| Feb 1, 2006 @ 6:19 PM |
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SunBabe
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So many times we hear of people limiting their partner-search options to a narrow age range -- they think they'd have nothing in common with someone 10 or more years older or younger.
It hit me today, when I was browsing through this thread, that here's proof that "commonalities", memories, background, etc is NOT always limited to a narrow age-range:
http://www.matchdoctor.com/forums-6-2387-1.aspx
(I believe life-stage, shared values and attitudes are far more important in 'clicking' than mere a-g-e)
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| Feb 1, 2006 @ 6:23 PM |
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spongebob777
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I have a new female friend who is 20 years younger than me. There isn't much chance of romance there but it doesn't have much to do with age. The real problem is the fact that we're too much alike and would irritate the hell out of each other.
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| Feb 1, 2006 @ 6:26 PM |
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SunBabe
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hahaha, I've got a number of great friends like that. 
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| Feb 1, 2006 @ 6:31 PM |
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kattsmeow
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The stage of life. I really agree with this one. 
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| Feb 1, 2006 @ 6:39 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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I sent a 'remember when' joke to a few friends and family members and was surprised when everyone picked up on it and started responding (reply all, no less, and most didn't even know each other!) with their own memories. There were only five people on the 'to' list, but I was getting emails from them all day today.
And the age range was about 20 years...
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| Feb 2, 2006 @ 9:53 PM |
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stgrizzvi
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I certainly have nothing against younger women, but I would feel like a child molester with some one in their twenties or thirties or even their early forties. My last relationship was with a woman fifteen years younger than I and it lasted for over twenty years. lol
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| Feb 2, 2006 @ 9:59 PM |
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spongebob777
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My last relationship was with a woman fifteen years younger than I and it lasted for over twenty years. lol
My stepmother is more than tweny years younger than my dad and they've been married more than twenty years now.
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 5:32 AM |
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beatriceistheone
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age ranges don't matter as much when you are older, say 35 plus. If you are younger they are (18 yr old dating someone who has been a legal adult for 10 yrs). You do change for the better as you get older so me dating anyone less than say 37 is out of the question. I find you can still have fun when you are older and not need some younger person to get that.
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 7:06 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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I don`t think theres anything at all wrong with it...some younger fellas have more maturity in their little finger then a lot of guys my age do 
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 7:29 AM |
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sciurusniger
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Exactly, Tink.
Age is most often just a state of mind. Some live in the state of denial, some live in a state of others' expections.
Some, however, live in a state of freedom. They are individuals and not afraid to simply be. They do not see age as a barrier, instead they seek the "commonalities" (thanks, Sunny) and base their judgements of others on more than just the number on a birth certificate.
There are old curmudgeons, stuck in fears and ruts, in young bodies. As they grow older, they often do not blossom into true maturity, instead remaining in the childish stage of dividing the world into camps so that they may feel secure with themselves. They never find the courage to take the next step - that of pushing off against the box they created to understand their place within the group. Then there are the ageless spirits, living gracefully in bodies which they've taken all the way around the block. Sometimes more than once. And yet, sometimes not. Regardless their chronological age, they have learned to paint their world with all the colors of the rainbow and to embrace goodness when it crosses their path.
When two of the latter come together, the very heavens rejoice and it is that of which fairy tales of "happily ever after" are conceived.
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 8:50 AM |
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ServantOfChrist2
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Good post Sciurusniger.
Thanks for sharing that "bit of wisdom". (Truly.)
God bless you. :-)
(I hope that's what's waiting for me.*smile*)
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 8:53 AM |
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2Biatchy4U
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Very well put Sci 
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 11:27 AM |
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Kyrie_Ally
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have to wonder this...with society being what it is, half of all first time marriages ending in divorce within the first five years, is no wonder we search for common ground rather than searching for "love" maybe it is easier to have a buddy than a partner?
takes more than common ground to make any relationship work these days, trust, compatability and communication are also needed.
what ever happened to "opposites" attrack, after all "mirror" images are hard to deal with!! 
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 11:46 AM |
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wandaful123
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Age is most often just a state of mind. Some live in the state of denial, some live in a state of others' expections.
In a perfect world, where everyone has taking something positive from their life experiences this is true. I am not saying I don't believe this could happen, I just say it is rare. Age is a culmination of our life experiences how we have reacted to them and what we learned. At 41 yrs old I have yet to meet a twenty something I would feel comfortable sharing my life with. It took me alot of living and learning to become who I am today, to use the knowledge I've gained over the years and begin to apply it to today. The same things that excited me when I was twenty no longer seem so appealing. Again I am not saying it is impossible to meet someone 20 yrs younger, at my age, on the same path with the same "wisdom", but I do believe it is highly unlikely.
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 11:47 AM |
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chinabull2000
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I guess I'm a little bit "ageist", but only so far as I need a woman with life-experience, therefore I don't feel I'd ever be compatible with somone a lot younger than myself. saying that, as long as the woman has the right attitudes and character, plus open-mindedness and at least a good dose of common-sense, then I don't really care how old she is.
PS Nice new pics Sunny 
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 12:28 PM |
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kattsmeow
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I decided, if they are my son's age,,no way. There is a limit.
Yes, Chinabull, they are nice pics of her huh? 
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 12:45 PM |
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painter007
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There really is alot of focus regarding age and dating...I have found men, young and older to be stuck in the " I have been hurt" catagory...I only want this or that....and so on. What I try to look for is someone who is willing to share parts of his heart, wanting to talk about himself, willing to listen to mine...enjoys a variety of activities..and is limited in the baggage he is burdeoned with. When thses are shared on a sameness level I feel it is a good place to begin a friendship that has possibilities to grow.. And it is not based on age.
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 1:01 PM |
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notsoplain
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[QUOTE]When thses are shared on a sameness level I feel it is a good place to begin a friendship that has possibilities to grow.. And it is not based on age.
Well said painter!
PS. do you do ceilings?
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 5:11 PM |
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Timmeh3000
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Sciurusniger:
That was the single most beautiful thing I've read on these forums.
/now off to check out your profile
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 5:23 PM |
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SunBabe
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Then there are the ageless spirits, living gracefully in bodies which they've taken all the way around the block. Sometimes more than once. And yet, sometimes not. Regardless their chronological age, they have learned to paint their world with all the colors of the rainbow and to embrace goodness when it crosses their path.
When two of the latter come together, the very heavens rejoice and it is that of which fairy tales of "happily ever after" are conceived.
I have chills! That is EXACTLY what G~ and I found despite the 11 year age difference. ~sniff~  
I also know I've felt the same kind of spititual 'connection' in several younger AND older men...~grin~ alas, China, you weren't the only one 
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