| Mar 21, 2007 @ 1:53 AM |
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Always_Striving
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I was thinking about this 90 year old woman that my mom and brother periodically care for during the week in her home. All of her children and relatives have died or been killed ( except for 2 nephews). I am wondering what give this old lady spirit to live. My mother thinks that it is her cats. She has 9 of them.
I met her a few times and did some electrical work on her house for basically nothing so that a tenant could move into the basement apartment and help pay her bills (cat food, etc....), My mother had me drive one of her sick cats to the vet as a favor the last time I visited my parents place ....sheeeze  .
She's living day to day on her powerful meds and on oxygen and really can't even stand for more than 10 seconds. She does have other people looking after her as well, it's a 24/7 hr. job. It's very sad and hard for me to see this, especially since my family has turned it into their personal project. I was wondering if my brother is doing this just to get into her will since she has no survivors. Maybe not, he claims he is doing it out of goodness but she still pays him $50.00 per day...... I don't know???
What would life be like if she lived in a convalescent community without her cats and out of her home?
Would she be dead by now?
How do you think your life would be if you were 90 years old and the last survivor of your family and confined to a wheelchair and oxygen? Would you want to go on? Would daily life be torture being alone?
I wonder what her life would be like if no one looked after her. 
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| Mar 21, 2007 @ 2:02 AM |
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willsmalto
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that sounds like hell on earth
was wondering if my brother is doing this just to get into her will since she has no survivors
he's got it all figured out up front 
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| Mar 21, 2007 @ 2:05 AM |
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SunBabe
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Since my father's pretty much at that stage and age (without the oxygen and he drives a scooter), I can understand her need for independence (even though she's actually quite dependent). I'm sure her cats are her incentive for staying alive...as well as some inner voice that tells her "just one more day".
Me, I'd rather die living than just existing...whether I had relatives or not.
...and taking her on as a family "project" is cool. I feel so bad for the ones who can't afford the $50-$200+/day to be able to stay in their own home.
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| Mar 21, 2007 @ 2:19 AM |
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Always_Striving
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The woman made me feel awkward when she asked me if I would adopt one of her cats when she dies. She told my mom that her biggest worry these days is that when she dies she believes her cats will go to the pound and be put to sleep.
She has always loved cats and dogs and has an illegal pet cemetary in her back yard for the ones that have died over the years. She has lived in that house forever and has a 1970's year car in her driveway that has been on the road in years. She also has her family memorabilia, photos, etc.... shame to think that she hung on to it so that her family history might be just thown in a portable dumpster someday.
I imagine it's painful to think those things, if that's how she feels.
Maybe that's just the way life is supposed to be when you get old.
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| Mar 21, 2007 @ 2:22 AM |
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Shortiaintlying
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i got to die alone,
i dont want anyone to miss me so yall got to go first
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| Mar 21, 2007 @ 2:59 AM |
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1cebit2iceshy
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maybe there is a rainbow bridge for people to wait for their pets..
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| Mar 21, 2007 @ 5:52 AM |
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twotall911
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hope so, thats all ive got
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| Mar 21, 2007 @ 6:59 AM |
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ToucherinSparks
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It doesn't matter how many friends/family you have, everyone dies alone.
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| Mar 21, 2007 @ 7:21 AM |
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lell
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Ive told all my friends and family, if i ever lose control of my faculties be it mental or physical to let me die, I would never want to be a burden on anyone else. I want to die with dignity!! Then every one can have a big party on me and celebrate my life and not my death  I want them all to be there so I can watch them as I float out of the room and hear what they never dared say while I was around 
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| Mar 21, 2007 @ 11:28 AM |
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beckyiv42000
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After watching and helping care for my brother in law die from cancer last year im not sure I want anything more than to die QUICKLY but with just enough time to tell everyone i love how much i love them... Im actually a big chicken and would want someone to hold me as i passed but wouldnt want anyone to suffer just for my need to be held...so yep quick dont have to be especially painless but quick so that no one has to fuss over me or suffer by watching me die 
but until that time i dont wanna be dependant on anyone except for love ...
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| Mar 21, 2007 @ 11:37 AM |
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Blondino
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There should be a "Final Cocktail " you could take before too much indignity and suffering.
As its my life and my body I want to be able to decide when it dies .. and I prefer not to die alone but there are people waiting for me ...... not too bothered
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| Mar 21, 2007 @ 11:42 AM |
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willsmalto
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what Touch said is kinda funny but true
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| Mar 21, 2007 @ 12:01 PM |
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MusicMonster
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Striving this may be contraversial, but I am with Blondino all the way. And SunBabe too.
I wouldn't want to live in that condition at all. That's extremely unfortunate. Let me go painlessly with dignity and self respect. Not in any way pitiful or dependent on anyone.
And I have always believed the cocktail idea is how it should be, at least as an option. I've always felt people should have the right to dignity in death as well as life, and that they should be able to make their own decisions about their final departure, including when and how, if they so choose. It's not something to be dictated by others. ESPECIALLY physicians or the courts. .
I would roll over in my grave if I ever went through something like the Terry Shaivo case. That would be an absolute horror story.
-MM
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| Mar 21, 2007 @ 12:48 PM |
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Blondino
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Happy Hour ... buy one Terminal Cocktail get one free....
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| Mar 21, 2007 @ 1:23 PM |
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sweet5red
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nope i dont wanna..
death and dying is something i dread
i wanna die smiling and  in the bed.. Sweet N Louisiana ( bad girl lol )    
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| Mar 21, 2007 @ 1:31 PM |
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lj450
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Mr ak47 all but assures me that I will never die.......alone.
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| Mar 21, 2007 @ 1:43 PM |
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Blondino
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when I start to wet the bed .. I know its time for that old cocktail
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| Mar 21, 2007 @ 1:46 PM |
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lj450
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Oh dont talk that way......I love a woman who can soak the sheets down.
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| Mar 21, 2007 @ 1:49 PM |
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MusicMonster
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Awwww.. You'll never start wetting the bed Blondino!!!
No cocktails for you!!  Except during Happy Hour..
-MM 
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| Mar 21, 2007 @ 1:54 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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I don't feel anything about dying alone. If that's the way it happens, then so be it.
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