| Jun 25 @ 11:48 PM |
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SpiritEnergy
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Ok, it was brought to my attention that the childhood phrase...Sticks and stones will break my bones but names will never hurt me.... was a lie. Well, looking at it the way he explained it makes sense. Because some people would rather be hit by sticks and stones than have people use abusive, demeaning language.
And some think being hit is the worst thing you can do to someone but words can REALLY hurt and cut deeply, for years and years. I certainly can testify to that. I still have a few scars from things told to me by people close to me.
So, what do you think? Are words painful and can they be damaging? If you fight, do you be very careful the language YOU use?
I personally think people should never call someone bad names but that is just me.
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| Jun 25 @ 11:50 PM |
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youbetcha
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I think they're both just as bad...I'd much rather not get hit or be trashed verbally 
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| Jun 25 @ 11:51 PM |
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kattsmeow
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I remember those words for childhood. Words hurt worse. You can never take back what comes out of your mouth to anothers ears.
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| Jun 25 @ 11:52 PM |
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youbetcha
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If I had to choose I would choose what is easier to take I would choose getting hit over verbally trashed
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| Jun 25 @ 11:53 PM |
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SpiritEnergy
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Very true, YB. I have to admit being beaten is not for me either but I tend to no longer accept the bad names that are aimed at me. I prefer to not accept the energy of it and my response sometimes is...sticks and stones....sort of like a shield. Does not work that way for some people but I have learned how to deflect and rationalize it, unlike many other people, especially children.
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| Jun 25 @ 11:54 PM |
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meanjolene
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Spirit! Words hurt for sure! Sometimes silence is golden, sometimes a well-timed silence instead of a heated reply communicates more effectively. Words can wound more deeply than blows. I have said some this very day that I regret. Hush my mouth.
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| Jun 25 @ 11:56 PM |
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SpiritEnergy
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MJ, I agree. Often when I feel negatively about something I do just shut up. Often it is better to not make a comment and to think it out than to respond in a poorly thought out fashion. BUT, I too am guilty of the BLURT! Argh. 
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| Jun 25 @ 11:59 PM |
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youbetcha
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Me Too 
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| Jun 26 @ 12:00 AM |
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redhairNfreckles
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If there is one thing I have taught my kids, and grandkids too, it is to be careful about what words we choose. Like you SE, I have childhood memories of hurtful things said to me and to this day I can still hear the words ringing in my head, IF I allow myself to dwell on them, which I rarely do. It's just not worth shortening my life span over, besides, it's more fun visualizing giving them a knuckle sandwich for it.......
[Edited on 6/26/2008 12:43 AM]
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| Jun 26 @ 12:02 AM |
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SpiritEnergy
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I use Emotional Freedom Technique on it if it feels bad. Or PEAT...Primordial Energy Activation Transformation.
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| Jun 26 @ 12:06 AM |
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redhairNfreckles
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Cool, SE, even if I don't have a clue what you're talking about... 
My childhood education was in an Irish/Italian neighborhood in Rochester, NY   
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| Jun 26 @ 12:16 AM |
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SpiritEnergy
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Those are healing tools. They dig the 'puss' out of the wound and allow the old wounds to heal.
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| Jun 26 @ 12:31 AM |
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Kenn159
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I believe if you are going to fight, then fight fair.
Meaning don’t say mean and degrading things just to be hurtful, because those words can have a long lasting negative effects.
Saying mean things just to inflict hurt is fighting dirty.
And physical fighting doesn't even belong in an adult relationship.
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| Jun 26 @ 12:46 AM |
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sweet5red
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2 of my coworkers were written up for an inciddent but I was given 2 days without pay.. so i have put those 2 on ignore and i will find another job and get the heck out of the hell hole.. and the drama let them keep it... shoot the shift diff dont matter anymore..  Sweet N Louisiana
yes words cut deep..
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| Jun 26 @ 12:52 AM |
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redhairNfreckles
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Thata girl, sis! Don't take their crap! Plenty of jobs elsewhere...  You- know- what will freeze over before I ever work in a hospital setting again. 
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| Jun 26 @ 4:36 AM |
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luvmycats
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Oh yes, words do hurt worse. I haven't been in many physical fights, but the word ones... 
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| Jun 26 @ 9:25 AM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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Words hurt worse than physical violence ever will, IMO. I don't remember hardly any of the physical violence that has ever been committed against me but I remember all of the names I've been called. Every single one.
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| Jun 26 @ 9:51 AM |
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SaintBacon
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Say what you will about having a "thick skin"...words can be devastating...more so if you have (had) respect for the person saying them.
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| Jun 26 @ 11:52 AM |
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Kenn159
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Words hurt worse than physical violence ever will, IMO. I don't remember hardly any of the physical violence that has ever been committed against me but I remember all of the names I've been called. Every single one.
Hey you Sweetie Pie  
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| Jun 26 @ 2:03 PM |
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Gallows_Humor
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 ..I can walk away from insults and not give them another thought if the person saying them ...means nothing to me...( or I can throw it back at them ) ...and I have forgotten most of them..
but if that same person were to physically attack me ..I do tend to go into autopilot and strike back... and I  remember every person I have physically hurt... 
When people that I care about verbally attack me.. I think about the "why". .
....Sometimes, it makes me a better person, sometimes, it makes me no longer care for them.. but over all ..I can put the name calling in the past and move forward..
which is worse?? it's apples and oranges to me...
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