| Jan 18, 2006 @ 10:38 PM |
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ILLLOOK
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Why would someone take abusive from someone then do everything to get away just to call them to start it all over???? 
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| Jan 18, 2006 @ 10:40 PM |
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spongebob777
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If I had the answer to that I would bottle it, sell it and hire Bill Gates as a butler.
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| Jan 18, 2006 @ 10:43 PM |
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waiting41
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It can be many reasons.
Sometimes the abuser has control over the abusee.
Sometimes the abuse is "comfortable" for the abusee because it is what they are familiar with.
Sometimes they abusee believes the false promises of the abuser......more control issues.
Sometimes it can be financial reasons, family reasons, etc...
It's a very complicated issue.
Low self-esteem
On some level think they deserve it
Abused as a child........the list goes on
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| Jan 18, 2006 @ 10:47 PM |
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ILLLOOK
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It's unbelieveable I went to her place packed all her stuff and brought her to my place. I paid to have her car towed , I have drove her to work fed her and have not ask for anything except that he not know. I guess that makes me fool or something like that.
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| Jan 18, 2006 @ 10:47 PM |
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crackerchickie
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Low self esteem and maybe a feeling that they couldn't do better...just a guess.
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| Jan 18, 2006 @ 10:50 PM |
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lookingforfun147
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Fear is a powerful thing....
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| Jan 18, 2006 @ 10:56 PM |
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RAKS37
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Along that line
What do you do when she comes back.
I have a junkie that shows up at my door about every three months when she has no place to go.
I know I'm doing her no real good but let her in just the same.
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| Jan 18, 2006 @ 11:10 PM |
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ILLLOOK
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Well she didnt come back except for work she hasnt gone anywhere. the car I paid to have towed to my house her mom gave her she drove it to where she did live and then the next day some how the gas tank got a leak so it dripped on the muffler lucky her boyfriend found the leak (right) thats why I had it towed I was going to fix it. I just don't get it if she hadnt called him he would not of found her. he didnt know where I lived
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| Jan 18, 2006 @ 11:14 PM |
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wandaful123
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I guess that makes me fool or something like that.
ILLOOK, not trying to be rude, but the reality is... this is not about you, it is about her and you are not in control. Were you expecting something in return? Do what you can to help if thats whats in your heart, but do so with no expectations and you can't be hurt.
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| Jan 18, 2006 @ 11:23 PM |
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Seamonkey836
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I dont know what causes it,,, But I thank God she is GONE !
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| Jan 18, 2006 @ 11:25 PM |
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ILLLOOK
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I didnt ask for anything at all. well 1 thing that he not be told where I live dont think thats to much to ask. the guy collects 502 s for a hobby not sure where you see that I want any thing please enlighten me what you think I wanted
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| Jan 18, 2006 @ 11:25 PM |
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lookingforfun147
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Excellent answer wanda...
ILLOOK and RAK I will have to say that you guys are nuturers....which are great but just make sure your doing things that help them to the good and not just to make you feel good. 
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| Jan 18, 2006 @ 11:28 PM |
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ILLLOOK
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shes not gone my home is open to any one that knows me. Hes in jail he was drunk and smarted off to the cops and the cops to him away.
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| Jan 18, 2006 @ 11:30 PM |
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wandaful123
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not sure where you see that I want any thing
What lookingforfun said...
Please understand this is not meant to be an insult, just a suggestion to look within
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| Jan 18, 2006 @ 11:30 PM |
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RAKS37
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I have no clue how to help someone like this or iilooks friend.
A place to stay is all I have.
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| Jan 18, 2006 @ 11:36 PM |
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ILLLOOK
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This has nothing to do with me not sure what you mean. Just wanted to know what goes on in someones mind that they would have a chance to change things in there life but would rather go back to being beat up all the time. My friends know they call me and ask me for anything and if it is with in my power I will do it and I dont ask for anything well every once in a while I will ask for a home cooked meal
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| Jan 18, 2006 @ 11:39 PM |
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waiting41
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ILLLOOK........apparently you are going to get advice here whether you want any or not. I was simply trying to answer the question you asked.
You may want to state whether you even want people's advice.......not that it would matter........and I know they are trying to help.........you probably NEED some good advice, but, are YOU ready to listen??
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| Jan 18, 2006 @ 11:41 PM |
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ILLLOOK
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If you want to know why I do these thing its because a Lady name Loni Todd gave a drug dealing jerk a chance to change his life and he took it and swore he would always do the same for others
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| Jan 18, 2006 @ 11:45 PM |
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ILLLOOK
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No advise needed I would do it again. and again I just want to know why.
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| Jan 18, 2006 @ 11:46 PM |
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wandaful123
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and this is a good thing ILLOOK, all I'm saying is give the same opportunities but expect nothing in return. When they are ready they will accept the doors placed before them, untill then there is nothing you can do, and you cannot or should I say, should not, get upset when they are not yet ready or able to open those doors. Do what you feel s right, but do ot question others reactions. You are not in control...
There need not be an answer to why others behaive as they do... just continue being true to yourself
[Edited on 1/18/2006 11:47 PM]
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