| Jan 15 @ 5:20 AM |
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Lesmundo2006
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A recent reply to my request to see a profile photo:
".... your concerns over picture are completely unfounded in my mind ...."
How can you say that to me, a photographer & expect to get away with it? 
For me, apart from my trusty camera, the internet is full of fakers, scammers & loads of half-wits. The rest of us are naive to a certain level, but cautious.
On the idea of looking for a partner or even a friend, we do go on 1st appearances. Conclusions can be make on lifestyle, mannerisms, behaviour & many more aspects without thinking of the stereotypic prejudices.
We also have certain looks that we are attracted to & to say otherwise is an outright lie. If we are looking for a partner, then the appearance of a person is a high.
Take yourself for instance (to women). If you meet a man for a date, do you go along in your typical lay-around-the-house look, or do you do yourself up a bit?
For him, but also for yourself.
For him - to make a good impression & get him to carry on being interested in you.
For yourself - for confidence & that feel-good factor.
So appearances are important, wouldn't you agree?
Likewise on this distance connection method, we like to see whom we are talking with.
Going further into that, I can now tell who is a faker about 80% of the time with a photo included. Only about 5% without a photo. So those who don't show photos are usually considered to be hiding something.
Now, I know that Irish people are a little afraid of neighbours & friends in close communities, making comments & creating gossip whenever possible. To be seen online looking for a partner does come across as a desperate measure, but that's an old fashioned idea.
That's in my mind anyway & in many millions of others online 
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| Jan 15 @ 7:18 AM |
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eyesofastranger
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Me and me only, a pic is not needed. I met my wife online but not a dating site. We talked every day on yahoo or qq chat then later we talked on the phone every day also. I got to know exactly who she is and what she believes. It was about 15 months when I agreed to meet her. She didn't have a pic but sent one her sister had taken. She said she could make arrangements to chat with me at a local web cafe that had webcams. I did think about it but, I came to the conclusion that if I fly blind this is a clear message that who she is for me is much more important. Just before leaving on my trip to meet her she dug up a pic from when she was 19yo. I sent her some pics and my most recent passport pic so she could find me in an airport.
The next trip to her country I married her and brought her back home with me. we have been together for almost 6 years.
So your curious what she looks like. She is the most honest person I have ever met. Asian 5'3" 100lbs hair down to her bum and the most perfect bum I know of on earth today. Maybe the cosmos rewarded me for being honest to what I wanted and not what it looked like?
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| Jan 18 @ 1:10 PM |
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Lesmundo2006
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Well Eyes, you certainly surprised me.
Not the unsighted love thing, but that I actually got a reply.
I was just writing this, to have on my profile, so stop the constant stream of contacts that are picture-less.
So Eyes, only 1 thing to say to you - congratulations!!! to both of you.
I wish you both, the best & a long & happy future together.
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| Jan 18 @ 2:30 PM |
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jamminjerry
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duh! just maybe we are visual critters! even the women. in my case when a woman says she has an "average" figure/body i go look at her pic(s) and agree or disagree!. most of the women are right about being average. 5'2 and 180 lbs is about average. its like when i was in the military, the "average" score for my career field was about 118-119 with 120 being perfect. LOL and so, if 99% of my peers are that close to perfect it is easy to say "average". paradoxically, i doubt if any of my peers came within 10 points of my actual "scores". and so, chubettes rule!!! we be jammin! 
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| Jan 18 @ 2:40 PM |
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redhairNfreckles
Posts: 4,698
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*thinking outloud*......some peeps around here have such a high opinion of themselves they think "cowboys" are the hottest thing on earth..... 
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| Jan 18 @ 2:47 PM |
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Loreli
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Unfortunately, we cannot always tell if a pic is real.
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| Jan 18 @ 2:49 PM |
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blueyes101
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You are nothing but lucky she was as attractive on the outside as inside. ( to you ).
As most can attest, this is rarely the case. And there is nothing worse than dedicating your time, only to find the image your mind has created doesn't match.....
Maybe, looks don't matter to some, or even their body type. And good for you, for the rest of us, I need a face to put with the words.
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| Jan 18 @ 2:52 PM |
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BandTMom
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But pics can be proved to be real.
3 of my pics were taken by other MD members. 
Maybe, looks don't matter to some, or even their body type. And good for you, for the rest of us, I need a face to put with the words.
Looks are usually the first thing that attract us to a person. No matter what anyone says, looks do matter for we each have a certain "type" that we find attractive. A person doesn't have to be the model type to be attractive either....at least for me.
[Edited on 1/18/2009 2:55 PM]
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| Jan 18 @ 2:53 PM |
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painter007
Posts: 17,854
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Good point Loreli........
And I always ask someone if they dont have a pic posted if they go out in public with a bag over their head....
Its also a plus if the pics are updated and in a natural setting.....jmo
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| Jan 18 @ 2:58 PM |
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Gallows_Humor
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| Jan 18 @ 3:08 PM |
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blueyes101
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I see folks who are serious about dating, and have no picture, to be hypocrites, I mean they looked at your picture, and then contacted you. Right ?
Why not just pick up the phone, and call random numbers, when someone from the opposite sex answers, ask if they are single, and try to get to know them. I mean, at least you are in the same area. 
Or, only accept blind dates.... Every single date you ever go on, should be set up by someone else, because looks don't matter right ?
I personally feel I can put up with a few quirks easier than I can being with someone I'm not physically attracted too.
And, if that makes me shallow, I guess it really doesn't matter what you call it, it is just who I am. I can't change that about me. I also, have little control over my looks, so why try to change or hide it ?
All you can do is move through your life with your eyes, and heart wide open.
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| Jan 18 @ 3:29 PM |
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BandTMom
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Exactly, Blu.
How many of us have "fallen in love" with an internet persona and when it comes to meet, the sparks aren't there mainly because we are not physically attracted to them?? It happens all the time.
We fall in love with the total package....looks, mind, and spirit.
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| Jan 18 @ 3:38 PM |
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Loreli
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But pics can be proved to be real.
3 of my pics were taken by other MD members.
Of course some can....did I say all? 
Then you have to believe the people that took them.
These sites are a chance, a risk....but put SOMETHING up and let interested people check the validity.
Cripes.
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| Jan 18 @ 3:52 PM |
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BandTMom
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I didn't say you said all, Lori. Just putting my my 2 cents worth.
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| Jan 18 @ 3:57 PM |
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blueyes101
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I saw a profile yesterday, she had 4 pics up,. Not one of them was in focus, or she had Vaseline on the lens.....
I mean what's the purpose ? So, I asked myself, is she really that ugly, or just too stupid to handle taking a picture ? Maybe her kids took it, but why post it ?
I mean, I'm sure she gets attention, but not serious, attention....... The only men who would contact her, are the ones everybody else has rejected, or someone who just wants to get laid. Maybe I'm wrong, but I doubt it....
She did state she has gained weight since her surgery........
So, post a pic of both, what you looked like before, and after... that is an accurate representation. Here is what I look like now, here is what I used to look like, and hope to get back to...... maybe to some that is TMI, but it is better then an out of focus pic..
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| Jan 18 @ 4:08 PM |
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Loreli
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I didn't have any pics up for a year....I don't have fancy cameras, scanners, etc.
Nobody takes my pic...I'm usually the pic taker.
So it will still be a bit before I get new ones....but I dated a man from here last winter that I think would vouch for them being ME and being real...
[Edited on 1/18/2009 4:16 PM]
[Edited on 1/18/2009 4:17 PM]
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| Jan 18 @ 9:22 PM |
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Jalon
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<~~~~~~~~~~~~~This is totally REALLY me...(and my buddy Pat).
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| Jan 18 @ 9:34 PM |
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meanjolene
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"Irish"...and loving my tinfoil hat. Can't some of us just innocently lurk and interact via internet without looks being a concern? I'm just speaking here as someone who doesn't understand the online "dating" thing, whatever that means...
Jeez, I'm getting more paranoid by the minute
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| Jan 18 @ 9:52 PM |
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lj450
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I would argue the opposite. Why have a profile? Just a picture is all you need to "get started". Everyone lies or embellishes on their profiles anyway. Call it putting your best foot forward, or whatever you want, its the same thing. Most people describe "who they want to be" rather than who they really are.
Sure pictures can be fake, but so can profile information....and a picture (any picture) is worth a thousand words.
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| Jan 19 @ 2:32 PM |
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blueyes101
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Absolutely right, I would rather they list the wrong city or even country, and only have a pic, so you at least have some idea who you are talking to........
And anyone, who does not have a pic, I doubt they can't say they have never checked out the profile of anybody who does......
To me, that's like going to singles bar, and watching people through a two way mirror, you get to see them, but they don't get to see you.
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