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Oct 3, 2010 @ 2:36 PM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
CaptainFlea


Posts: 5,268
One quick glance at the top general threads and you see why people are getting tired of the fighting and meanness, and deciding to leave.
This place is starting to resemble Junior high school.

Jen just sent me a email mentioning that her dog Jordon just passed, surrounded by his loving family, and she was just stopping by to delete her account.
There went another good one.

Yeah we still have some good people left, but i have to wonder how many people have left and will leave, because of the policy to delete politics and religion, therefore causing them to proliferate through the rest of MD]

I eventually learned to stay out of the political and religious forums, unless i had endless hours to waste doing trivial back and forth and accelerating my blood pressure.,. But now as it spreads through all of the forums like little land mines. it is hard to see it coming, and before you know it, you are in a fight.

I am hopeful for more positive threads
And no, it is not a virtue to tear someone down.
If you disagree with someone.. debate them on the merits of the issue, but only if you have the time a patience for the back and forth, if not, then just drop it.
Don't attack someone personally.. because when you do, it just looks like you lost the argument, and had to resort to childish behavior to even the score.

Maybe we can lure some of the people back that have left, and keep more from leaving, if we can just treat each other a little better. .
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Oct 3, 2010 @ 3:01 PM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
gypsy29


Posts: 1,965
I TOTALLY agree!!!!! We need the religion and politics forum back so the rest of MD can go back to normal.

And here's an idea..... stop calling people names just because they may disagree with you..... just a thought.

~pouting cause I like Jen~
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Oct 3, 2010 @ 3:03 PM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
Always_Striving


Posts: 9,953
This place is starting to resemble Junior high school.

Ha, that's pretty funny. Do you know how many times I've read that same complaint since I've joined this website?
That happens when people get to know the habits of colleagues online. They become acclimated to their fellow patrons of the blogs and forums. They are so comfortable know that they are no longer shy to express their opinions now.

Egos are now at stake!

CaptainFlea don't be surprised if you see some newbie come online in a year or two and make that same exact comment which you made.

The reasons that people come and go are their own.
Some have taken personal insult.
Some have obligations or activities which interfere with online time.
Some people just get bored of it.
Some come here with the quest for love or to bang someone and discover this was a bad idea and move on.
Some people come here to scam and troll.
Some come here to find friends and once they find the creme of the crop they collect and exchange e-mails with their friends then they quit the site.

Nothing lasts forever.
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Oct 3, 2010 @ 3:04 PM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
Gallows_Humor


Posts: 16,779
imho.. there are only a few posters who are guilty of perpetuation of the fighting and meanness.. the rest are caught up in the flow of it..

some embrace the mean posters because they want to be a member of the club..

some emulate the mean posters because they think they are justified..

others just don't know any better... and start playing at the lower levels..even in the gutter

others still see the error of their ways..and like a converted Christian ...go overboard in their self righteous zeal to condemn...

as a veteran of the P&C and R&S forums it is nothing new for me..ssdd...

I am sorry to hear about Jens' dog... and wish her well... and if she decides to come back again will welcome her...


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Oct 3, 2010 @ 4:03 PM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
Tommygirl46


Posts: 1,482
I am sad because MD is not the same as it was 5 years ago when i joined. I have met a lot of nice people here and it saddens me to see them go. I think some of it due to the changes here such as the chat room being deleted and the creation of other sites such as FB and Myspace. Though I can't stand Myspace because it has so many pop ups and can shut down my computer. I do have some friends from here on FB. But I would love to see MD the way it use to be.
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Oct 3, 2010 @ 4:49 PM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
Jankia


Posts: 14,851
People have always been leaving but we only notice that the "awesome" people leaving happen to be those that we befriend.Those that arent close arent noticed.
Those that leave because of a personal insult is understandable but few can survive with a short fuse in an online forum anyway.
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Oct 3, 2010 @ 5:29 PM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
Loreli


Posts: 31,995
Jen will definitely be missed.
She added so much to fun, funny, serious, without ever trying to draw attention to herself.

Yet she got it, deservedly, because of the wonderful person she is.

I did see that about her dog somewhere else. I went through that a year ago....I know how she feels.

Luv ya Jen

It's getting repetitive mean, and stupid, and, some-batting eyelashes to impress.
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Oct 3, 2010 @ 6:56 PM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
missliss78


Posts: 7,665
Jen is an awesome lady.
And I certainly understand her feelings/needs to leave the site.
Hopefully, she will return at some point.

I agree with what CaptainFlea has stated here, as well as I agree with GH, Jankia, Always....basically everyone has made a good, valid point.

I've been watching/noticing the people leaving the site for some time now.
A number of people flew the coup when MD shut down the chat room & instant message capabilities. Many have left at numerous other times....fleeing the blog section or the forums, whichever they were most active in. Some leave as a natural progression, others leave because of the meanness & hatred here.

I'm sure I would probably leave if I had a significant other come into my life. Or, I could guarantee I wouldn't be on line here to the extent I am now. Frankly, I don't think a lot of internet time is good for perpetuating a healthy real life relationship.

Thus far, none of the ugliness has prompted me to ever delete my profile. But I'm here to say it's getting worse & worse since the religious & political forums were removed. Like some one else here stated...it's spilled over everywhere & you inadvertently run into it. I say inadvertently, as I am a big proponent of "if you don't like it, don't read it."

Unfortunately, I got lured into what I interpret as an argumentative thread a couple of days ago. I did manage to turn right around & leave after just a couple of posts though. I don't understand the mindset of some people who seem to determine to "convince" others or always be right, but there are lots of those types in our society.

I think this site is big enough for most of us, quite honestly.
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Oct 3, 2010 @ 7:54 PM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
AGBDF289


Posts: 227
Familiarity breeds contempt.

You get to know a person, (as much as you can on the net) and they talk with you. You talk with them. You both talk with other people. And chatter starts, behind the scenes emailing, questioning, speculating, lying, gossiping, cheating...it could be any number of things.

Seems the best anyone can do is keep their own nose clean. Yanno?
The Golden Rule and all that?
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Oct 3, 2010 @ 8:05 PM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
missliss78


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^^^More excellent points!

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Oct 3, 2010 @ 8:13 PM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
SensualGemini


Posts: 13,986
...Maybe it is because "Awesome people" find other "Awesome people" in the real world and that life becomes more important than the virtual world.

...Instead of welcoming new people, which of course, includes the scammers and spammers, maybe Jankia is right... as there have been many come and go unnoticed.

...And maybe the real concern is selfish, in that one by one, the accepted clique is leaving. Folks, this was never intended to be your life, but an avenue, another tool to find a life.

...Although she is at several other places, maybe someone should create a goodbye Jen thread.

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Oct 3, 2010 @ 9:00 PM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
missliss78


Posts: 7,665
..Although she is at several other places, maybe someone should create a goodbye Jen thread.

Jen is my FRIEND, which means I know how to contact her.
However, considering she is already gone & she didn't deem in necessary to notify everyone, I don't really think a 'good-bye Jen' thread is necessary.

Just my 2cents.
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Oct 3, 2010 @ 9:35 PM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
gogetter1956


Posts: 4,093
As far as I know you don't need an acount here to read the forums, you just can't post. Jen, for instance could read a thread or post dedicated to her.

Hi Jen
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Oct 3, 2010 @ 9:43 PM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
missliss78


Posts: 7,665


okay.


so which of you compassionate gentlemen are going to get that thread going for sweet JenRN then?
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Oct 3, 2010 @ 10:36 PM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
Loinlee_Sole


Posts: 9,829
<<< awesome........and more right than left
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Oct 3, 2010 @ 11:22 PM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
sweet5red


Posts: 13,115
i keep up with most on FB now and also have many personal email addresses. i have alot going on too with 2 much work and dad being sick and under hospice care now.. and handling his personal business.. but most know where to reach me if need be.. xoxoxo sweet N Louisiana
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Oct 3, 2010 @ 11:47 PM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
AGBDF289


Posts: 227
People maintain a much better sense of civility on FB.
Why?
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Oct 4, 2010 @ 12:07 AM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
SensualGemini


Posts: 13,986
Liss: However, considering she is already gone & she didn't deem in necessary to notify everyone, I don't really think a 'good-bye Jen' thread is necessary.

...You are the one hoping "she will return at some point" and I am thinking why? My first thought is misery loves company and my second thought is that people voluntarily create their life in a virtual world.

...I hope she is enjoying life and has reason to stay gone... as this virtual world is not living.


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Oct 4, 2010 @ 2:55 AM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
musicianfriend


Posts: 3,102
PEOPLE LEAVE HERE BECAUSE OF HATEFUL BLOGS LIKE THIS..ATTACKING OTHERS WHO ARE MINDING THEIR OWN BUSINESS..

This guy has done this many times...and so have others...

Most the most horrible of trolls are gone..but before they left..a wave of very good conservative posters left...BECAUSE OF THE RESIDENT TROLLS..

The instigator..Napa..seems to be gone...Hallelujah ...good riddance dont let the door bump your butt when you leave..

Many were making blogs...constantly complaining about others...about what they blogged..even though..these constant nags had a choice...to go..or not to go...it was their choice..

Its amazing to me...how utterly unconnected some people re tio rational thinking...

Dont go to the blog..if you dont like it...its pretty simple..huh...


Instead ..they write rude blogs against others..

And that was the death of MD....trolls....and their blogs attacking others..for no reason..other than thats what trolls do...destroy everything in their path.

This isnt the first site Ive been on that wasn't destroyed by the ultra leftists..
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Oct 4, 2010 @ 4:42 AM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
Suthn_Man


Posts: 11,239
Please keep in mind that online banter at a place like this is not, nor should it be, a replacement for human interaction in real life.

Virtual emotions online, and real life emotions are not the same thing, and its not healthy to confuse them. When you have never even met the other person, you can't truly love them, or love becomes much more frivolous than it should be. Yet this is widely known to be an addictive reaction when someone is getting too caught up in, or too dependent on, their online activities.

See this for what it really is. Simple recreation. Fun and interesting interaction with others. Not as any kind of replacement for something else.

People who leave may be back or they may not. Many come and go and come back again. Others never do.

If they didn't tell you they were leaving, or why, they probably didn't feel you needed to know. And that's not something one should anguish about or become all emotional about. Just accept it, let it roll off, and move on. They probably have their reasons. We just don't know what they were, because they didn't say.

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