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SyndilLucian
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I try not to do this myself, but I recently had it happen to me, so I wanted to just say something on the topic. I had someone here send me a wink, and we started talking here through emails. He sent me his non-MD email and we talked there for a while. Then he sent me an email with his number and said I could call. We talked on the phone several times, and on the last occasion I spoke to him, he asked what I had left my marriage with. I said that when I left I took $15k. What I failed to mention was that at the time my ex had over $120k in 3 separate banks.
I have a feeling, because I said that I took that $15K, I somehow became a gold digger in his eyes, I don't know, because he stopped calling, won't answer my calls or my emails. He doesn't know the rest of the story, and he never will, because he has already pre-judged me on the 'knowledge' he thinks he has, and never asked me for an explanation. And by the way, for the record, it was my lawyer who insisted I take the money, for living expenses, as in my state it takes a year to get a divorce, and I would not have his medical and dental, car insurance coverage or anything else for that period of time. Any questions or comments?
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| Apr 9 @ 1:12 PM |
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lj450
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When he asked what you "left with" you should have said something like "my cherry". Discussing finances with new acquaintences is not a good idea.
Theres a correlation between how hot the girl is, and how much of this behavior she can get away with. That really sucks.
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| Apr 9 @ 1:14 PM |
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capobeachguy
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On the other hand, perhaps you did not meet his minimum monetary requirements... 
In any event, I am surprised that someone would ask such a question; I am even more surprised that you did not say, "That's none of your business!"
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| Apr 9 @ 1:16 PM |
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SyndilLucian
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The funny part is, I would in no way consider myself 'hot'. What the rest of the world sees and what I believe about myself are two completely different things.
I have yet to understand why men tell me I am sexy, I sure don't see it, but I accept the compliment anyway... 
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| Apr 9 @ 1:18 PM |
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SyndilLucian
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Sorry to double post, but I wanted to comment to what Capo said, and what I am puzzled about. Why, if he took exception to what I said to him, didn't he feel he should ask more questions? Why assume I am something I am not? I really do not understand men, sorry guys.
Edited to correct a misspelling.. I really need spell checker here...
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| Apr 9 @ 1:19 PM |
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lj450
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Well, ur welcome.....but I wasnt really calling you hot. I was saying if a girl asked me about my finances, she could get away with that more easily if she was really hot.
In your case, it was a guy.....who asked you about your finances. So, in my scenario, the guy would need to be hot in order to receive the answer you gave him (or anything about your finances). Providing you were interested in sex with this new person.
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| Apr 9 @ 1:24 PM |
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SyndilLucian
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ok so sex is the only reason to come to MD? Gee, and here I was thinking that long term relationships were a possibility...
my mistake I guess.. go back and read my profile, doesn't say 'intimate' activiites, at least I don't think it does, and I agree with you, I am not hot..
but that is a subject for another thread
Edited to add:
I went and checked and no, I don't have that in my profile.. and the subject came up during an hour long conversation about all sorts of things...
[Edited on 4/9/2008 1:30 PM]
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| Apr 9 @ 1:30 PM |
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lj450
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So, in my scenario
Easy killer.....I said in MY scenario. I never made a habit of dating girls I wasnt attracted to sexually (call me crazy). Im sorry if my honesty is harsh and stinging.
My apologies. I thought you had actually met this person. 
[Edited on 4/9/2008 1:32 PM]
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| Apr 9 @ 1:30 PM |
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capobeachguy
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What if this dude was merely trolling unsuspecting damsels for money...
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| Apr 9 @ 1:33 PM |
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SyndilLucian
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Well, that might explain why I seem to get the sex reaction first. Any suggestions on what picture to put on here so I seem appealing without appearing 'sexy'. Not the image I am after, trust me.
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| Apr 9 @ 1:34 PM |
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SyndilLucian
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I kinda doubt it, he is a really sweet guy, or trust me, I would not have called him, or continued talking to him, or be hurt now by the fact that he cut me off.
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| Apr 9 @ 1:36 PM |
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SyndilLucian
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Interesting, just got a phone call, private number, female voice, asknig who is speaknig... gee, got to wonder if he is married/in a relationship and failed to mention that fact.. /sigh
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| Apr 9 @ 1:38 PM |
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lj450
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or it could be a telemarketer.
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| Apr 9 @ 1:41 PM |
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Blondino
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he asked what I had left my marriage with.
warning bells ... anyone you have never met asking anything like that is after something 
sounds like it was too little for his liking ... more money to be had elsewhere
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| Apr 9 @ 1:43 PM |
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Jalon
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You're finances are under NO CIRCUMSTANCE anyone's business!!
There are a jillion reasons someone may stop calling and the fact is, you can't do anything about it. You're only responsible for you. Chalk up your losses, keep getting happier with yourself and you cannot lose! 
[Edited on 4/9/2008 1:46 PM]
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| Apr 9 @ 1:46 PM |
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Blondino
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Be glad you did not get emotionally involved and loose anything
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| Apr 9 @ 2:02 PM |
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kattsmeow
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No way I would give out that kind of information until I had met the person, and knew where it was heading.
It was none of his business.
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| Apr 9 @ 2:04 PM |
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capobeachguy
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Please send ME a wink when you've gotten that amount up to $100,000. 
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| Apr 9 @ 2:10 PM |
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Gman762
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Consider yourself very fortunate that he bolted. That guy doesn't pass the sniff test.
When something sounds to good to be true or if your gut tells you that something isn't quite right...better to error on the side of caution. My two cents anyway :)
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| Apr 9 @ 3:16 PM |
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Blondino
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doesn't pass the sniff test.
Nope he sure does not ..... guilty 
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