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Moving to be with someone, is it worth it?
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jubilee_sparks
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within the last 4 years i've moved all over the country in the hopes that the guy i was moving in with would be the one but i always wound up being sent home or leaving due to a woman beater, my question is, is it worth the annoyance, greif, and potential future bus fare to move to another state to be with someone?
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| Apr 8, 2007 @ 2:21 PM |
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Blondino
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I would say no its not .... not if you dont know him well enough to know he is not a lady beater ...
Take time to get to know a man ........ make sure you are both looking for the same common goals ... never act in haste or you will repent at leisure
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| Apr 8, 2007 @ 2:23 PM |
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Dukums
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Well without knowing you, all I can say is that if you are traveling all over in 4 years to be with guys, you might want to stop and work on you. There is a reason you are heading into bad situations and the problem lies within whatever need you are trying to fill. That is not saying you are a bad person, but one under construction. Take the time to find out why you fall for bad guys. And don't get in any hurry with anyone. Start building your life and happiness where you are at. Just as a flower, let your roots grow so you can bloom where you are planted.
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| Apr 8, 2007 @ 2:24 PM |
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Snappygoddess
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It was worth it for me... there are still good guys out there, ladies.. don't give up!
Follow your instincts and use common sense 
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| Apr 8, 2007 @ 2:27 PM |
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Blondino
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Glad to hear is Snappy but Jubilee has been fpllowing her instincts and getting in troubles ...
Maybe she just needs to learn to stay put and love herself first ..... before moving off .. she is only 22 
Four years of moving all over the country .... mmm time to change tactics me thinks
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| Apr 8, 2007 @ 2:58 PM |
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Snappygoddess
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I agree Blondino... guess I was speaking more generally to all ladies and not so much Jubilee.
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| Apr 8, 2007 @ 3:22 PM |
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jubilee_sparks
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i dont even know what to look for anymore
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| Apr 8, 2007 @ 3:24 PM |
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Blondino
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Jub
You are 22 ... just have fun with friends .. dont look for anything as you have lots of time ... go out and about ... do what you enjoy and get your self esteem high. When you feel good about yourself you will make wiser choices.
I would suggest you pamper yourself ... like new hair cut .. nails done ... some new clothes .. whatever makes you feel good about yourself ...
Have some timeout from guys 
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| Apr 8, 2007 @ 3:26 PM |
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kattsmeow
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The guys you have moved for,,,look at them and write down on paper why it didn't work.
Then look at what attracted you to them.
I also think you need to find what you are missing inside your self. You can not love if you do not love your self first.
You are 22 and you have moved 4 times. Stop doing that as of today. Find a job and get yourself a place to live. Then meet people in various places,,,or volenteer some where.
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| Apr 8, 2007 @ 3:31 PM |
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sweet5red
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The guys you have moved for,,,look at them and write down on paper why it didn't work.
Then look at what attracted you to them.
I also think you need to find what you are missing inside your self. You can not love if you do not love your self first.
You are 22 and you have moved 4 times. Stop doing that as of today. Find a job and get yourself a place to live. Then meet people in various places,,,or volenteer some where. all good advice.. you have to love yourself and look within.. although i am still single right now.. i have accomplished alot and just havent found the one worthy of me..  Sweet N Louisiana ( good luck Jub)
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| Apr 8, 2007 @ 5:01 PM |
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jubilee_sparks
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honestly ive just never had much self esteem, having been cut down from the age of 7 by my family, i just dont see myself as pretty
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| Apr 8, 2007 @ 5:10 PM |
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Loreli
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Whether you see yourself as pretty isn't the point-
that you see yourself as worthy of a good man is.
Slow down. You'll see yourself as beautiful when you do.
[Edited on 4/8/2007 5:25 PM]
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| Apr 8, 2007 @ 5:13 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Honey, I want to just give you a hug...you're beautiful, you just don't know it yet. You definitely need to stop looking for love and find out what it is first. From what you say, you don't really have a lot of experience with it. Take some time, work, live, go to school, make friends...maybe do some volunteer work, help people who need you, maybe at a shelter...just live your life the best way you know how, and find out why your self esteem's so low....then do something about it. Once you're the person YOU want to be, you'll find the person you need to find...until then, it just won't work.
It's all up to you girl - be the best you can be and you'll find the best life you can live!
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| Apr 8, 2007 @ 5:34 PM |
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daisy315
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Jub.. I had lousy self esteem growing up too... because I was weak enough to let OTHER people define who and what I was, I don't let that happen anymore, I realized that what's inside of me is worth getting to know and if others don't wanna take the time to know the real me, that's their loss.... all these ladies have given you some wonderful advice... love yourself... and then others will love you. And you are worth loving darlin...
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| Apr 8, 2007 @ 5:36 PM |
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| Apr 8, 2007 @ 5:44 PM |
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signme
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And to look at it from the other side, why not let the guy move to be with you? If it's the real thing he should be able to relocate also.
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| Apr 8, 2007 @ 6:45 PM |
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wiccked
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NO !!! it is not worth it!!!!!!!!!
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| Apr 8, 2007 @ 7:04 PM |
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kattsmeow
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It was very good for me though.
Of course, both of my sons had graduated and I was finally free to go and do what ever I wanted. The boys always know where I am, even if I am 2,300 miles from them.
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| Apr 8, 2007 @ 8:05 PM |
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grumblebear
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Moving to be with someone? I guess I'd have reservations about anyone wanting to uproot from family and friends too quickly....
when people move too willingly, they are looking for a "Geographical Fix", and the problem with that is, Where ever you go, there "You" are.
at 22, build a life, find yourself, and your center, learn who you are...
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| Apr 8, 2007 @ 9:21 PM |
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Shortiaintlying
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when in doubt, pull out, even if its just for a moment more.
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