| Jul 16, 2008 @ 6:10 PM |
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onoudn
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just curious because a friend has this obnoxious bf who thinks he should be able to spank her kids. i was visiting the other day and i heard the child screaming in the back room so bad i felt like i should call cps. the only reason why i didn't is my friend was so upset and embarrassed that i felt sorry for her. i'm still thinking about it though...so i'm just curious how other's feel about this....if i had a child i wouldn't let any put their hands on them.....no one...period.
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| Jul 16, 2008 @ 6:23 PM |
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kattsmeow
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 Makes me sick to think of what you heard.
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| Jul 16, 2008 @ 6:24 PM |
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Loreli
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Nobody will put their hands on my kids-especially since the oldest are 23 and 24 
But if it was THAT bad-you should have called anyway.
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| Jul 16, 2008 @ 6:53 PM |
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onoudn
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Yeah I'm still thinking about calling. I've heard horror stories about cps too though.
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| Jul 16, 2008 @ 6:58 PM |
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willowy1
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i was visiting the other day and i heard the child screaming in the back room so bad i felt like i should call cps. the only reason why i didn't is my friend was so upset and embarrassed that i felt sorry for her. A Mother that could just sit by while someone abuses her child is no Mother!
You feel sorry for a woman who thinks more of her crotch than her child! Really? 
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| Jul 16, 2008 @ 7:18 PM |
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redhairNfreckles
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^^^^^ what she said.....I agree
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| Jul 16, 2008 @ 7:32 PM |
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lazareth
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no no no.... no one spanked my son other than me. I was responsible for my sons actions, therefore I was responsible for dishing out the punishment.... period..
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| Jul 16, 2008 @ 7:37 PM |
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grumblebear
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when I was younger, I had several disagreements with women who felt I should be involved with their kids... I always felt that I shouldn't even meet the kids until things were serious....
but discipline someone else's child? no way
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| Jul 16, 2008 @ 9:04 PM |
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onoudn
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that's what i really wanted comments from parents.....no of my sisters spanks their kids...and if anyone ever put their hands on one of their kids let's just say....i pity the fool.
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| Jul 16, 2008 @ 9:49 PM |
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imhope
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Heck no!
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| Jul 16, 2008 @ 9:50 PM |
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imhope
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Heck no! Nobody touches my kids & gets away with it 
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| Jul 16, 2008 @ 10:07 PM |
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LaughTillYaPuke
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It would certainly depend on the situation. But why in the world would someone else need to disapline my child if I'm right there? 
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| Jul 16, 2008 @ 10:15 PM |
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onoudn
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I know this isn't about me but it really put me in a akward position, to say the least. Now, I'm stuck pondering what would happen to the kid if I reported them, if this is normal, and that whole issue of whether a child should be hit in the first place---which I don't think they should. I'm looking forward in the future to all the mental torment that child will have to go through with cps versus everything else. I know this lady, she's great with her kid, love her to death, and I'm just beside myself with why she would allow this.
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| Jul 16, 2008 @ 10:18 PM |
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Palomino
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Kids can be overdramatic when they are getting a spanking...mostly to make it seem worse so the "punisher" will stop. I know when I got a whoopin' I screamed bloody murder. BUT, my mom would always come in to make sure my dad didn't get too carried away if he was angry.
My second husband never spanked my three children by a previous marriage. Maybe a light swat on the bottom and sent to their room. I think you can pretty much go by your gut instincts on this, ~O. No child should be screaming that much without someone else checking on the situation.
My heart really goes out to that child...not the mother who couldn't be bothered to see what was going on.
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| Jul 16, 2008 @ 10:33 PM |
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Jalon
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Kids can be overdramatic when they are getting a spanking...mostly to make it seem worse so the "punisher" will stop. I know when I got a whoopin' I screamed bloody murder. YEP!
There's a world of difference between a spanking and a beating. We don't have all the details here so I don't think it's for any of us to say. Perhaps, Onoudn, you should take your female friend aside and have a talk about what her boundries are when it comes to the interaction of her boyfriend and her child.
JMHO
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| Jul 16, 2008 @ 10:38 PM |
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SKIDELZ
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absolutely not , not even grandma ... and ive run into this a few times , with other people putting there hands on my children it infuriates me .... to a point I can not even explain
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| Jul 17, 2008 @ 5:31 PM |
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SKIDELZ
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I just want to add something ....
I have a child that is very difficult to manage and one thats not ... and .... I think it's more on how you handle them , hitting them only reenforces the behavior or makes them afraid of you ... my personal opinion is that it takes a lot more effort and patience to actually find the root of the problem but your kids turn out better in the end ... when there grown .... it doesnt take much to show violence toward someone who is many times smaller than you .... its a little bullyish when you really think about it ... they are defenceless and have no way to defend themselve against someone who is taking out anger on them .. someone bigger and stonger AND SOMEONE THEY TRUST TO KEEP THEM SAFE .... they trust us to not INFLICT pain on them ... the rest of the world harms them enough .. in my opinion
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| Jul 17, 2008 @ 6:31 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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In my family the closest adult who saw whatever the kid did bad brought them to the parents for discipline unless the parent wasn't there and then it was up to them.. very rare were we stupid enough to NEED outside influence of ANY kind.. we KNEW better... and my kids do too... god save the little buggers if someone ELSE tells me they are acting up or what have you  ... even like with my younger grand nieces ... their parents turn to ME to be the disciplinarian when Im around .. why?? because Im not a brute but I don't let them get away with murder either.. but here again Ill be damned if ANYONE would spank my child without my prior consent and usually just the threat of me saying .. yeah you can spank them if they act up  was enough of a incentive for them NOT to act up... 
Note to O... Im kinda disappointed in the fact that you didnt go SEE wtf was happening if the kid was screaming that bad... even on the premise of having to use the restroom or something ... I dont give a flyin crap how EMBARRASSED you felt the woman was .... a CHILD was screaming bloody murder... 
that over rides ANY THING
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| Jul 17, 2008 @ 8:04 PM |
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minky
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^^^ I agree, you didn't have the balls to walk in and check on the child 
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| Jul 17, 2008 @ 8:11 PM |
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onoudn
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Whatever.....I'm not the parent I'm a visitor.....what am I suppose to do break the f***ing door down and fight with both the mother and the father. And can we please just have one thread without personal attacks ?
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