| Oct 2 @ 12:25 PM |
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Jalon
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Engineer "X" continually talks down to me and a select handful of my coworkers. Engineer "X" loves to spout the obvious and to complicate simple procedures with the assumption that the person he is addressing has an IQ of about 65...and it's their first day in the workplace.
How should one address Engineer "X" when they just can't bite their tongue one more time? Avoidance can only go so far!
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| Oct 2 @ 12:33 PM |
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SaintBacon
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Look him straight in the eye and tell him he's not the only one with a brain...then offer to help him pay for a personality transplant! 
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| Oct 2 @ 12:37 PM |
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drs297
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Go outside and cut the stems off of 2 of his tires.. When you are leaving walk up and state the obvious, tires flat? Offer to help but say I'm sorry with your high IQ and ability to over complicate matters you just don't have that much time
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| Oct 2 @ 12:38 PM |
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ShieldofHonor
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Is he your immediate supervisor or equivalent?
If so, try talking to him privately. Express how you and the others are feeling, then explain how his condescension is negatively affecting your morale and performance.
It is possible that he simply doesn't understand how others perceive his remarks. Or, he may simply be about something himself.
If this doesn't help, then work your way up the "chain of authority"...........
Are you unionized? If so, then you might consider contacting your representative and explain things....
Hope that helps...
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| Oct 2 @ 2:35 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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Hmmm... engineer X seems like a prig but anyways.. just POLITELY inform him that his rudeness is uncalled for... and that any further nastiness will be reported  .. and if hes your boss?? go over his head.. unless hes the main boss then you might politely inform him that his tactics arent working the way he wants them to and belittlement is NOT an acceptable form of communication...unless he wants others to think hes a rat bastard?? 
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| Oct 2 @ 3:12 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Does he do it to everyone? Some people are just like that, including a good friend of mine who tends to pontificate. He's a great guy in a lot of ways, but he's definitely one of those people you don't ask what time it is unless you want to be instructed in how to build a clock.
If the guy is really knowledgeable (as my friend is), I'd put up with it and just let my eyes glaze over as I daydreamed about Maui or something till he got it out of his system. If he's not someone who's likely to have information I'll need, I'll mostly just try to avoid him.
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| Oct 2 @ 4:07 PM |
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tatiana329
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you should not have been avoiding him but met him head on with his first bad comment telling him that was "inappripriate behavior" for the workplace and set your boundries from the get go.
Once something like that occurs over some time, you can't go and easily change things.
Maybe now, you will have to find a new job if your boss is not going to write him up.
You should have been telling your boss too from the get go
and what you did about it and voiced your concerns...........
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| Oct 2 @ 4:31 PM |
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Jalon
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Heaven is right on in much of it just being the personality of Engineer "X." Engineer "X" has no authority over me and the issue really comes down to personality conflict. A number of coworkers seem to have the very same personality conflict!
It's just frustrating! My employer is very accommodating to individual personalities and this is generally a good thing...except when this "slack" is cut for Engineer "X."
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| Oct 2 @ 5:12 PM |
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missliss78
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Ooooohhhhhhhh...I've been familiar with that sort of "slackness" before.
I'd be sure to have a sit down private convo with my superior & let him/her know just how much "x" is annoying you & the select handful of coworkers. IMO, if your superior is worth his/her salt, there will then be a discussion with "x."
In the work place, I've always believed in following the chain of command with such situations. Good luck!
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| Oct 2 @ 6:25 PM |
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RichardTrickle
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Flash him, that will either shut him up or put him in your power....
Unless he's gay or something....
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| Oct 2 @ 6:53 PM |
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SpiritEnergy
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  I agree with Richard. I am kidding tho, not a good idea. Well, maybe. Myself, I would do EFT on how I feel about how he is acting. Then it won't bother me. (Emotional Freedom Technique) Or I would do spiritual clearing on everyone involved or the whole business. That usually works. I have heard great results of that, including the business growing and flourishing.
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| Oct 2 @ 7:18 PM |
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painter007
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Id bend over and tell him to kiss my azzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz...
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| Oct 2 @ 7:22 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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If it's any consolation, my friend is nowhere near as bad as he used to be...he eventually started recognizing that glazed look and had mercy on us when he saw it...
And it only took about 20 years!  
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| Oct 2 @ 7:54 PM |
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nah12
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as soon as he starts his BS instructions you can always smile big and softly say “that’s OK i think i can handle it but if i need any help i‘ll be sure to ask ” and walk away smiling
after a couple of times that usually works ......
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| Oct 2 @ 8:28 PM |
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whatagal
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Stick a boot up his ass...he'll get the hint!!
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| Oct 2 @ 8:58 PM |
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Jalon
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if your superior is worth his/her salt, there will then be a discussion with "x." There have been several. I think some SALT is in order. Plus, they're friends.
Unless he's gay or something.... No, he's Catholic.
say “that’s OK i think i can handle it but if i need any help i‘ll be sure to ask ” and walk away smiling
after a couple of times that usually works ...... I do generally attempt this method.
If it's any consolation, my friend is nowhere near as bad as he used to be...he eventually started recognizing that glazed look and had mercy on us when he saw it...
And it only took about 20 years! This upcoming December will be EIGHT YEARS. 
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| Oct 2 @ 9:16 PM |
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travelwoman
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Is there any way you can make a joke out of his "guidance" ...?
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| Oct 2 @ 9:26 PM |
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Jalon
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^^^I have all along or I couldn't have made it this long!  
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| Oct 2 @ 9:48 PM |
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lazareth
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awwww man, of all days for you to post this thread
My day today was " not normal" I had a guy over the dairy dept, came in to work apparently in a really foul mood and smarted off at me, started throwing things, in front of the customers all because I asked him a simple question. Customers and employees all stood there with their mouths open at what he said to me.
I calmly put my " closed" sign out on my register,,, walked to the office where he was and right there in front of the store manager and a couple of others said " JXXXXX, I only have one thing to say to you,,, F**K you and the boat you rode in on today. You just showed all of those customers and employees what an ass you can be" .... yes I did. And turned around and walked off.
Later, he actually walked up to me and gave a sincere apology for what he had said and done.
I accepted his apology, we hugged and Damn...... what a day .... sure glad its over lol
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| Oct 2 @ 10:03 PM |
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missliss78
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There have been several. I think some SALT is in order. Plus, they're friends.
There goes my theory....and that just ain't right.
So with that in mind, I thought Nah had the ideal scenario....obviously "x" is a real pig-headed a-hole. Sorry.
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