| Jan 10, 2006 @ 10:09 PM |
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spongebob777
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I'm just curious if your mom was the caregiver or the enforcer?
Mine was definitely the enforcer judge juror and executioner. My dad would get mad but he was easy and would act as bail bondsman when there was a sentence to be carried out.
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| Jan 10, 2006 @ 10:12 PM |
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lookingforfun147
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My mom was the caregiver spoiled the kids and my dad rotten and now she is my best friend. 
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| Jan 10, 2006 @ 10:14 PM |
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wandaful123
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My mom would make alot of noise about "wait 'till your father gets home" he was usually drunk when he got there... but would do what was required. He would come upstairs with the belt, we'd be ready with colouring books or magazines in our pj's... he'd laugh quietly and belt away... mom was satisfied and we were ok too!
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| Jan 10, 2006 @ 10:37 PM |
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spongebob777
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He would come upstairs with the belt, we'd be ready with colouring books or magazines in our pj's... he'd laugh quietly and belt away
My dad supplied the belt but couldn't do the deed himself. Guess we were lucky he wasn't a mean drunk.
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| Jan 10, 2006 @ 10:37 PM |
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danae74
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My mom was the enforcer until we got too big for her; then she was the snitch, like Wanda's mom. She'd threaten to sic dad on us, which was actually worse...delayed punishment is the worst kind!
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| Jan 10, 2006 @ 10:39 PM |
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torees121
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I was never spanked or grounded as a child. My teenage years I was very much a juvenile deliquent. I wanted my parents to show me boundaries but it never happened. This is why I say discipline is love. (not abuse, but proper discipline)
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| Jan 10, 2006 @ 10:43 PM |
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spongebob777
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My stepmother is a scary one. She never really needed to punish us but she cured me of biting my fingernails by smacking me everytime she caught me doing it.
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| Jan 10, 2006 @ 10:45 PM |
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wandaful123
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Guess we were lucky he wasn't a mean drunk.
Us too Sponge, not so great for her though, in hindsight... and I agree torres, we all need discipline, the "right" kind!
Danae, we were never scared, knew we were a step ahead of him!
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| Jan 10, 2006 @ 11:12 PM |
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Angel54214
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I can't share my mom cause I an orphan.... 
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| Jan 10, 2006 @ 11:23 PM |
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definitelydi
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Both, as she was divorced!
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| Jan 10, 2006 @ 11:25 PM |
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Classy_Blonde
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No doubt about it.
Caregiver. She called everyone Honey, and Sweetie, and there were lots of hugs. She hasn't changed much. 
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| Jan 11, 2006 @ 1:14 AM |
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Solitaire
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My mom was definitely the primary caregiver, but also the one to administer the day-to-day minor discipline. Big stuff was turned over to dad who was the lecture type. You know, how you have let down the family, how it reflects on our parents, society, ect. Mom just did the groundings or resstrictions.
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| Jan 12, 2006 @ 12:41 AM |
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keeno
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my mom was abusive verbally and i was adopted by her forth husband. he was the best dad a guy could hope for fishing hunting, caring talks mixed in with the chores. he passed the day before my birhday this year. i was on my way home when it happened. i will miss him forever.
enjoy the day, ken
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| Jan 12, 2006 @ 1:06 AM |
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Pete73052
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Both mom and dad applied punishment equally. Mom gave up when she broke a wooden spoon over me and I laughed at her. 
For my kids, I pretended to be the punishing dad. I'd go up to their rooms - wink at them, pretend to yell and clap my hands. They would pretend to cry (so the other two kids would shape up). After a while they all realized I was playing the same trick on each of them.
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| Jan 12, 2006 @ 4:37 PM |
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2Biatchy4U
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I was never spanked or grounded as a child. My teenage years I was very much a juvenile deliquent. I wanted my parents to show me boundaries but it never happened. This is why I say discipline is love. (not abuse, but proper discipline)
Ditto
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| Jan 12, 2006 @ 4:41 PM |
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kattsmeow
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My mother was the Queen of the castle. She knew when to let dad "think " he was right too.
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| Jan 12, 2006 @ 6:03 PM |
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Ladyhawk920
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Well having a German mom need I say more?.....ENFORCER!! (Like Arnold's "I'll be back") 
All in all, she gave love in addition to punishment which is important to balance the two.
Of course, I'm an enforcer too!!! but also the only parent raising her at home. My hand was quick to pop a butt when needed or a smart mouth. Now, I don't have a problem with discipline....all I have to do is look at her...lol
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| Jan 12, 2006 @ 7:11 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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My mom was an alcoholic. She could be caregiver, enforcer or just plain terrifying depending on how much she'd been drinking and the mood that hit her. When I was 6, my brother fell and broke his arm. I had to calm mom down, put together a makeshift sling for my brother and remind her that there was a doctor a block away...she was too hysterical to think straight. That set the pattern for the rest of my childhood, and probably for the rest of my life.
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| Jan 12, 2006 @ 7:20 PM |
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Star22
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I know what you mean Ladyhawke, my mom was German also. I lost her a year ago.
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| Jan 13, 2006 @ 5:33 AM |
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beatriceistheone
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I still bite my nails. Always hated the witch look on woman who have long nails. Did you ever notice that people who don't have much in the looks department (physically) always have long manicured nails?
Secondly, my Mom was a widow @ 25 so she was both parents. I think that by not growing up with a father I don't fear men or put them on some type of pedestal that other women do. I remember her smacking us around alot. I believe it gave her a sense of control. I think it was overdone like it is in most two parent families. However, I don't believe in time out and spoiling children either. Look at what its done in this generation, raised a bunch of self-absorbed overindulged spoiled children. There has to be a healthy medium somewhere. Too bad more people don't take child development course in college before having children.
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