay together. 
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| Oct 26, 2006 @ 5:47 AM |
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Earl47
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Here is one way that is going to sound stupid, but i have found to be so true since 1968 until one month ago from one person such as my Ex Wifes Mother...They tend to call at 11 pm or 1am, and don't usually comply with the manneristic manner of do not call people after 8 PM, unless something is pre planned..
Big Give away,,,Their Voice, i must be talented or gifted, because i can tell when a person has been drinking from their voice!!
Men, that have drinking problems, now tis is serious, their chest sweats and underarms permeat an odor
Women, when they drink, the pupils and eyes droop, also you talk, but they say oh whats up tomorrow, and you stop and silently think, wait, didn't they hear what i said?? Why did they switch subjects are not notice two sentences i just said??
Smell in their car, Body odor from booze oily sweat permeats an un likeable odor!!!
They are Needed to cool off, even though you are cold enough to wear a sweater, they breath panting like breaths every so often, like phew, because they are needing colder air..
But myself, i guess it was because i was raised around my sisters anf all their friends drinking, folks i know all the signs, they also when they turn their head to look at you, their chin drops a tad, and the look upward sort of while in a chair..
I want you all to know, none of this is jokes, i'm 100% serious on everything i just said!!.....Earl
PS, i forgot opne big clue,they will avoid eating at regular times, but if they do, they suddenly yawn??? Un huh!!!...Again 100% serious here...Earl
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| Oct 26, 2006 @ 6:15 AM |
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Danger
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omg! i yawn ALLLLLL the time! seriously-but it isn't from drinking! it's my nerves. when i get nervous i yawn...should have seen me at my wedding...lol
ok, maybe i am just drunk and i am not nervous...coooool, did i save alot on the price of buying all that liquor...a 'nervous drunk'.... 
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| Oct 26, 2006 @ 6:33 AM |
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TangledUpinBlues
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Do yourself a favor torees121, do not waste your time with a heavy drinker, it is nothing but a circle of nonsense and endless merry-go-round and the guy enjoys his liquor more than the company he is with and the words that fall out of his mouth usually are worthless. A man who drinks alot will tell you whatever you want to hear and means none of it. A man or woman who drinks alot has ISSUES anyways. You seem to be a very nice person and please do spare yourself the endless heartache. A person who has a drinking problem may have a problem just with one drink, and it is worse with many, or even just one drink once in a year and all goes awry. When it alters the behavior when they ingest it, it is a problem as alcohol is a mood altering drug. In the end it is a thinking problem and the drinking just lights it up and no good can come from it. Just my opinion, but have seen too much of this type of person, men and women alike and war stories.
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| Oct 26, 2006 @ 6:58 AM |
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HarleysB_WV
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I was raised by alcoholic parents. I've divorced two alcoholics and ran away from two others. If there's anything I know at this point in my life, it's how to spot the one with the drinking problem. It doesn't take me long. Can even tell you what they're booze of choice is just by smelling their breath. Ick!
When everything they do revolves around an alcholic beverage, there IS a problem. If they borrow money to pay bills, but still have alcohol in the house, or go out to have a drink, there IS a problem. When household chores are not getting done because they're too busy getting a drink, there IS a problem. For some people it's not quite that obvious, but those are some general targets to look for. Most people with a drinking problem won't readily admit to it, so thats sometimes a good indicator as well. Best thing to do is make some really nasty negative comment about alcohol right off the bat and guage their reaction. That should tell ya pretty much what ya need to know!
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| Oct 26, 2006 @ 10:53 AM |
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torees121
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Thank you all for your comments. I had met a wonderful person that at first treated me great. Now after 4 months I felt he had a drinking problem. We fought about his drinking ALL the time. I even had to make rules such as no more than 2 beers a day. If I said two then he would agree but have 3-4 instead. I caught him sippy from an old bottle of wine I had in the fridge. I had said NO alcohol in my house unless I bought it. We did have some wine a couple of weeks ago. I hated having to be forced to make alcohol rules in my own house. He moved in with his parents due to having NO money but yes he did have money for alcohol. He planned our activities around places that served alcohol. He stated he couldn't go on a walk on the riverfront with me because a bar was across the street. He had 4 mixed drinks in 45 minutes waiting on me to arrive at a restaurant. Then tried to HIDE the bill so I wouldn't know he had that much.
Thanks again for all the help! I do not hardly ever drink. Maybe wine occassionally. He made me second guess my instinct that he had a problem. We are now broken up and he says I need therapy because I have a problem dealing with someone that drinks..lol That says it all!
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| Oct 26, 2006 @ 2:07 PM |
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SunBabe
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Well then I need that same therapy because I have the same problem with drinkers.
I had one experience getting serious with someone like that and decided that my life was far to valuable to waste dealing with it. Besides the alcohol, it was the "backgraound issues"...nope, never again!
"Social drinking" is something completely different. That's what I'm comfortable with (a take it or leave it thing) but I'll never get involved with someone who NEEDS a drink.  ...my famous line: "It's MY life, too,"
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| Oct 26, 2006 @ 2:12 PM |
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uab_5
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We all have issues.
The 12 Steps are a great way to alleviate the pain of those issues.
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