| Jun 15, 2007 @ 1:05 PM |
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SpiritOrnery
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I have been playing with an idea for about 6 or 8 months now about a brat club. Has anyone noticed that what we call a brat actually just is self interested, maybe even self centered? They never feel guilty about wanting things for themselves. They do things that are for themselves and love it. They can't seem to understand why self interest is wrong and ignore people that try to MAKE them feel guilty. Oh, and there IS a difference between self interest and self centered.
I need other guidelines about this. All suggestions and input for designing the BRAT CLUB, please add to it. The guidelines are as follows so far:
1) Love yourself enough to care about yourself first. You can't give out of an empty bucket so you MUST fill yourself full before giving to others that are NOT DEPENDENT on you like children, disabled family living with you that you willingly accepted into your home, pets or personal possessions that you are the owner or caretaker of and bills you owe.
2) Guilt used to control or manipulate you by self centered, needy and/or greedy people and groups is refused and rejected...nicely...whenever possible. Smiling and ignoring is always good. Pretend you do not know what they are trying to do if possible.
3) Giving is done because you love to give and do not expect anything in return other than the feeling you get when you see the gratitude of the people you give to. Also sometimes the giving is done because you can and gratitude is not necessary but be sure your motivations are for just giving and not expecting to receive gratitude.
4) Giving is done because they are your dependents. Gratitude is not necessary (but it is nice to receive).
5) Giving is NOT DONE to non-dependants no matter who they are if they are not receiving it gratefully because you will get burned out and the one's that do need you, will feel the repercussions.
6) Giving is blessing you and the one's you give to. If you are not being blessed and/or they are not being blessed, it becomes a negative action. Stop giving to them. Remember, you are a brat and don't have to feel guilty.
7) Allow others to give to you. Let them know you consider it a blessing and make sure they are not expecting something in return that you are NOT willing to give or are unable to give. And then refuse it if if falls in that category. (Remember, you are a brat and can get away with this.)
8) Always remember you are a brat and are self interested FIRST so that you are able to be other than a brat to those that DO TRULY need you and are not just trying to use you.
Anyone that wishes to join the club may join but you need to follow the guidelines as best as you can. Suggestions are welcome.
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| Jun 15, 2007 @ 1:24 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Of course you already know what I think of your brat club.. 
I am Proud to be a BRAT!! 
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| Jun 15, 2007 @ 1:31 PM |
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SpiritOrnery
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Oh, yeah. I forgot. I am definitely a brat. Anyone want to share any brat incidents in here, please feel free!!!   
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| Jun 15, 2007 @ 1:38 PM |
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Blondino
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why call it Brat though ,.... I mean Love Yourself before others will love & respect you etc etc
I just call it the ... Enlightened Ones.. those who will accept compliments ... value themselves etc etc
[Edited on 6/15/2007 1:40 PM]
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| Jun 15, 2007 @ 1:39 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Cause we be Brats...
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| Jun 15, 2007 @ 1:42 PM |
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Blondino
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well I dont see how the rules mean you are brats ????
loving yourself ... giving love and knowing how to receive .. sure does not make anyone a brat
makes them intelligent and self aware 
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| Jun 15, 2007 @ 1:45 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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cos calling it the love yourself club would be no fun
count me in
why not call it the bitch club? 
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| Jun 15, 2007 @ 1:50 PM |
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7times196
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there you goo. your all bitches..
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| Jun 15, 2007 @ 1:50 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
Posts: 10,955
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i know i'm a bitch, lol 
i think i'm the first to admit that, and not be ashamed of it.
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| Jun 15, 2007 @ 1:52 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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I`m a Biatchy-Brat!.. 
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| Jun 15, 2007 @ 1:53 PM |
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Blondino
Posts: 4,553
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 enjoy yourselves Brats
I am not a brat or a bitch .... so will humbly bow out 
I am self aware and appreciate myself ........ and Giving is more a pleasure than receiving ... but Brat .... no ma'ams
[Edited on 6/15/2007 1:56 PM]
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| Jun 15, 2007 @ 1:54 PM |
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SpiritOrnery
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Well, that is exactly why it is the brat club, LGQ. So many people call us bitches and selfish to try to manipulate us and make us feel guilty when we DON"T do what is not in our highest good. This club is to support us, NOT to cut us down for doing what is right and good for ourselves.
Just remember, we cannot give from an empty bucket. Got to give to ourselves first THEN maybe to others when we have the ability to give again. So many people will manipulate generous people until we are drained and angry and resentful.
This club it to help us get back to reality and know that we are alright and CAN reject others bullchit attempts to control and manipulate us and take advantage of us to use to their own ends.
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| Jun 15, 2007 @ 1:54 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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| Jun 15, 2007 @ 1:56 PM |
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SpiritOrnery
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Beautiful hearts
Righteous inside
Always
Thoughtful
[Edited on 6/15/2007 2:16 PM]
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| Jun 15, 2007 @ 2:11 PM |
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definitelydi
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I really think you should have consulted me first if you were going to start a thread about me. 
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| Jun 15, 2007 @ 2:11 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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Bratfacebeck checking in ... 
that has been another screen name of mine for years
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| Jun 15, 2007 @ 2:14 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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@Di
There ya go Spirit a volunteer consultant..
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| Jun 15, 2007 @ 2:17 PM |
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SpiritOrnery
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Ah, but if we are refusing to receive (unconditional receiving mind you, not because someone is using it to get something from you), then we block OTHER people's blessings. I had that explained to me.
That tends to block the Universe from sending things we DO want. If your receiving is deliberately blocked by yourself, then Spirit/the Universe tends to stop sending.
LOL @ Di! If the shoe fits comfortably. wear it!
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| Jun 15, 2007 @ 2:38 PM |
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sweet5red
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I am a BRAT fer sure.. but like becks i can be a brat bitch..
B-abe
I- N
T-otal
C-ontrol
H-erself
But yes i love myself and my sisters too and i always always got their back.. sweet N Louisiana  
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| Jun 15, 2007 @ 7:22 PM |
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Snappygoddess
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I can't be in the club cause I am much to nice, quiet, shy and never speak my mind 
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