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NawtiKitty
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I'm in Canada.
I'm not moving. I have a mortgage, career etc. Why would I give that up? I've thought about this. I've decided that if I am "asked" to move to another country, that the person asking this? Should pay out what the balance of my career is worth had I stayed. I'm saying that for logical, practical reasons. Discount that "love" thing.. That doesn't pay the bills 
And my home? It's steadily gone up in value so he should pay that out too..
Whaddya think?
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| Apr 27 @ 5:52 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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I think thats a brilliant idea...don`t matter to me where I go...but still I ain`t goin`...I gave it all up a couple years ago... 
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| Apr 27 @ 5:56 PM |
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robodad
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 Okay, I give up....who asked you to move?
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| Apr 27 @ 5:56 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Probably some foreign hottie... 
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| Apr 27 @ 6:19 PM |
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katydid438
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Sounds like a plan Nawty 
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| Apr 27 @ 6:21 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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| Apr 27 @ 6:36 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Well, actually I did...I need help landscaping and she's really, really good at it!
(But NO, I'm not paying moving costs...) 
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| Apr 27 @ 8:04 PM |
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Always_Striving
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Canada needs your mind, stay.
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| Apr 28 @ 12:41 AM |
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kattsmeow
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Not me, I am a true Gypsy. I am always wondering what is around the next corner.
Wouldn't it be nice to live over there?
What about down here?
I look for me and my husband to by a motor home and travel.
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| Apr 28 @ 2:41 AM |
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SeaWhitegotlost
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I'm not moving. I have a mortgage, career etc. Why would I give that up?
Good question, Nawti. You do have a point.
In my case I have a career in one place and a mortgage in another! 
Current set-up: I have a great job in Turkey and I have lovely tenants whose rent pays the mortgage in Australia.
Possible future solution 1: Move back to Australia and live in my own apartment.
Possible future solution 2: Find a job somewhere else and go on renting out my apartment.
Depending on factors such as visa regulations and how "mobile" your profession lets you be, I think there can be ways of becoming more flexible. On the other hand, I did it for 6 months myself and I lost quite a bit in savings and in pension contributions so I do agree that relocating for a relationship isn't something to undertake lightly - but then, who would undertake it lightly?
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| Apr 28 @ 7:31 AM |
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luvmycats
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I'm not moving out of the country, but I am moving over 1,000 miles to be with the one I love.  Of course already having made plans to move near there had something to do with this decision. He is just a HUGE bonus!
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| Apr 28 @ 9:43 AM |
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Silvertongue62
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I'm in Canada.
I'm not moving. I have a mortgage, career etc. Why would I give that up? I've thought about this. I've decided that if I am "asked" to move to another country, that the person asking this? Should pay out what the balance of my career is worth had I stayed. I'm saying that for logical, practical reasons. Discount that "love" thing.. That doesn't pay the bills
And my home? It's steadily gone up in value so he should pay that out too..
Whaddya think?
I think anyone who veiws a relationship as a business deal has issues far past the obvious. But then again, are you willing to pay up for him if he relocates? Or do you veiw yourself as being the treasure with him being grateful just to be in your presence? I myself couldnt put myself on the block for sale. At least a prostitute recycles herself. I think these are valid questions.
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| Apr 28 @ 9:53 AM |
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lj450
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It all comes down to money, doesnt it.
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| Apr 28 @ 10:00 AM |
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Silvertongue62
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It all comes down to money, doesnt it.
it's amazing what people will reveal about themselves.
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| Apr 28 @ 10:27 AM |
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Makya
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Why would I give that up?
To have all that and more. 
I would definitely relocate to follow my heart, but would have to be as sure as possible about the person I was relocating to be with. 
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| Apr 28 @ 10:33 AM |
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1stsignofspring
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I like having roots...but they are shallow, because I will absolutely relocate for a serious love relationship. People are important.....not things 
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| Apr 28 @ 10:46 AM |
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pamdemonium
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I have roots too....Every 5 weeks a trip to the salon takes care of it.
Then, for a few weeks, no roots, until the cycle begins again.
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| Apr 28 @ 10:49 AM |
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Il_Uomo
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learn to read... 
I've decided that if I am "asked" to move to another country
this is not about money.. it is about asking someone to change everything...and giving up everything... for love..
it is easy to answer flip when you have nothing.. or have so much that nothing else but your own thoughts matter.... but it is the average person who has to deal with this dilemma
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| Apr 28 @ 10:54 AM |
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Silvertongue62
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it is easy to answer flip when you have nothing.. or have so much that nothing else but your own thoughts matter.... but it is the average person who has to deal with this dilemma
Ok, Lets look at that for a min. And we are back to my question.
But then again, are you willing to pay up for him if he relocates?
It is what it is. even though you have managed to put a tuxedo on a pig. Guess what? it's still a pig!
Secondly, I wouldnt relocate on a whim. Maybe marriage. but let's take a look at that scenerio. if we are married all of what she has is mine and vice versa.
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| Apr 28 @ 10:57 AM |
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Il_Uomo
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still no class silver...
and you are saying that your attorney has given you the green light for no prenups...
yeah right... I think you are a fraud...
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