| Jul 17, 2007 @ 1:04 AM |
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ISSUESWOPTIONS
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How much trust do you put into someone that you meet on an online site? Seriously!
Do you really listen to what they say and want, then take it to heart? Or do you step back and hope they find what they need?
How many more friends do you really need in your life when all you know you need is just one?
I am only asking this because I see it happpen alot, and hear of it happening alot....
you meet someone, they like you, you finally say ok, they tell you what they are about, you believe because it really is what you would die for, then it falls apart...
help me out here...
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 1:25 AM |
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beckyiv42000
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Sadian.. it falls apart usually because one or the other or both sometimes are not truthful either about WHO they are or some aspect of their lives ...sometimes both are so desperate to BE WITH someone they grasp anything close and TRY to make them fit into what they want... and because they do want it so bad they delude themselves with thinking that they have found it when in their hearts and heads they know they haven't but are just so tired of TRYING to find THE one they continue living the lie until it goes BOOM yanno?? just my 2 cents 
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 1:31 AM |
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happyracechick
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I am probably the wrong person to answer this because I always tend to look for the good in all people and think that everyone else is as upfront and honest as I am. I guess my upbringing and lack of dating experience have made me a little naive when it comes to trusting people.
However, I will say, that with the exception of a stalker and a couple of men who looked nothing like their profiles, I have made some really really great friends and I wouldnt trade the experience of being able to meet people in this fashion for all the tea in China.
Just trust your better judgement and try to read between the lines. Build up a friendship online for a while before giving out numbers or arranging a meeting.
While you dont NEED a bazillion friends in your life, it certainly never hurts to have them. Besides, a true friend doesnt require all your time and attention. They are just happy to be there when you have time for them or when you need them or when they may need you. True friends arent going to be too needy or sponge off you either.
Like I said, I have made many many friends and have not regretted the experiences, even when tainted by a couple of jack asses.
Its life - experience it every way you can!!  
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 2:41 AM |
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Angel178
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I'm not sure that you can truely 100% believe anything people say on here. I watch where and what people post. I happen to believe that after a period of time you can judge a person by what they are saying on here. If it is someone you have met and e-mailed, you cannot tell....it is very hard. I have met many people on the forums that i would consider friends... in fact i would love to go to a party with them...we would have a blast (but everyone is too spread out). If you are speaking of a one on one...all i can say is to trust in your instincts and judge their responses to different questions that you pose to them. Don't take what they say too seriously until you are comfortable in your gut to pursue it further...you will know!!! Trust me!!! Hot new picture by the way! 
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 2:43 AM |
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southerngentleman700
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 2:45 AM |
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Angel178
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Southern...I was trying to give serious advise...not nice  Don't tease me!!
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 2:52 AM |
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southknight
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while I may not be as trusting as our previous lovely posters, I do take the chance of meeting people that I've met online. I've had good experiences, bad experiences, and all the range in between. In my experiences, more than 50% of people I've met in real life have lied about some aspect of themselves while online. Be it the photos they use, parts of their life that are made up, and even where they live and marital status.
I am a person that enjoys good conversation, and being a Capricorn, I also am an exceptional listener. I think this is probably what gets me into trouble more than anything, right next to that side of me, that persona that should have been born during Camelot, Arthur and his Knights, that always tries to help a person that is in need.
I have met a few people online, matter of fact, I have come across a few from this site, that I have not met yet in real life that I do find interesting enough to take the chance to meet them in real life. Whether that would happen or not of course would be entirely up to them.
I used to run a chat site, and that experience taught me a LOT about how people become online, who they wish they were in real life. I've seen some pretty bad things, but I've seen some good things come of it as well.
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 3:03 AM |
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My_Take_On_It
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Well said Knight. And totally agree.
Angel actually made some valid points too. "oops...Gonna get hammered" 
I think that on a whole the cyber space chat and forums are a great way of having an open chat with large groups of people. And with people banding together to enlighten court jesters like me it makes them feel like a part of something bigger.
Again I'm takin a long walk off a short pier. 
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 3:05 AM |
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Angel178
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Thank you My...see you CAN speak kindly towards women...lol
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 3:17 AM |
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nik66
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hi i m riyaz 4m INDIA..........
i want 2 make u a frnd as i wana be ur frnd 
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 3:47 AM |
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My_Take_On_It
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Yes Angel..... That's right...... I'm not the devil incarnate 
Luv you too....  OK.. kill me now  
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 5:23 AM |
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KAOS2007
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How much trust do you put into someone that you meet on an online site?
NONE
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 5:53 AM |
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tulip717
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It depends how long you have been talking with them.
You can usually feel if there a trustworthy person for the most part.
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 6:17 AM |
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twotall911
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like thin ice until i know them
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 6:20 AM |
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ISSUESWOPTIONS
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Than ks everyone so far for answering. The most extreme so far is KAOS so....
KAOS, you say none. Suppose that person says EVERYTHING it is you have needed without being prompted? By that I mean the information was volunteered freely. How could you NOT put your initial trust to that? 
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 7:05 AM |
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southerngentleman700
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I know speaking from past experiences giving trust to quickly tends to back fire on me,but then maybe again iam just looking for that reason not to trust.I guess we all have our own issues from the past to deal with.But i have to say for myself i try my best Not to allow my past bad experiences controll my furture.To me trust is the main ingredient for a lasting relatinship.Without trust you are on a dead end street...............
[Edited on 7/17/2007 7:13 AM]
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 7:33 AM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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How many more friends do you really need in your life when all you know you need is just one? I believe that a person cannot have too many friends.....friendships can be on different levels.
you believe because it really is what you would die for I am also a firm believer that one person cannot be everything to another person. We need interaction and socialization. Setting one’s hopes entirely on one individual can be quite detrimental to both parties.
It’s the basics.....start out slow, get to know someone.........sometimes that can lead to a lifetime commitment, sometimes it can lead to a friendship, and sometimes, one or both parties discover it just wasn’t meant to be.
Trust has to be earned. Whether you meet someone on-line or in the “real world”, it normally takes time to form a relationship. Perhaps what you’ve seen and heard about are situations where two people were getting to know one another....and for whatever reason, things didn’t work out as was hoped. It doesn’t necessarily mean that a trust was broken. You also have to keep in mind that normally, you only hear one version. It depends upon personalities, viewpoints and the amount of communication between two people.
The one you have to trust most is yourself!!!!
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 7:39 AM |
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Angel178
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Eyes,,, 
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 8:02 AM |
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MotownManiax
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To the OP….personally speaking—depends on my online circumstances.
If it's strictly through my profile and the intent is to date, I have no problem meeting somebody for a quick coffee/drink at a local restaurant. I'm not really into emailing or talking on the phone for days or weeks. I'd rather talk with somebody in person sooner rather than later. To me that's the only real gauge of chemistry, from "either" end (she finds out if she likes me, too). I have no fear of meeting.
Women, on the other hand, should be much more careful meeting an online guy. They need to take more precautions and generally be more careful.
The situation here, in these forums, is totally different. Most if not all the women on here live too far to meet, let alone date, so I have no problem flirting and carrying on like a fool…lol. It's almost like the pressure to impress is off and I can really be myself.
The only big problem I see here is things can get so relaxed and sexually over-stimulated that some people get carried away with online personas and form unrealistic infatuations. It may build to a point that if and when couples do meet, they may be disappointed that reality doesn't match their dreamy vision. If that happens interacting online could become uncomfortable and a tad embarrassing.
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 8:07 AM |
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Angel178
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Another very good point!!!
Lets just have a good time.....
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