| Jun 22 @ 10:48 AM |
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willsmalto
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Don't tell me words don't matter?
I really don't see the need buying someone an expensive gift, after hurting them, without haven't tried to heal the "wound" with at least a word
Is it just me or do words matter more than those earthly stuff?
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| Jun 22 @ 10:55 AM |
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LaughTillYaPuke
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In the end. It's the actions for me.
When you say your sorry, it means two things.
1. I'm sorry for my behavior and actions. And if I had it to do all over again, I would have done it very differently
2. It also means I will do things differently in the future. Repeat performances just show they didn't mean it.
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| Jun 22 @ 11:01 AM |
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willsmalto
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^^^^As much as I do understand where you're coming from, I couldn't agree more...BUT believe it or not the word "sorry" saves lifes, even if they don't mean it
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| Jun 22 @ 11:14 AM |
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LaughTillYaPuke
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Saves lives? Screw that. If my life is in jeapardy, I'm out. Words mean nothing.
How the heck did you go from flowers to someone threatning your LIFE?
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| Jun 22 @ 12:28 PM |
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signme
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You forgot one, Tilly. Sometimes I'm sorry means I'm sorry you caught me out. I'll be more careful next time to not get caught!
Words and actions both matter. I think it depends on the circumstances.
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| Jun 22 @ 12:43 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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I think people's words hurt more than their actions. Some of the names I was called in middle/high school still stick with me years later. The actions ... like having a 6'3" black kid push me into a wall, almost being run over by a car, etc...they don't bother me as much.
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| Jun 22 @ 7:51 PM |
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GJay
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Gifts mean nothing without the words.. You are simply adding salt to the wound. Words alone will do the trick if you are sincere , unless one is materialistic. In that case, probably provoked the argument in the first place to just get the gift... Okay, teasing about the last sentence, but holding fast and steady with the first three! Besides, it is the thought behind the gift that counts..not the cost of it... and, yes, along with the words!!!!
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| Jun 22 @ 7:55 PM |
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GJay
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That saying, "Sticks and Stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me." Definitely not true. Words can be very damaging and can haunt you for life. Cruel words are an invisible stab to the heart, however, the pain is real.
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| Jun 22 @ 9:00 PM |
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jamminjerry
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tuff crowd! but women like words. the playas prove that. i have words! but they are special. many have sought to steal them but they are saved for a pearl in return. "words are all i have to offer', well of course there is food and shelter. LOL we be jammin 
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| Jun 22 @ 9:01 PM |
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Always_Striving
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Ahhh, I see it the other way. If ya call me an A-hole then I'll forgive you if you pay me cash.
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| Jun 23 @ 2:49 AM |
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willsmalto
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I do believe that actions speak louder than words or they both walk hand-in-hand. yeah I know words could be very destructive but I thought I was comparing words(not just any word) with presents( in cash/coin ).
I know lots of folks would go with stuff but to me, proper words are like a thirst quencher
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| Jun 23 @ 6:23 PM |
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sealacamp
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It also means I will do things differently in the future. Repeat performances just show they didn't mean it.
That is a possibility. Another possibility is that they have a compulsion that they can not control. Some people fall into either category.
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| Jun 23 @ 6:43 PM |
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SyndilLucian
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And if that is the case (uncontrollable compulsion) then you have to decide for yourself if the person is worth knowing that it will happen again. While I can understand that someone can not help doing what they do, I would really have to search my soul to know if being hurt constantly was worth any joy I might receive by their presence in my life.
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Worst case scenario is the one I was in recently. I was seeing a guy who finally admitted that in his mind he is never wrong. He said I could spend my life trying to prove him wrong in something. Been there done that, could write the book, don't really want to go there again..
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| Jun 23 @ 6:52 PM |
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willowy1
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Words seemingly should not matter. But the words last longer than bruises. 
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| Jun 23 @ 7:12 PM |
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happygrlok
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yes, willow they do....and we hear them in our minds over and over again....  sometimes it is really hard to move on and think we really are better than that....it is really their problem they have used to hurt us..... 
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| Jun 23 @ 7:46 PM |
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jaybird777
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Well it all depends what sorta hurt yer talkin bout.
If yer talkin hurt as in hurtin somebody's feelings than shore, words are fine. Sometimes ya can be stoopid and not mean it, and sayin yer sorry is fine.
If ya mean hurt as in brusies an such, then I'm sorry too. Sorry I had ta run the sunuvabeitches balls through a meat grinder.
No excuse fer physcially hurting a lady. 
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| Jun 24 @ 6:30 AM |
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sealacamp
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And if that is the case (uncontrollable compulsion) then you have to decide for yourself if the person is worth knowing that it will happen again. While I can understand that someone can not help doing what they do, I would really have to search my soul to know if being hurt constantly was worth any joy I might receive by their presence in my life.
Agreed syndi and in my case once a person has three chances to prove to me what their character is be it controlled or uncontrolled should it be of a damaging negative hurtful nature then I must move on and leave them where ever they are. Words do matter and even criticism can build someone up, teach, or destroy depending on what is said. I certainly have a lot to learn in this area though my intentions are good. Intentions however do not equate to implementation.
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| Jun 24 @ 10:18 AM |
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1stsignofspring
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I have been with men who just can't put their feelings into words, and so sometimes just a single flower will speak their feelings or a silent hug...it just depends on the person.
That doesn't mean you can keep doing that wrong to me over and over again and expect a gift will appease me. In that same token...saying I'm sorry over and over again but never changing the action doesn't work with me either. Then that becomes all talk and no action....thus no changes. Sometimes talk is cheap...
Being sincere in whatever way you may express it ....is always the best way to go in my opinion and keeping the lines of communication open......I personally like talking things out...discussing........it works for me......but if you think I should have a flower to top it off then who am I to say you shouldn't have??  
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| Jun 26 @ 3:47 PM |
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marylou
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....for me.....if words are from a loved one.....then they can realy hurt. But if they are from someone else.....they might sting for the moment.........but I soon shrug them off. Nasty words come from their own heart......and mind........so they are only poisening themselves.........thats how I think.
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| Jun 27 @ 12:54 PM |
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your_princess
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Body Language are words unspoken. I do agree words matter a great deal, however your body language will either confirm those words or contradict them. Nothing is more annoying than those who refuse to say they are sorry or were in the wrong. I do believe words are far more meaningful than say a set of diamond earrings. Then again I am not a materialistic person. But there should not be a price on your love for someone...buying them to get you out of the dog house seems too easy....
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