| Jan 17, 2006 @ 11:09 PM |
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Angel54214
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I see many threads about Mothers and Fathers, I don't fit in them to contribute. I was an Orphan at less than a year old until I was 2 years old. I became a ward of the state (New Hampshire) until I was 18; A Foster child. Went from home to home, I can recall about 8 different families I was raised in. Any one else that had this kind of life? It would be nice to talk about it with those that have...
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| Jan 18, 2006 @ 8:23 AM |
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waiting41
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Angel 
Thank you for sharing this information.
I am not one of these adults, but, being a former DSS worker it is nice to hear a success story. You are an incredible woman after having gone through this as a child! 
Unfortunately some do not come through these situations as "survivors" and I am happy that you did. 
Wow. Sometimes it just amazes me what you find out about people. I am up off the floor now............ 
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| Jan 18, 2006 @ 9:29 AM |
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torees121
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Angel I wish my client's children would grow up to be as well adjusted as you are. Some of them are having a rough time right now being in foster care. I have never been in placement, so I do not know how they feel.
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| Jan 18, 2006 @ 10:20 AM |
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Angel54214
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Thanks Waiting and Torees...Being adjusted took years of healing. Still have the scars though. My foster child arrearing years left me many years searching for my family. Found my siblings and my parents. My real Dad, I think he was anyways, just passed away last April. He was not a good family man. Found out he committed bigamy 3 times. He said my Father was a taxi cab driver...lol. I told one of my brothers that I hoped he was better looking than he was. Poor dear old dad, left a baby Angel at a church in a box. So here I am, still roaming about life, wanting to learn everything and want to learn what love truly is instead of what love isn't.
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| Jan 18, 2006 @ 11:06 AM |
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LadyWlf
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I was adopted right before I turned 5...spent a lot of time in various foster homes and with family members before that happened. I reconnected with my real brother back when I was 18. Never had a desire to meet up with my birth parents tho. Wouldn't be a pretty picture I don't think. It can be rough I know
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| Jan 18, 2006 @ 12:08 PM |
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Always_Striving
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I was raised by wild penguins, then later on in life ran around with a roughty pack of hamsters, we got into a lot of mischeivous trouble. I survived to tell this story and share all my wonderful life experiences with my friends here on Match Doctor.
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| Jan 18, 2006 @ 12:20 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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I was raised by wild penguins, then later on in life ran around with a roughty pack of hamsters, we got into a lot of mischeivous trouble. I survived to tell this story and share all my wonderful life experiences with my friends here on Match Doctor
lol@Striving...you are funny 
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| Jan 18, 2006 @ 9:49 PM |
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Angel54214
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Aww Always! You want to be adopted? We can call you "Chilly Willy"
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| Jan 19, 2006 @ 8:20 AM |
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hopeful_lady
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I have always wanted my Original Birth Certificate but the State of Pennsylvania will not send it to me because I was an Adoptee. This is most unfair. I have a redone copy of a birth certificate that only gives the adopted parents names, how can one get the original? 
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| Jan 19, 2006 @ 11:51 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Aww Always! You want to be adopted? We can call you "Chilly Willy
lol@Angel 
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| Jan 19, 2006 @ 12:00 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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the adopted parents names, how can one get the original?
You need to write to the:
Vital Statistics Agency
Address
City, State, Zip
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| Jan 19, 2006 @ 3:46 PM |
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hopeful_lady
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The State of PA has all adoptees original birth certificates "Sealed" meaning, they will not give me an original showing my birth parents. I have the copy which was sent to me with my adopted parents names only as my parents. Here I am 60 years old and cannot have an Original Birth Certificate. 
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| Jan 19, 2006 @ 4:25 PM |
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danae74
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Hopeful, you probably can't get it, not without a court order from a judge. It has to be (more or less) a life-threatening circumstance; for instance, if you or any of your children developed a mysterious disease, you could petition for rights to contact your biological family for info. The court order is rarely granted, though.
In Texas, you have the right to non-identifying information about your birth parents, including ethnic heritage, and whatever medical info the mother filled out at the time of the adoption. Find out what agency did your adoption, and write to them. I had to pay $75 for my information, but it was worth it! There are also numerous national adoption registries that you can sign up for; if your biological family ever signs up, too, you could get in touch with them that way.
I was also adopted at birth, in a closed, sealed-records adoption, by the way...
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| Jan 20, 2006 @ 2:27 PM |
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chinabull2000
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I was abandoned at birth, and lived in a childrens home for about 6 months before I was adopted. My brother and sister are also adopted, and we all have different ethnicities.
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| Jan 21, 2006 @ 8:09 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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The Child Of Woe
My heart is heavy, For the child of woe. why time has forgotten the children that sit in institutions, waiting for a family of their own.The child that goes to bed with an empty belly. Oh the child of woe.Is there any hope for a child, such as these. Do we live knowing a child is in need of one special person to love and care for them.I know there are good people, who do help these children, But there is so much more help needed. Open your heart to just one child and
you will never regret it. For a child will love you, more than any-thing you have ever known.
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| Dec 16, 2006 @ 10:38 AM |
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Empath
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Here sits a product of 'the system'
Sit with me and speak awhile
And learn what has been done
It was easy to take me
And place me, not keep me
Or raise me tall
You failed me
As I failed you
Like the wilted flower
I was not nurtured
Nor put out in the sun
I have not blossomed beautiful
I have not made you proud
I had my chance
I see I did
When I was but a child
How could I have known
My child's mind, with a child's thoughts
A child's hopes
A child's dreams
All for naught
When this child grew up alone
I am glad to have found this thread, as I have been considering starting one along the same lines.
I, too, am a product of the system, partially raised in foster care.
Excellent topic, Angel, as there are so many issues that require healing. It is a long journey, for sure, and at times quite frustrating. As if Life doesn't throw enough at people....
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| Dec 16, 2006 @ 11:17 AM |
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steveemac
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I am half-adopted: my mother is my biological; my dad adopted me when he married my mom.
People in NH must have been poor, blind, or stupid not to want you, Angel; if you were half as adorable as a kid as you are now...
I hope someday to be a foster parent; but I gotta work on getting my own life into some semblance of order 1st...my aunt and uncle-in their 60's-are doing a lot of foster parenting; they formally adopted one of the teenagers, and their oldest daughter and her husband just adopted a pre-teen that was in her parent's care.
What a great way to grow a family!
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| Dec 16, 2006 @ 12:32 PM |
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twotall911
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I was also adopted at four days of age and went to their home at 10 days the only thing i could find out was my real name not where i was born or who the parents were they didnt have to give that out or make a record back then sad isnt it never got to know my real family.so i ended up with a birth registration only
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| Dec 16, 2006 @ 1:43 PM |
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luvmycats
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sad isnt it never got to know my real family
Awwww...Twotall, you come on up here, I will be your little sister...
Ok, BABY sister.
I always thought I was adopted. My oldest sister used to tell me I was. She said our uncles cow found me on a rock and Mom felt sorry for me so she adopted me. I'd go running to mom just a cryin' and ask her if I was adopted. She'd ask me why I beleived my sister...but she never told her to STOP telling me that.
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| Dec 16, 2006 @ 2:15 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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TwoTALL well you are one of the Family here and Im honored to call you family as I am with all the MDers 
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