| Jan 21, 2007 @ 11:34 AM |
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GJAX57
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Do any of you think that if a man hasn't set eyes on his daughter in 28 years, will he ever want to? he just turned 50...thank you for your responses!! 
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| Jan 21, 2007 @ 11:35 AM |
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chinabull2000
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It depends on the circumstances, but in my opinion, he should have moved heaven and earth to make sure he saw her years ago!!
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| Jan 21, 2007 @ 11:36 AM |
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winterrenegade
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only time can tall that one, my father didn't set eyes on me for years, then one day out of the blue, he did, and we are best friends too this day
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| Jan 21, 2007 @ 11:39 AM |
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Angel178
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As people get older, their family values change. It's possible that he would want to contact her.
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| Jan 21, 2007 @ 11:48 AM |
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GJAX57
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It depends on the circumstances, but in my opinion, he should have moved heaven and earth to make sure he saw her years ago!!
China, don't take this the wrong way please, but for having such a mean/tough look, you sure are a compassionate person, I like that!!...i'm sorry, I just like to tell it like I see it. nice to meet you! 
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| Jan 21, 2007 @ 11:53 AM |
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GJAX57
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only time can tall that one, my father didn't set eyes on me for years, then one day out of the blue, he did, and we are best friends too this day
thank you Winter, that gives me a lot of hope!!...I'm sooo happy for you!!  hehe
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| Jan 21, 2007 @ 12:01 PM |
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Angel178
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China may look tough, but he's just a big Teddy Bear  
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| Jan 21, 2007 @ 12:05 PM |
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wiccked
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china- mean?? tough??? no way 
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| Jan 21, 2007 @ 12:10 PM |
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PullMyFinger
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A man that doesn't love his children or shows no interest in them is no man in my book...
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| Jan 21, 2007 @ 12:14 PM |
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Laidback742
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From personal experience, I haven't seen min in nearly 25 years, and have no desire to. I have no idea where he is or what his wishes are. To me, he is nothing, harsh as that sounds. He made his bed, as the saying goes.
I have a twin sister, and we've never really discussed it ( she hasn't seen him either ), but I think her opinions are close to mine.
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| Jan 21, 2007 @ 12:21 PM |
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GJAX57
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A man that doesn't love his children or shows no interest in them is no man in my book...
Pullmyfinger, damn its sooo hard to be serious with that name..lollol......But thanks Hun for saying that, for some strange reason that makes me feel good to hear that!! hmm does that make sense?
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| Jan 21, 2007 @ 12:24 PM |
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luvmycats
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Laid, just made a very good point. I haven't seen my "sperm donor" for many years either and have no desire to ever see him again.
A lot depends on why he stopped seeing his child. If, for example the mother took the child far away and he didn't know where said child was, and the mother poisioned the childs mind against the father, then he should have been working on fixing things.
It being over 28 years though, he has NO excuse for not seeing her. In my eyes both as a child of a worthless slug, and as a mother. He is a scum bag!
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| Jan 21, 2007 @ 1:18 PM |
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swingpup
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There are situations where an absent father/mother for that matter of years would enjoy seeing a child. There many be a magnitude of reasons why the parent hasn't made the first move to do so.
If an adult child is interested in seeing a parent a suggestion may include either contacting that parent personally or ask a neutral entity to intervene to ask the parent that question "would you like to see ##########?"
Right or wrong there are many reasons why a parent may not have seen/talked with a child for 10-20 or more years. 
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| Jan 21, 2007 @ 3:04 PM |
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GJAX57
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Right or wrong there are many reasons why a parent may not have seen/talked with a child for 10-20 or more years
besides being in prison or dead, what other reasons are there a man has not laid eyes on or ever talked to his daughter? 
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| Jan 21, 2007 @ 3:39 PM |
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RareQuestor
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besides being in prison or dead, what other reasons are there a man has not laid eyes on or ever talked to his daughter?
Should we assume that he even knew that he had a daughter or son?
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| Jan 21, 2007 @ 3:59 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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I never face to face met my dad...I met my aunt and kept in touch with her... she used to ask me to send extra pics cause my dad would steal the ones I sent to her.. I stopped doing that about age 13 or so... I mean WTF for?? so he could SHOW OFF a daughter he didint even call?? SCREW THAT!!!... when my Mom went back to MI in 85 to visit she just HAPPENED to be there when he passsed ... do I feel bad?? how could I?? I never knew the man... and since I was the little dark secret in the family (my half sister didint know I existed till just before my aunt died in 94) I really have no feelings either way.. the MAN (note the big letters) who was my surrogate father (my brother in law Clair) just passed this MAY and I have cried more tears for that man than I have EVER cried in my life for ANY man .. ya see REAL fathers (or father figures) are the ones who are THERE not the sperm donors as LUVS put it!!
Maybe your daughter could contact him ONCE !!! but if he doesnt respond or care t o see her she should MOVE on and leave the loser in the dust... JMHO Huggs to you and your daughter i KNOW how hard it is believe me
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| Jan 21, 2007 @ 4:43 PM |
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GJAX57
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Should we assume that he even knew that he had a daughter or son?
yes you can assume that..he knows shes his daughter to, but denies the fact, it took me 25 years to collect child support from him. now would you pay back child support if you really thought the child wasn't yours? 
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| Jan 21, 2007 @ 5:01 PM |
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GJAX57
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Maybe your daughter could contact him ONCE !!! but if he doesnt respond or care t o see her she should MOVE on and leave the loser in the dust... JMHO Huggs to you and your daughter i KNOW how hard it is believe me
Becky she met her half brother and talked to her other one and they both accept her as their sister, they both told her shes not missing anything with their father, it hurts her tho the fact that he acknowledges his 2 sons and not her. we were both 19 when we got married and we had her at 21, he decided the grass was greener on the other side and left, my daughter cant understand what our problems had to do with him being her father, I say father because to me, anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad...Hugs back at you Becky and thank you for your post!! 
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| Jan 21, 2007 @ 6:33 PM |
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luneib
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Yes, I think it is possible, people as they age begin to regret things, I think it takes maturity to realize what you are and have been missing in your life.
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| Jan 21, 2007 @ 8:30 PM |
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swingpup
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now would you pay back child support if you really thought the child wasn't yours?
I would strongly suggest to any client that it might be a good idea to pay if in fact a blood test or DNA test was conclusive and it was court ordered. Contempt can be mess and extremely inconvenient issue to deal with.
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