| May 1, 2007 @ 9:51 AM |
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TrueNorthMan
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A little advice to the ladies. Please accept it in the non-judgemental, instructive and helpful manner in which it was meant.
Thank you.
We all know the e-dating world can be a daunting one for women. That's a given and we men accept it.
However, there is something I don't understand, leaves me perplexed and frankly somewhat frustrated.
It takes a some courage for a man to take the time and trouble to put together a brief note to someone of interest.
I can't tell you how many times I get absolutely no response to these notes of interest to women on this site and others.
These women are just plain inconsiderate, impolite and frankly ignorant. I think they need a serious attitude adjustment.
And before you jump to your predictable conclusion that I'm being too impatient, or outspoken or not doing it right, trust me I am writing very neutral, innocent and short notes expressing interest.
What women need to do is pretend that these notes are actually people standing in front of them, which would make no response very difficult, if not impossible.
Does that make sense? I thought you'd all agree.
So let's have a little more respect for our fellow man (and I do mean male in this case).
I don't think I'm being unreasonable.
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| May 1, 2007 @ 9:55 AM |
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Empath
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Okay.....I am breathing in deeply...and counting... 
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| May 1, 2007 @ 10:09 AM |
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Dukums
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Many times te ladies are not interested and don't know how to respond in a way that won't hurt the person who showed interest. Now I know that it would be better if they just thanked you and either made up a little white lie, or just said no thanks ect. But they don't. Don't let it bother you. Go on, because obviously they were not the right one, or meant to be.
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| May 1, 2007 @ 10:10 AM |
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spongebob777
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Maybe expressing "interest" is part of your problem. I have written to lots of women but never expressed "intrest". My emails have always been friendly comments about something in a profile or blog and I've almost always gotten responses.
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| May 1, 2007 @ 10:11 AM |
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definitelydi
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I count to a million and one usually.
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| May 1, 2007 @ 11:12 AM |
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kattsmeow
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Hm, maybe most of the men that email on here should read the womens profile???
Come on, It says right in the first line that I am married and here for friends.
Amazing how that seems to slip their minds.
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| May 1, 2007 @ 11:12 AM |
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daisy315
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sheeesh.. I could say the same for most of the men I email to.. I just don't understand where "ignorant" plays into the picture.. we're stupid because we don't reply to your emails?  that's sure gonna get ya some brownie points 
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| May 1, 2007 @ 11:16 AM |
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lj450
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I've almost always gotten responses.
Well hell......you look like a little salt-n-pepper Fonzie!!!!
Of course the ladies are going to coo over you. We are talking about this.......other guy. I think he needs to start with a leather jacket.
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| May 1, 2007 @ 11:20 AM |
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spongebob777
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I don't think any of you counted to 10, let alone recognized the error of your ways.
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| May 1, 2007 @ 11:21 AM |
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wvbluebaby
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i agree it would be a nicer place if people responded to their email...but it is a choice they make, just because you sent an email, it is not an obigation on their part to respond. it may be more polient to say thanks but no thanks, but some guys just cant take no as an answer, and then the insults start.
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| May 1, 2007 @ 11:30 AM |
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Empath
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Yep....I distinctly remember one guy who called me all sorts of crude names because I told him I was taken. 
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| May 1, 2007 @ 11:32 AM |
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spongebob777
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Yep....I distinctly remember one guy who called me all sorts of crude names because I told him I was taken.
Yeah but you love me anyway.
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| May 1, 2007 @ 11:33 AM |
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lj450
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"Jugs" is crude?
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| May 1, 2007 @ 11:35 AM |
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ToucherinSparks
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I don't find that I have that problem at all. Pretty much every woman I've written to has been kind enough to answer my email. Perhaps it's how you present yourself?
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| May 1, 2007 @ 11:36 AM |
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ravensday
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What women need to do is pretend that these notes are actually people standing in front of them, which would make no response very difficult, if not impossible.
Ok....and I would still be ignoring you. Has it occured to you to actually read the profile of your intented interest to see is she might be interested in you? Maybe you are too short, too old, too young, too tall, too skinny, too heavy. And lots of time some women get way more responses then they can possibly answer or maybe she is just not here for a dating relationship.
I delete the wierd ones straightaway. Then I delete the ones who email me despite the fact that I do not like older men...if you can read and understand my profile then you deserve to be ignored when you email me anyways knowing full well you are not the type I am looking for. Then I look at the ones more to my liking ....Then I go check out thier profiles, if I like what I see I respond if not then I yep you guessed it.....delete.
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| May 1, 2007 @ 11:43 AM |
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daisy315
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my attitude was fine right up til he used the word "ignorant".. that was uncalled for entirely.. 
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| May 1, 2007 @ 11:51 AM |
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Empath
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there were a few things in the original post that got my dander up...
Rather judgemental against women; verging on bitter; and frankly, I don't care for being told what I should do. Suggestions are cool.....but I don't take orders from anyone unless I'm making them dinner. 
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| May 1, 2007 @ 12:18 PM |
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Loreli
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The ones that are just looking for one nighters or threesomes get NO response from me. Ones that say something nice, I thank.
And-you wouldn't believe how many men that "took initiative" with me, just disappeared from communicating.
Works both ways-really.
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| May 1, 2007 @ 12:51 PM |
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TrueNorthMan
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There are no excuses for a lack of response to a polite and civil overture. Everyone who initiates contact in a polite, mature manner deserves a response, however brief.
The overall tone of the responses to my original post sound defensive, although a few do recognize the problem and admit to some guilt in the matter.
Yes, I may be judgemental and even sound a little bitter. I think it's understandable considering the circumstances. Everyone is judgemental.
I'm merely bringing forward a legitmate issue.
Again, do you stand in mute silence when a person talks to you or on the phone?
Same thing goes here. I really don't like saying these things. Makes me sound like I'm lecturing an adolescent.
But it needs saying -- and more importantly, reading. Most importantly accepting and applying.
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| May 1, 2007 @ 1:09 PM |
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keeno
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here's what works for me:
back when i was doing more than reading forums and blogs and actually looking for a date.
i read tons of profiles and followed the guidelines given there, age, body type, smoking issues, and interests. i usually wrote a brief note trying to be clever regarding something in their profile, and something also mentioned in my profile.
here's the wisdom....if they don't respond and can't see anything in my profile they like. i thank God that they are not the type of woman i would be interested in anyway. it's their loss not mine...
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