| Aug 17 @ 4:06 PM |
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Bluebonnet72
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I mean......there are situations in which not always we can say the truth at whole
In some cases this could be a kind of protection to whom we wouldn't offend or hurt
In other case this could be a kind of protection for ourselves.
I usually smile and I'm pleasant also with people who I don't like so much just because I'm not able to say what I really think.
In this way they think that I like them and they look for me in many occasions.
Problem is that not always I wish to spend my time with them.....and I try to keep distance and make up an excuse
When this happens I tell myself " it is better to say the truth from the beginning" ok I can't say " I don't like you" but maybe a smile less......I don't know.....
Are you able to say always the truth ?
Do you have any suggestion for cases like these ?
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| Aug 17 @ 4:25 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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If I don't know someone at all, and I don't like their opinion or I don't like something they are doing, I will tell them.
If I am a close friend to someone, I will tell them the truth.
I will tell my sister the truth. Not my mother. Not my father.
I will tell Marko the truth.
I will not let someone on MD know (if they are in the forums) if I disapprove of their behaviour...most of the time... because I don't like to start drama but I do welcome criticism of my behaviour. It has happened before. Just as long as they give me a chance to respond. However , I will tell them if I find their opinion offensive or if I disagree.
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| Aug 17 @ 4:34 PM |
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robodad
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I'd say that this was a great thread, but then I'd be lying 
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| Aug 17 @ 5:04 PM |
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Jankia
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I wouldnt come right out and say anything uncordial to someone I didnt really like unless doing it was in response to their being uncordial first.
My only suggestion is to keep trying to keep your distance and sooner or later it will catch on to them.
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| Aug 17 @ 5:06 PM |
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Loreli
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Usually....
sometimes, it isn't worth hearing the "I know more than you" crap that will come out of their mouth next.
Or just a fight, period. No point...nobody wins.
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| Aug 17 @ 5:10 PM |
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andxr
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I told the truth once
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| Aug 17 @ 6:03 PM |
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custis
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If any of you saw that Jim Carrie movie where he could only speak the truth, it should be a lesson to you that always speaking the truth is neither always easy or always the best thing to do.
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| Aug 17 @ 6:07 PM |
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Loreli
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Liar Liar
I LOVE that movie! 
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| Aug 17 @ 6:13 PM |
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signme
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BB I'm sure many of us have been in the same situation you described. Most people are just not rude and will tell someone "I don't like you" especially if that person has done nothing to provoke the behavior. I try to get along with everyone and seldom would say,"Go away, I don't like you". But I also won't be as friendly or speak first if I don't really care for someone.
And sometimes if it will hurt someone's feelings, I don't always tell the truth.
I'm sure many people here at MD won't agree with me, but I was brought up to respect others and not hurt anyone if it's not necessary (including their feelings).
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| Aug 18 @ 2:28 AM |
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Say_Yes
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I tend to be very direct and plain spoken. I tell the truth as I see it. It gets me in trouble at work at times, because people really don't want to know the truth. Typically, they are much happier with a nice, polite lie.
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| Aug 18 @ 3:09 AM |
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twotall911
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always unless i have bad gas
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| Aug 18 @ 3:34 AM |
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rovingnet
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Bye bye... shut the door and don't open it to them again...
As for always telling the truth...
Well, this is extremely difficult for men in many cases...
Like one of my exGFs whom I loved dearly would be getting ready to go out... "Does this make me look Fat?" Now there is no friggin way I am going to answer that question... I am not about to say, "no sweetheart, you are fat and what you are wearing has nothing to do with it." and I dodge the lie too... by not responding initially... But then the push... so "You look great, honey? which is not a lie, because she did... But, of course, she wasn't stupid and she knew me too well... so nothin worked...
Of course the ones I really liked were.. as we walk out the door, "Are you really going to wear THOSE boots?" [Duh}
Do you like my hair this way? [like it or not I refuse to answer these kinds of questions directly, because no matter what I SAY she is going to decide I don't like it... So I pretend not to hear the question...
same way with dinner... I am an avid cook and baker... so whenever my other half or my daughter would ask, "Do you like this?" I would not care if it was cardboard and water... I am eating, my mouth is full and I am not about to comment... or the old standby..." it's fine honey... " For all other- too many to mention "yes Dear" "of Course" and a host of meaningless prepositional phrases will keep a gentleman out of the doghouse... well unless it was my girlie girl London beauty who would assail me if ever I responded with "Yes Dear" ...only did it when she was rattling no end about nothing... but it was a sure ticket to sex!
  
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| Aug 18 @ 8:59 AM |
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Nightowl001
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I would pretty much echo Signme's post. I try pretty hard not to lie, but the majority of the time I also try not to be rude.
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| Aug 18 @ 10:29 AM |
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kattsmeow
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Hm, I figuire if a question isn't asked, then I don't have to worry about it right?
I would not come right out and tell someone a lie, nope, not I...
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| Aug 18 @ 10:32 AM |
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youbetcha
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Let's just say I try to be nice, but I'm not afraid to say what I'm thinking and I have been known to ruffle a feather or 2 on occasion 
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| Aug 18 @ 1:30 PM |
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Bluebonnet72
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thank you for all your posts .........you make me think ! 
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| Aug 18 @ 8:33 PM |
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blueyes101
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Most of the time, flat out honesty is just plain rude. Like saying the truth gives them the right to be rude.
Some just like the reaction. Others are just plain stupid, they have no clue how rude they sound, and most of these people do not care anyways.
I think too many people do not understand the art of being polite.
Like the other movie, " blast from the past " The true meaning of being a lady or a gentleman. making others comfortable in your presence.
Throwing out the truth can be like slapping someone in the face. Many get a power trip from it, then the fight starts, and biggest asshole/bitch wins...... I'm not sure what they win, but in their mind, they feel in control.
There are many ways to handle situations, some need to hear it bluntly, others only need a simple hint.
I guess, try the hints first, then if they don't take the hint. Just say what it is you wish them to know, " as matter of factly " as you can. Try to use no emotion, and leave their presence as quickly as possible. The last thing you need is to get into a discussion, of your feelings ( or lack there of ) .
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| Aug 18 @ 9:02 PM |
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Carol386
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My father once told me the definition of tact - "the ability to tell a person to go to hell and make him glad they are on the way" Sometimes people think I am at a loss for words (like that'll ever happen!), I choose my words carefully. Once something is spoken, you can never take it back. I always speak my mind but do try and take a person's feelings into consideration. Do I always tell the whole truth - no 
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| Aug 18 @ 9:11 PM |
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pamdemonium
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I'm not always able to use the words I'd like, but yes, generally tell the truth.
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| Aug 18 @ 9:16 PM |
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youbetcha
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I like to push on people until I get the truth out of them because all this nicey nice crap isn't living real and I hate it with a passion...Smiling Faces - The Undisputed Truth
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