| Dec 29, 2005 @ 1:43 AM |
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Silvertongue62
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READ THIS VERY SLOWLY..... IT'S PRETTY PROFOUND.
Too many people put off something that brings them joy just because they haven't thought about it, don't have it on their schedule, didn't know it was coming or are too rigid to depart from their routine.
I got to thinking one day about all those women on the Titanic who passed up dessert at dinner that fateful night in an effort to cut back. From then on, I've tried to be a little more flexible.
How many women out there will eat at home because their husband didn't suggest going out to dinner until after something had been thawed? Does the word "refrigeration" mean nothing to you?
How often have your kids dropped in to talk and sat in silence while you watched 'Jeopardy' on television?
I cannot count the times I called my sister and said, "How about going to lunch in a half hour?" She would gas up and stammer, "I can't. I have clothes on the line. My hair is dirty. I wish I had known yesterday, I had a late breakfast, It looks like rain." And my personal favorite: "It's Monday." ...She died a few years ago. We never did have lunch together.
Because Americans cram so much into their lives, we tend to schedule our headaches.. We live on a sparse diet of promises we make to ourselves when all the conditions are perfect!
We'll go back and visit the grandparents when we get Stevie toilet-trained. We'll entertain when we replace the living-room carpet. We'll go on a second honeymoon when we get two more kids out of college.
Life has a way of accelerating as we get older. The days get shorter, and the list of promises to ourselves gets longer. One morning, we awaken, and all we have to show for our lives is a litany of "I'm going to," "I plan on," and "Someday, when things are settled down a bit."
When anyone calls my 'seize the moment' friend, she is open to adventure and available for trips. She keeps an open mind on new ideas. Her enthusiasm for life is contagious. You talk with her for five minutes, and you're ready to trade your bad feet for a pair of Rollerblades and skip an elevator for a bungee cord.
My lips have not touched ice cream in 10 years. I love ice cream. It's just that I might as well apply it directly to my stomach with a spatula and eliminate the digestive process. The other day, I stopped the car and bought a triple-decker. If my car had hit an iceberg on the way home, I would have died happy.
Now...go on and have a nice day. Do something you WANT to......not something on your SHOULD DO list. If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say? And why are you waiting?
Make sure you read this to the end; you will understand why I sent this to you.
Have you ever watched kids playing on a merry go round or listened to the rain lapping on the ground? Ever followed a butterfly's erratic flight or gazed at the sun into the fading night? Do you run through each day on the fly? When you ask "How are you?" Do you hear the reply?
When the day is done, do you lie in your bed with the next hundred chores running through your head? Ever told your child, "We'll do it tomorrow." And in your haste, not see his sorrow? Ever lost touch? Let a good friendship die? Just call to say "Hi"?
When you worry and hurry through your day, it is like an unopened gift....Thrown away... Life is not a race. Take it slower. Hear the music before the song is over
"Life may not always be the party we hoped for... but while we are here we might as well dance!"
Edit-----> someone just emailed me and said they didnt get it. I hate it for ya !
[Edited on 12/29/2005 1:49 AM]
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| Dec 29, 2005 @ 1:50 AM |
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ruready4me2luvu
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And I wear my good perfume just to go buy groceries  
I waer my fancy dress shopping too.
I use my good linens everyday of the year
The china sets out on the table year round. I dont wait for any occasion to use the good stuff. It's an occasion every breath that I take. 
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| Dec 29, 2005 @ 1:55 AM |
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chinabull2000
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Sometimes I wear one of my best thongs even if I'm not gonna get lucky! 
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| Dec 29, 2005 @ 2:02 AM |
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Silvertongue62
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Lmao............ i guess the point that I was trying to make was so many of us get on MD and never date. We find all sorts of excuses why we cant go out with this person or that person. Some of us cant find the courage to meet someone and go out with them to see what they are like. Then some of us need to get over ourselves. Then there are those who hide behind a sharp tongue in leiu of embarrassing or hurting others. But we all come back. day after day.
Maybe some of us need to examine ourselves.
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| Dec 29, 2005 @ 2:02 AM |
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Angel54214
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I have lived my life like a bird at times. I use the comparison 'bird' for a reason. If you watch a bird, it flights in an instant and goes to and fro. I've driven to the top of a mountain just because I wanted to hear my echo. I've taken a train ride so I could take a carriage ride. I've awakened in the middle of the night to go ice skating and pretend I was in the olympics. Wee hours of the morning, I've melted into a tub of bubbles. Woke up on my parents farm at 3:00am just to go comfort our milk cow before she gave birth. I've woken my children at midnight and took them for a long ride to see the deer at morning break at the feeding meadows.
Thats only some.... 
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| Dec 29, 2005 @ 2:08 AM |
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Silvertongue62
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Nawwwwwwww !
Just a plethora of thought.
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| Dec 29, 2005 @ 2:16 AM |
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chinabull2000
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Lmao............ i guess the point that I was trying to make was so many of us get on MD and never date. We find all sorts of excuses why we cant go out with this person or that person. Some of us cant find the courage to meet someone and go out with them to see what they are like. Then some of us need to get over ourselves. Then there are those who hide behind a sharp tongue in leiu of embarrassing or hurting others. But we all come back. day after day.
Maybe some of us need to examine ourselves.
Silver, I'm not on MD to find a date, because therre are very few women here from the UK. But I'm a member of other sites with UK women and have dated 4 women over the past few months that I've met online... so I really am trying to make the most of things before it's too late. The funny thing is, I haven't worn one of my best thongs for any of them so far! lol
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| Dec 29, 2005 @ 10:24 AM |
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doodlebug68
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Thank you, Silver for your words of wisdom this morning. I find myself many times being the one who is always too busy or does not stop to smell the roses. I am reminded by your thoughts that even though sometimes we all wear the good perfume, or the best clothes, we all have times that we make excuses about doing things, or don't hear the sorrow in someone's voice when we say "I can't today" or "maybe next week" or "let me get finished with this project".
Just yesterday, a good friend called me wanting to come by for a talk. Immediately my thoughts went to "my house is a wreck". I could tell by her words that she was on the way and when she told me that it didn't matter what the house looked like, she just wanted to visit---I did not offer any further excuses. She stayed for about three hours....never once mentioning that there were boxes on the ottoman and mail on the piano. When she was ready to leave, we both said simultaneously "What a wonderful time we had talking". The same goes for meeting new people. I, personally, do not make the time to meet in person people I have met online or by phone. Then I sit around and complain about being lonely and not having someone in my life.
After reflecting on your post this morning---and examining myself, I am going to do just what you have suggested......My life has definitely NOT been the party I might have wanted. But I AM HERE....and I AM going to DANCE!!
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| Dec 29, 2005 @ 10:29 AM |
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sciurusniger
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When someone wants to come over, I will apologize if the house is a mess but in the end I don't want to be remembered for being a good housekeeper. I want to be remembered as a good friend and someone who was always there for others.
Besides, what's a little squirrel schmutz between friends anyway? If you get lucky, you might find a hazelnut under your chair cushion. LOL!
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| Dec 29, 2005 @ 10:35 AM |
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Silvertongue62
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It is refreshing to know that you have read what I said instead of disposing of it's content and purpose. Sometimes the best medicine for any of us is our own. May god bless you and may heaven smile upon you.
BTW: I'm not the smartest man in the world, but I'm in the top two and my daddy is getting old!
LOL... Naw I'm just kidding.
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| Dec 29, 2005 @ 10:35 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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 I got up the courage to go out on a date..I was in a bad relationship and I hesitated for a long time...I didnt feel like dating..so I plucked up the courage and went..only to have my date call me fat...  well..I`m not lettin` that stop me however...am workin` on it.. 
I stop and smell the roses...
I listen to the sounds of children laughing...
I chase butterflies with my grandkids...
I go down the slide and play on the merry-go-round with the babies...
I talk to my kids when they come around...
I do things on the spur of the moment...
I`m not perfect..and there are things that I should have done and haven`t...but I do try to live life to the fullest..even if theres a few bumps along the way 
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| Dec 29, 2005 @ 11:58 AM |
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Greystone1
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I think most people try to live life to the fullest, but one's definition is not another's definition. To each his/her own.
[Edited on 12/29/2005 11:59 AM]
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| Dec 29, 2005 @ 12:16 PM |
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Snappygoddess
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So many of us, (myself, included) use staying busy with unimportant issues to keep from facing things we really dont want to do, or feel unsure about.. it's stall tactics.. and we are all guilty of them... so.. in the past few years, since losing my husband of 20 years, I have learned to let go of the small issues and be more spontaneous....
When he(my fiance) takes my hand and says, let's take a drive somewhere... I go.
If he gives me "that" look.. even if I am in the middle of dinner or whatever....I respond and we get lost in lovemaking .. for however long it takes.
I spent a lot of years in my life asking the "what ifs" instead of just doing it and wondering later why ....... I met someone from online 10 months ago.. moved to Indiana 7 months ago to be with him and just a few days ago he asked me to marry him... (for the third time).... the first two times, I felt terror when he asked me... scared to let go of the past and trust and move on...... the third time he asked me.. I looked at him.. his eyes full of love and trust... and I felt a calm and knew it was what I really did want. Letting go of fear, past experiences, and looking forward to the future has released so much from within .......and I know that no matter what happens in my life....... I will choose to live each moment as if it is my last.... life is to short to do otherwise.
Thank you Silver.. for starting this thread.. 
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| Dec 29, 2005 @ 12:23 PM |
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Ladyhawk920
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Silver, you hit the nail right on the head. Just like Tim McGraw sang...."Live like you were dying"...one of my favs.
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| Dec 29, 2005 @ 1:34 PM |
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ladyraindove74
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Thanks to Silver for impressing upon us just what life is about. I've been doing more and more of those things that we put off doing for various reasons, but mainly...I've been stopping to smell the flowers...literally. I seem to see things with new eyes, hear things with ears that used to not hear. I want to live. A few years back, I never expected to be at this point in my life, maybe I never knew this phase existed. It's like coming awake from a long sleep...and I want to enjoy everything possible. I have been hot air ballooning, hang gliding, and I yearn for some other excitement. Just haven't decided yet what it will be. But, yes, life is letting go...of things that won't matter once we're gone. Who will remember if our house is clean, or if we once stepped outside with no makeup...nah, those things are trivial, but what they may remember is the friend that came to listen, the friend that took the time to go eat, or the friend that was always kind, caring and concerned. Those are the types of things they will remember. Hehe, oh, and yeah, the friend that was a bit of a daredevil, or played pranks on friends...just because she wanted to make them smile...aah...isn't it wonderful.
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| Dec 29, 2005 @ 2:03 PM |
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MischeviousAngel
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A little over a year ago as I sat in the hospital watching my mother die of brain cancer something that she said to me struck me just right and I finally realized what she was saying. My mother was one of those people who would give you the shirt off her back if you needed it, even if it left her standing there wearing nothing. Taking mom back and forth to radiation treatments and to chemo 5 days a week for 15 months gave us a LOT of time to talk and during one of our talks she told me that her biggest regrets were the things she didn't do that she wanted to. Watching her laying there in a coma that last week gave me a LOT of time to think.
I refuse to get to the end of my life and regret the things that I didn't do because I didn't have the {whatever} to do them. My house may be a little messier these days BUT my kids and I are a LOT happier... When one of the kids says "mom can we go do {whatever}?" so long as it's in the budget (and I put extra in the budget each week so that we can take off and do whatever) we are out the door and gone. Yep, there is dust on the back of my TV and the plants aren't quite as well taken care of... Yep, the laundry sometimes waits an extra day... but my kids and I have had picnics on the shores of Lake Superior in the middle of the winter "just because", we have taken off and taken the ferry across Lake Michigan and driven home around the lake, we have gone and played in the mud at a local museum and a million other things "just because", the 40 year old china and carnival glass that my mother never took out of the boxes gets used "just because". We do all sorts of things "just because" these days. I even invite people to New Year's Eve parties in the wilds of Michigan "just because" they seem like nice people and I wouldn't mind meeting them.
Do I regret that my house isn't as clean as it used to be? Nope... my kids and I are happier and I can never regret that my kids are happier.
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| Dec 29, 2005 @ 3:08 PM |
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mangolover60
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You can hire people to clean your house and get satisfaction. You can't hire people to have fun for you. Go girl! I wish you were my mom!
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| Jan 8, 2006 @ 5:25 PM |
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sealacamp
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How about the concept of stewardship? Where does that fit into this neat unrealistic package?
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| Jan 8, 2006 @ 5:30 PM |
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MischeviousAngel
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We do all sorts of things "just because"...
This afternoon I made real buttermilk pancakes for lunch... Just because...
The kids and I made salsa and had salsa and chips for a snack... just because...
I played 2 games of scrabble with the kids (and I REFUSE to "dumb down" the game for them) this afternoon... Just because...
We were up until after midnight last night playing "Imagine If"... Just because...
We went out and built snowmen this morning instead of going to church... Just because...
The kids and I take the time to stop and smell the roses... Be happy to teach anyone that has forgotten how to play the fine art of being a 5 year old again. It can be fun!
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| Jan 8, 2006 @ 6:26 PM |
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Silvertongue62
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I think the moral of my post was to never live to regret what you could/would/should have done.
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