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Oct 4, 2010 @ 5:43 AM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
southernlass


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Okay..I suggest you go into the counseling field, Suthn' man. That was excellent advice.
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Oct 4, 2010 @ 6:12 AM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
Suthn_Man


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Thank ya Ms Lass.

Especially coming from a pro.

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Oct 4, 2010 @ 7:48 AM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
Angel178


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Jen,

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can relate as my loss of Sheba is only a few months old. My thoughts are with you and your family.
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Oct 4, 2010 @ 9:26 AM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
Gallows_Humor


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See this for what it really is. Simple recreation. Fun and interesting interaction with others. Not as any kind of replacement for something else.

I strongly disagree here,,, the internet is a real thing.. and there are real people behind most profiles..

it is the exceptions who think that they can say and do anything they want without repercussions just because..it is .."Simple recreation. Fun and interesting interaction with others."


that are causing the problems


it is a part of every day life now..and most of us always keep the thought of..some day we will actually meet in real life.. and the hope is ..that the person will be the same or better than their on line persona...

that is why every time when .You SM attack me about my previous screen names..

..even when people have told you over and over that this person behind them..

Is the same person.... you are in the wrong.... because you are perpetuating a lie that you justify by thinking..

it's only..
Simple recreation. Fun and interesting interaction with others.

but there is hope for you yet.. whereass ..LJ is a lost cause...

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Oct 4, 2010 @ 10:12 AM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
AGBDF289


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I can relate as my loss of Sheba is only a few months old.
Sorry for your loss, Angel.
I too, have lost a pet. Not recently, but they're members of your family.
Their absence makes things never quite the same.
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Oct 4, 2010 @ 10:36 AM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
ohtayicu


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saw a couple posts / blogs that Jen was dating. MAYBE she got lucky, and doesn't need this site... ... ... ... the "friends" one makes here, can be given other contact points. or not...
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Oct 4, 2010 @ 11:42 AM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
Suthn_Man


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Gallows:
it is the exceptions who think that they can say and do anything they want without repercussions just because..it is .."Simple recreation. Fun and interesting interaction with others."

On the other hand, there are those who could never grasp such a concept. It just flies right over their heads, PHIIEEWW! ..or through their ears. --> .... and leaves them             

But thankfully, those are few and far between. Because we've seen what severe cyber-addiction does to certain people, who try to replace their own harsh reality with multiple virtual existences.

It ain't a purty sight! But it certainly does demonstrate the issue.

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Oct 4, 2010 @ 11:46 AM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
missliss78


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Suthn: Please keep in mind that online banter at a place like this is not, nor should it be, a replacement for human interaction in real life.

See this for what it really is. Simple recreation. Fun and interesting interaction with others. Not as any kind of replacement for something else.

G_H: I strongly disagree here,,, the internet is a real thing.. and there are real people behind most profiles..

I agree wholeheartedly with both of you. While I personally prefer to use this site for the pleasure of entertainment, I also have used it throughout the years to meet new people & make new friendships. While my life certainly does not revolve around what goes on here, I have made numerous real life friendships that I have & will continue to cherish for many years.

I've always taken issue when someone says something to the effect of "Oh...it's just the internet....those people don't matter." Well, yes it is the internet, but for the most part, the people DO matter. I think when the people begin NOT to matter is when there is indication we have our own set of 'issues.' As well, when people act out, over-step our personal boundaries or whatever we have the ability to totally ignore them or block them from our communications here. I think that's a good thing.

SG: You are the one hoping "she will return at some point" and I am thinking why? My first thought is misery loves company and my second thought is that people voluntarily create their life in a virtual world.

My hope that Jen might return is based on the fact that I know she has left the site on multiple occasions before & returned. I enjoy seeing her here. She adds a certain flair that I enjoy. She is kind, she is sweet, she is humorous, she is what she is. These are qualities that I really admire in a person.

Yes, there are some miserable people here....there are those who do live for what is here online. I don't think any of us here should be passing judgment on any of those people as we don't know what their individual circumstances may be.


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Oct 4, 2010 @ 11:55 AM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
lj450


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LJ is a lost cause...

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Oct 4, 2010 @ 11:59 AM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
missliss78


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Gotta love that guy!^^^^^^
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Oct 4, 2010 @ 12:18 PM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
Suthn_Man


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Good points MissLiss. Only those friendships have progressed beyond the occasional email stages, or simply exchanging an occasional forum post. You said you have met them and they have become real friends in the real world. There's no doubt that is possible, and even likely should we pursue to that extent. And there's certainly nothing wrong with doing that.

What I am referring to is those who replace their real world with a cyber-world, sit here 24/7, in effect, and there are way too many who do just that. This really is a well-known addiction for a lot of people. Somewhat similar to gambling addictions. And its something we need to know can be less than beneficial to us, and few are immune.

Now Gallows' misinterpretation (as usual), is not what I said at all. Hence the PHHEEEIIIWWW, right over his head. He just didn't comprehend the previous post. Mainly because he was trying only to be argumentative, as is his M.O.

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Oct 4, 2010 @ 12:21 PM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
lacyvsq


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Puppies and babies are such cute and wonderful creatures that we would like to hold on to them just as they are forever. But of course, we can't. They mature and become very different and we can choose to mourn the loss of the immaturity or we can celebrate the new experiences that their maturity brings.

It is more difficult to celebrate when those babies or puppies, still in infancy or in any stage of development leave us -- through death, running away, rebellion/turning on us... It seems easier for us to blame others for those kinds of losses -- and in so doing blame others for our feelings about those kinds of losses.

This site and the people who make it a community are ever changing. Maturity is accepting responsibility for my own acceptance of the changes and for my feelings about the people and the site.

I continue to celebrate the changes. I have met Jen among many others in the flesh. I TRUST that she and all the awesome people are making decisions that are right for them.

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Oct 4, 2010 @ 12:23 PM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
AGBDF289


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Only those friendships have progressed beyond the occasional email stages, or simply exchanging an occasional forum post. You said you have met them and they have become real friends in the real world. There's no doubt that is possible, and even likely should we pursue to that extent. And there's certainly nothing wrong with doing that.

I suspect more of that goes on than anyone suspects...yet everyone feels free to comment on that which they don't really know about.

Then of course, you get a long timer, making a statement about a person or topic, (and it might be true, it might not...but) depending who says it...it could be taken for truth or given more steam than it deserves. People are prone to putting their noses where it doesn't belong.
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Oct 4, 2010 @ 12:25 PM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
Loinlee_Sole


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i have a baby puppy.......he poops all the time.......we he ever grow up......and poop more?
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Oct 4, 2010 @ 12:35 PM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
AGBDF289


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Loinlee sit down for this. Are you sitting?

Yes, he will grow up. And then, the tootsie rolls will turn into something more akin to the size you make yourself. It's a sad fact, but true.

I'm sorry I had to tell you this. I've always liked you, but I couldn't sugar coat it.
Er...maybe that's not a good choice of words...but you get what I mean.
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Oct 4, 2010 @ 12:36 PM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
redhairNfreckles


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i have a baby puppy.......he poops all the time.......we he ever grow up......and poop more?

Oh yes he will! You can count on it!

[Edited on 10/4/2010 12:37 PM]
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Oct 4, 2010 @ 12:36 PM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
kattsmeow


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I'm sure I would probably leave if I had a significant other come into my life. Or, I could guarantee I wouldn't be on line here to the extent I am now. Frankly, I don't think a lot of internet time is good for perpetuating a healthy real life relationship.

One of the things I made known to my soon to be husband, 5 years ago was I would not give up my time, or friends that I love. What I mean by that is, we both have real life friends from here, and I would never ask him to stay away, nor would I expect him to ask me. People leave for different reason. At one time, there was no face book, or at least most didn't know about it. Myspace, and Facebook, and other social networks have came into play now. Why should a person sit here, and take abuse every time they post something, when they can control the comments on other places??? I won't leave here, I just log on a couple times a day if I want to see what people are saying.
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Oct 4, 2010 @ 12:37 PM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
missliss78


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Suthn: What I am referring to is those who replace their real world with a cyber-world, sit here 24/7, in effect, and there are way too many who do just that. This really is a well-known addiction for a lot of people. Somewhat similar to gambling addictions. And its something we need to know can be less than beneficial to us, and few are immune.

There are those who do this. Frankly, some days I am guilty of being here more than I SHOULD be or would like to be. This morning, I've sat here just waiting for the sun to come out & brighten my day. As it's beginning to do so, my time is running out here.....just let me get this one more post in.

That said, there are a lot of people with physically debilitating...or mentally debilitating....issues that keep them sitting in front of the computer all the time. Throughout my years of experience, I have found many alcoholics, drug junkies, people who are homebound due to accidents either suffering from short-term or long-term injuries.....I could go on & on. And yes, some people simply develop an addiction to the internet.

For myself...I tend to spend my evenings on line when I'm at home. I'm alone. I don't watch much tv. I don't read a lot. I don't have any hobbies such as sewing, knitting, or whatever. I surf the net. Of late, I do spend LESS time on MD, though.

And having mentioned I don't read a lot....when I DO read, I am usually reading to learn...I do not & will not use any of the postings here to learn. What is posted here is more opinion...including the links. If that's how others want to learn, then so be it...that's their prerogative. I have never understood, however, why someone would choose a site such as this to present there serious arguments/discussions on any issue to begin with.
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Oct 4, 2010 @ 12:39 PM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
Bj864


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See this for what it really is. Simple recreation. Fun and interesting interaction with others. Not as any kind of replacement for something else.

I disagree. It isn't always about recreation. It is about learning. It is about having debates. It is about expressing our views. It is about a lot of things other than recreation.

Look at the way cyber bullying has caused people (especially teens) to commit suicide.

There is NO excuse for bad behavior and we see a lot of that on all the forums. It can cause a lot of damage to people, especially people that are vulnerable or trying to deal with depression or other issues.

It gets tiresome dealing with this bad behavior and that is why I have to take a break now and then, to be able to tolerate it. I shouldn't have to tolerate it, but I do, if I want to take part in any forum

The one thing we need to remember that when these people insult you, it is not about you at all. It is about them. They are the one that has the problem.
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Oct 4, 2010 @ 12:49 PM Why are all the Awesome people leaving MD?    
Heaveninawildflower


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Personally, I try hard not to generalize. There are some people on here with whom I actually enjoy discussing serious issues, others not so much. Just as in real life though, there are idjits who are so full of themselves that they don't even realize they're idjits. I try hard to avoid them in real life, and try equally hard to ignore them in cyberlife.

People come and go and sometimes come back again. I've managed to stay in touch with some I really enjoyed, and lost touch with others - some deliberately. They may be great people to others, but if I find my reaction to start becoming dread when I see their caller ID, I figure there's a reason for that and maybe I should pay attention to it.

For MD, I've actually come to love some of the people on here like family, and whether we agree on everything or not, I respect their views even if I don't share them. I'll continue to take the good on here, and there's plenty of it, and use the bad to remind myself of just how good the good really is...and as for education, I've learned quite a bit on here, but I never assume what I'm reading is correct without verifying the facts...anything else would be
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