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We mistakenly believe that if our partners love us, they will act and behave in certain ways—the ways we react and behave when we love someone. – John Gray
Whenever two people meet there are really six people present. There is each man as he sees himself, each man as the other sees him, and each man as he really is. – William James
Nothing changes more consistently than the past; the past that influences our lives is not what objectively happened, but what we believe happened. – Gerald W. Johnson
Deep listening, compassionate listening is not listening with the purpose of analyzing or even uncovering what has happened in the past. You listen first of all in order to give the other person relief, a chance to speak out, to feel that someone finally understands him or her. Deep listening is the kind of listening that helps us to keep compassion alive while the other speaks…During this time you have in mind only one idea, one desire: to listen in order to give the other person the chance to speak out and suffer less. This is your only purpose. Other things like analyzing, understanding the past, can be a by-produce of this work. But first of all listen with compassion. – Thich Nhat Hanh
Don’t let yesterday use up too much of today. – Cherokee proverb
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