| Jul 16, 2007 @ 6:19 PM |
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KAOS2007
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We've all done it. Lent someone money. Be it close friend, family, or an acquaintance. Maybe against our better judgement, but we did it anyway. What do you think of people that borrow money and never pay it back?
I don't believe the lender should have to ask or cajole the lendee to get their money paid back. I often wonder how they live with themselves? Knowing someone helped them out in their time of need and never making any effort to re-pay the debt?
My opinion of them is they are users. I once learned not too long back, that if I didn't run to help them, I noticed they always seemed to find a way? In any event, I have closed up the lending bank. And i do hope karma bites them in the ass for being such poor examples of human beings.
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 6:24 PM |
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robodad
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Oh, okay! I'll pay you back next payday. (I'm a little low) 
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 6:26 PM |
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KAOS2007
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 6:26 PM |
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MusicMonster
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What do you think of people that borrow money and never pay it back?
I think they suck!!!
Time to go after the knee-caps. That usually works pretty well. 
It's way too true that if you loan someone money you can often kiss the friendship goodbye.
Sad tho.. 
-MM 
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 6:28 PM |
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KAOS2007
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It's way too true that if you loan someone money you can often kiss the friendship goodbye. Yep, very true. And very sad. 
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 6:29 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Sometimes the lessons are expensive, but worth it to see who you can trust. The flip side works too - I can be pretty impulsive....okay, VERY impulsive. I've lent some pretty large sums out and almost always got it back without ever mentioning a word about it...but then the largest sum was to some Hindu friends, and they really DO believe in Karma. The only one who defaulted was my ex, but it was worth it.
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 6:35 PM |
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KAOS2007
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It is a lesson heaven, very true. Ya know what's weird though? Is it isn't the money that upsets me, it's the fact that they can just use someone like that, when they needed someone to help them, someone was there, and now that is the very someone they shit on, for lack of a better expression. 
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 6:45 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Trust me, I hear you on that one. The one I think of when you say that is a 'friend' who used me as a shoulder all through a messy breakup, calling or dropping by at all hours, but had no time for me when I needed someone to talk to. Long ago and far away, but that still bites when I think about it.
On the bright side, the less you think about it, the happier you are, and the best revenge is a well-lived life...corny, but true!
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 6:52 PM |
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KAOS2007
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the best revenge is a well-lived life Absolutely... I rarely think about it, but if I do, like you, it still stings a bit.... but it's gone, done. And I am sure, whether I get to see it or not, karma will play a part in their lives. I know I lent it with all good intentions, and that's really all I am responsible for. So I can sleep at night no problem. 
Just makes ya wonder why people don't do the right thing? 
 
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 6:53 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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Funny i just read about this. You should never lend money, it can ruin a relationship. Grandpa gives grandkid 500 bucks for car. Does grandpa care about the pay back? kind of yet not overly. Yet grandkid starts feeling bad since shes not or cant make a payback. Soon its such a bad feeling that the advoidence starts starts, and soon the end of the relationship altogether. A perfectly good relationship gone out the door over money! It creates a master subservent relationship. not what anyone would intend to have, unless they sick in the head.
The second reason you shouldnt lend out money is your just ADDING to the problem. You just helped make another debt that makes the person already introuble in even MORE finacel burrend. You've compounded to their problem. Meaning to be a solution is good and all, but its not a cure, just a fix when you "lend" money.
If you must for any reason, even one of your own, its your sister and you like talking to her on the phone, so you want to help keep her phone on, then you should make it a gift...... since thats what it should be. Make it clear thats what it is a gift and sister will not feel any resentment, and you woont feel used. If they insist on paying it back, of course let em, but dont set a time or offer them to pay it back by passing it on.... the wonders of paying it forward.
We should also be clear on whos made the request? was it asked for or offere?
the bottom line is, whats that friendship worth? WHat more inmportant? the 500 bucks you lent that you regret lending, or the relationship.
Not my words, just a leasson i found in a really good book by one that knows more about it then me.
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 7:02 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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best revenge is a well-lived life...corny, but true! and a well lived life is one without revenge
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 7:10 PM |
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KAOS2007
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The second reason you shouldn't lend out money is your just ADDING to the problem. I won't take responsibility for that. Maybe you would, but I won't. They always say they are getting the money to cover it. And what's worse is, they always manage to in some way use their KIDS in their plea, a sad, sad ploy.
As for who asked or offered, again, that doesn't matter. If money was lent to you to HELP you out, you most certainly KNOW you are expected to pay it back. Anyone with 1/2 a conscience knows this.
But that's the crux, their are those, I've discovered, that have no conscience. ZERO accountability to do the right thing.
I'm sure this is ringing some bells for some people right here at MD! 
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 7:17 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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I won't take responsibility for that. Maybe you would, but I won't. [/QUOTE] yes i would if i held the relationship in higher reguards. others that dont,
check into cash, pay advance, banks, credit cards, and other rip of companies that are targeted to the poor that keep them poor. Your not helping the man carring the load of wood by add more wood to his load. you just make em weaker and quicker.
sounds like bitterness in a reply. Clear your heart and your mind.
take care.
[QUOTE]Not my words, just a leasson i found in a really good book by one that knows more about it then me
[Edited on 7/16/2007 7:23 PM]
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 7:21 PM |
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KAOS2007
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@ bitterness. Why 'cuz I don't agree with what you posted? You'd do well to clear your mind, maybe you'll remember some things. 
yes i would if i held the relationship in higher reguards What's that got to do with paying back what you OWE? 
Rhetorical question, I don't need your answer thanks. 
[Edited on 7/16/2007 7:26 PM]
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 7:21 PM |
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blueyes101
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The borrower is slave to the lender.
I have gone out of my way to pay folks back, or should I say, pay off a debt, not so sure I am even on the Karma thing, but hopefully it will even itself out.
I have also learned, that no matter the amount of money, you saved money and time in the long run, just allowing both to pass through your life. ( to be rid of them ).
And I also call this behavior............Stupid tax !!!!!! 
Sorry hun, if anyone thinks any amount of money is worth your friendship, they surely do not know the value of either....  
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 7:24 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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The borrower is slave to the lender.
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 7:24 PM |
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KAOS2007
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The borrower is slave to the lender. I like that!  I have no one to blame but myself for trusting and wanting to help these people, and as I said before, it's really not about the money persay, but they'd never get that either.
Sorry hun, if anyone thinks any amount of money is worth your friendship, they surely do not know the value of either  TY Blue.
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 7:34 PM |
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ISSUESWOPTIONS
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but but but ...you said it was a gift 
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 7:35 PM |
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KAOS2007
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 7:46 PM |
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blueyes101
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Kaos, can I borrow some tongue? 
I promise to pay it back.............with interest...........Lots of interest...... 
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