| Jan 7, 2006 @ 8:10 AM |
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catalyst157
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We have a topic to discuss at the Women's Group meeting this month. The topic is " How Do You Feel About This Time of Your Life? Emotionally, Physically and Spiritually"
I't my lead this month... and thought I would throw it out here and get an idea of how this may go next week.
Thanx for any input in advance!
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| Jan 7, 2006 @ 9:18 AM |
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definitelydi
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Interesting...so I'll reply! I'm at a pretty good place in my life right now. I'll be 31 in April, and although I'm not where I thought I'd be at this age, I'm pleased with the things I'm doing for myself. I'm gaining strength emotionally after my divorce and have to say I feel more confident than ever. I can always improve physically and realize this is an area that I need to make a more ernest effort in! I'm only just discovering my spiritual side! There is much to explore within it and I see the benefits of doing so every day. All in all, I can see this "upward" trend continuing for many years. I look forward to it!
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| Jan 7, 2006 @ 9:49 AM |
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wvbluebaby
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i am at a place in my life where i will soon be 50, starting over after a divorce and wondering where the heck did my life go??i cant seem to settle down to any one thing, i am restless and edgy..
wondering what my future brings, hoping i am not a little ole lady someone forgot in a nursing home.
will 50 be better? gosh, i hope so 
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| Jan 7, 2006 @ 9:49 AM |
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wvbluebaby
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i am at a place in my life where i will soon be 50, starting over after a divorce and wondering where the heck did my life go??i cant seem to settle down to any one thing, i am restless and edgy..
wondering what my future brings, hoping i am not a little ole lady someone forgot in a nursing home.
will 50 be better? gosh, i hope so
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| Jan 7, 2006 @ 10:08 AM |
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catalyst157
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I'm 57.. and 50 for me was a turn around time. I like this age. Edgy yes.. I think it's you.. feeling the expectations. It's a great time.. it's an insightful time.. at least it is for me.
Thanx for a reply
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| Jan 7, 2006 @ 10:11 AM |
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catalyst157
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Wow.. I wish I was that aware at that age. That's wonderful.
Thanx for the reply.
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| Jan 7, 2006 @ 10:41 AM |
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Aselune
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I fight with this one a bit...I'm soon to be 37..not a bad age..I'm having fun..the older I get the more fun I have..I don't have to ask permission to anyone for anything..and I have the money to pay for it...
I'm doing a career change mid stream from clerical to medical...tough transition but so worth it..
the only part I don't like about my life is I have no kids..and lol no prospects for any...who knows maybe that will happen..maybe it won't..either way..my life will be fullfilling
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| Jan 7, 2006 @ 12:12 PM |
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lecriveuse
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emotionally and physically, i feel restless and anxious, too. divorce contemplations on my part, trying to make sure i'm doing what is best for me. upon getting my financial windfall, i'm patting my buns at this wretched state and heading back to civilization. the optimism keeps me fairly positive, and i'm always up for a good giggle.
spiritually, i'm still contemplative sans the meditation. i'm writing so much in my journals, the blogs online and i have my new martial arts books for meditative stances.  writers block/procrastination makes me feel awful and cranky; when i start writing again, i feel so much better. you'd think i'd have this through my thick skull. duh!
this is great, catalyst. i'll ask myself this every month from now on. thanks! it's a wonderful marker of how we advance or wane in our lives. 
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| Jan 7, 2006 @ 1:17 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Hi, and thanks Catalyst, interesting thread...
At 62, I'm thinking about retiring, but not at all sure yet. No way am I ready for a rocking chair, I just don't know if I really want to continue doing what I'm doing or look for something entirely different. It's still a huge rush at times; my boss calls me a multitalented multitasker, and has made it clear that my job's mine for as long as I want it (he also checks with me before he gives me orders...spoiled? You betcha). Then I get into the boring stuff and start posting on MD, wondering why I'm still doing 9-5 (or more accurately 6-3) when there are trails to be blazed and fights to be fought. So, I'll continue to flip flop, while looking for a match who might tip the balance. The odds are very high that if I chose to relocate, I'd be allowed to work long distance, but for now I'm just concentrating on trying to be the best person I can be and enjoying life.
oops...p.s.
who knows maybe that will happen..maybe it won't..either way..my life will be fullfilling
Re kids - gave birth to 2, fostered 3 others. Trust me, there's no difference, and most of it was as a single parent. It's a big decision and a huge responsibility, not to be taken on lightly, but you don't have to be a birth parent to be a good one.
[Edited on 1/7/2006 1:21 PM]
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| Jan 7, 2006 @ 2:19 PM |
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kattsmeow
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When my last son graduated from high scholl, I thought, YES!!!!!!!!! Finally I can be me. Just me. Although they still call and ask questions and for advice. I remember asking myself, now, where would you like to live and what would you like to do for a while? The world was/is mine!
So, I changed jobs twice, moved around (in my area) and was a little restless too. I was content to be a grandmother, working, and yes, watching my sons grow into wonderful young men.
Then my world went topsy turvy,,,a man entered my life after 5 years. Can we say, Whoo, baby??? Lol.
I love my 40's and look forward to my "golden" years.
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| Jan 7, 2006 @ 3:16 PM |
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Aselune
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Re kids - gave birth to 2, fostered 3 others. Trust me, there's no difference
I am glad to hear this and have been giving foster parenting a very serious thought..it will have to wait until school is done (wouldnt' be fair to the child if it wasn't) so in 2 more years..who knows..yeah..I know it's not to be taken lightly...but motherhood..natural or not..is something I have wanted since I was a child myself..and am just now coming to terms that it may not happen "naturally" lol I guess that's why I work labor delivery..if I can't deliver my own..I'll at least help others..
but thank you 
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| Jan 7, 2006 @ 5:33 PM |
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catalyst157
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You are welcome.. and thanx!
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| Jan 7, 2006 @ 6:24 PM |
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JenRNinOhio
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I turn 53 in 3 days.
5 kids
2 grown & gone
3 @ home (14 yr old boy & almost 13 yr old boy/ girl twins)
Married & divorced twice.
Love being a nurse....don't like my job so much.
Physically I feel as good, if not better than I did 25 years ago. I run circles around the younger nurses at work & keep up with my kids! (Are the guys staying out of this thread? I want to mention menopause..LOL) Menopause came & went w/out any of those bad symptoms.
Spiritually .. hmmm... comfortable yet searching.
Emotionally ... Ugh... lost.
Recently had a 3 1/2 year relationship come to an end. Thought he was the one. Minor distance problem of 40 miles. I know it doesn't sound like much but add in my full time (plus) day job then the 2nd shift of kids, dogs, house... He also had scheduling difficulties with work.... His own business, involved some travelling. I travelled with him when I could but in the end... He convinced me that I am too physically & emotionally drained to be committed to spending quality time with him. So now I am working on elevating my self esteem. BUT I feel that perhaps a relationship would not be good right now. I most certainly do not feel too old. I don't feel old at all!
*sigh*
Catalyst...Thank you for starting this thread... Could be just what I need for a little self-reflection.
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| Jan 7, 2006 @ 6:34 PM |
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Classy_Blonde
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I'm a happy camper. 
I wish I'd had children, but we can't always get what we want.
I am not as spiritual lately as I probably should be, but that isn't anything I dwell on. 
I'm preparing for some major life changes, and loving thinking about all of the possibilities. I really LIKE me. That's extremely important.
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| Jan 7, 2006 @ 6:48 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Happy Camper! Took the words write out of my mouth! 
My Boss at work once called me that..
I am Happy with who I am..and proud of myself for being able toraise 4 kids by myself with no help.
Spritually..not quite sure about that.
Now that its my turn I`m gonna try and live life to the fullest and be happy with whatever comes of it.. 
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| Jan 7, 2006 @ 7:30 PM |
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danae74
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Wow! This is an inspiring thread, ladies! Listening to everyone's positive attitudes, even through major life changes, is really something.
One thing many of us seem to have in common is a feeling of "threshold restlessness," like we're standing on the verge between our old lives and our new. I feel the same way, and it's good to know that others feel that way, too...it's not just me, lol! Will we always feel that way? In a way, I guess we will; I think (I hope!) it means we're perpetually getting better.
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| Jan 7, 2006 @ 7:51 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Will we always feel that way?
Just for the record, this is pretty recent for me. I actually made the decision back in my 30's (about when you were being born Danae), that a committed relationship was out of the question for me until retirement (and yes, that's exactly how I thought about it) because I was overcommitted as it was, between job, kids and taking care of my parents during their last years. I think I'm going to do some blogging about my job, because it's been such a key part of my life. Do I think I made the right decision? As much as I realize that I let a couple of really awesome men slip out of my life, I know I made the only possible decision for me. Which obviously doesn't mean it would have been right for anyone else!
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| Jan 7, 2006 @ 8:21 PM |
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Classy_Blonde
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Heaven,
I did the same as you. For many years, I was caught up in a full-time job, college, tending to two homes, church activities, etc.
I made a choice not to date, because I felt it would not be fair to my significant other. There just wasn't enough time left for HIM.
Now that I'm retired, my college degree is out of the way, and I'm down to one home and no renters, it is time to focus on a commited relationship. It feels good.  
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| Jan 7, 2006 @ 8:49 PM |
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torees121
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Well spiritually I am fine. It took alot of years searching but I have finally found what make me happy.
I am 35 (36 on the 21st) and have reached most of my goals for myself so far. I have set further goals and that keeps me motivated. I am working on being healthier and working out more.
Emotionally ... I feel a void. I wish I had someone there when I needed them. I have been burnt in the last year from a guy and from my best friend (no they didn't run off together). I know it will happen, but it has been 6 yrs since my divorce and I am starting to wonder when the day will come.....any way..other than that I am also a "happy camper"
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| Jan 7, 2006 @ 10:50 PM |
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Aselune
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Well Happy Birthday Torees I'm tryin to keep 36 warm for you...I turn 37 on the 17th,,,lol
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