| Mar 29, 2007 @ 7:45 PM |
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sensualrenegade
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"Mom, dad...i've been in college for 2 years and i still don't want to be here, just like i didn't when i graduated high school. I want to quit school and move back to Ireland and live with my brother."
What would you do?
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 7:50 PM |
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raykl
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Bye! "In time you will figure out what you really want to do with your life".
"We have raised you to the best of our abilties and shown you how to live your life properly. Go and do well with what we have given you."
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 7:52 PM |
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Loreli
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Not much you can do with them when they are adults, except love them.
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 7:56 PM |
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grumblebear
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its tough to watch someone make a mistake.... but all you can do is let them....
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 7:59 PM |
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1cebit2iceshy
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for what it's worth, I vote stay in school.
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 8:02 PM |
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MarysPlace
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What would you do?
I'd ask her to lay out the plan... What she plans to do for a living, where she plans to live, that sort of thing. The responsible adult, not fairy tale sort of thing.
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 8:02 PM |
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McPuss
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"Mom, dad...i've been in college for 2 years and i still don't want to be here, just like i didn't when i graduated high school. I want to quit school and move back to Ireland and live with my brother."
What would you do?
Say to her ( OR YOU )...Do what ever you want, it’s your life…just don’t come back home pregnant ! 
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 8:53 PM |
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kattsmeow
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Spread your wings and fly then!
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 9:02 PM |
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luvmycats
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Do what you feel you have to do, just don't forget what I have told you all your life. You can be anything you want to be. (even if that means mooching off your brother)
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 9:48 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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I'd ask her to lay out the plan... What she plans to do for a living, where she plans to live, that sort of thing.
That's what my mother would do, too.
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 11:46 PM |
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steveemac
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I want to quit school and move back to Ireland and live with my brother."
Amanda, you've lived in Milwaukee all your life-how could you move BACK to Ireland? And WTF is Justin doing there?
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| Mar 29, 2007 @ 11:51 PM |
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SaraSings
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its tough to watch someone make a mistake.... but all you can do is let them....
whos to say dropping out of college is a MISTAKE?
I dropped out and im making more money now with a resisual income then i would of had i finished my degree, started out at like 40k a year and had to pay back like 100k+ in loans... i think that if you feel its the right discion to make then do it, if it was my daughter id just let her go, this is where people grow the most-- how much did YOU as a person grow between 20 and 25?
a lot.
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| Mar 30, 2007 @ 1:40 AM |
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MusicMonster
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I'd ask her to lay out the plan... What she plans to do for a living, where she plans to live, that sort of thing. The responsible adult, not fairy tale sort of thing.
Yep.. Hopefully that would make the world seem a lot more real and bring it all into responsible focus. You can't force 'em against their will. However I would apply some degree of influence if at all possible, knowing that one day they'll wish they did finish for any number of reasons they're probably not in tune with now. And the longer you wait, the harder it is.
-MM 
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| Mar 30, 2007 @ 1:56 AM |
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sweet5red
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well in know what i went thru when my daughter ran to arizona to live with her friend torie and tories hubby and child but she was right back here in No time flat.. well she just turned 27 and is finishing her first semester in college for early childhood education..  and my son the renegade juvenile teenager a few years ago is moving to New york to go to school on a full paid scholarship to the best culinary arts school in the usa...  now thats 180 turn around.. sweet N Louisiana 
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| Mar 30, 2007 @ 2:14 AM |
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Earl47
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What would i do? Well, i would outline for the young lady, that a good college education is more important than what we want, as we cannot just have or do what we want.
Now as far as her brother, nope, he is a brother and always will be, but the question here is why is she grasping for what appears to be greener grass as they say. Sure i loved my two siters very much, but i couldn't wrap my life around them.
Overall, i would say, she wants to try her wings out as they told me when i was as young as 17, for self confidence to feel she isn't being made to be and live as others she feels are making her live....Earl
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| Mar 30, 2007 @ 9:54 AM |
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travelnfrog
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Easy for us to answer since we aren't emotionally involved...our answer to you and our response if it were us could be very different.
That said, looking back on my over 40 years as an adult, after raising 3 kids and 6 step-kids (off & on) would be to tell you to go for it.
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| Mar 30, 2007 @ 10:10 AM |
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graywolf
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Well if she is of age then it is certainly her decision but only after some good counseling from her parents which is sounds like she is getting already. They should also let her know that if she does make this decision that they will support her in what she wants to do but not from a financial point. If she has to come up with all the funds on her own she may rethink her decisions. After all she is halfway to her bachelors or should be at least and can certainly make the move after she graduates and will have a better chance of findinf a solid job.
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| Mar 30, 2007 @ 10:46 AM |
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swingpup
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There are a number of very successful and famous entrepreneurs. Benjamin Franklin to Ben & Jerry, William Penn to Bill Gates, Eli Whitney to Oprah Winfrey. Some have BA's, BS's as in four year degrees some only possess two year degrees, a few have nothing more then a high school diploma or less.
What one does with their lives as well as their destiny after becoming an "adult" should be exclusively the responsibility of that person. After all, through out their lives they have been subjected to suggestions, recommendations, etc., from those around them.
The attage "You can lead a horse to water, but you cant make him drink" IMO would hold true within this synopses. If it was my child, any and all monetary support would cease to exist unless of course there was interested in doing a business. At which time a total written business plan and proposal would be requested. Who knows what the future holds in store. One only lives life once. 
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| Mar 30, 2007 @ 10:59 AM |
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graywolf
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Well stated swingpup
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| Mar 30, 2007 @ 11:00 AM |
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Loreli
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Easy for us to answer since we aren't emotionally involved...our answer to you and our response if it were us could be very different.
Actually-it wasn't easy to answer, as I have two young men I would love see going to college.  They are such smart young men they could do something great with their adulthood.The question kinda hit home for me.
But they don't want to, and I can't make them.
I wish I could!
They both work, so I only "do" things for them when I want to. But they "do" things for me also.
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