| Feb 6, 2006 @ 1:05 PM |
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lecriveuse
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http://www.emedicine.com/EMERG/topic34.htm
http://www.fathersforlife.org/health/anorexia8.htm
http://www.anred.com/stats.html (stats by anorexia nervosa and related eating disorders, inc).
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| Feb 6, 2006 @ 1:09 PM |
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2Biatchy4U
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Interesting readin. My daughter has a friend who I believe has an eatin disorder. My daughter says while shes at school she doesnt eat. While she is here I hardley ever see her eat but when I do she usually ends up in the bathroom throwin up. When I ask her if shes ok she just tells me she wasnt feelin good and that sometimes food just doesnt agree with her. So for awhile I just sat back and watched to see if I was bein a lil paranoid. When my daughter told me she also takes laxatives I really got concerned so I spoke with her mother. Bad idea her mother told me that her daughter had a weight problem and that she had been givin her laxatives and diet pills for 3 years (shes 14, 5'4" and weighs 107 lbs) she has NEVER even been a chubby kid. Her mother is a NURSE  I've talked to the girl b4 she really thinks shes fat.. like FAT. Her mother has put this in that girls head How sad is that? I talked to the girls grandfather which I know from church (he's the preacher) and he has since got the girl some help.. emotionally. He says he doesnt know what to do with his daughter, the girls mother. Why cant ppl just be happy with who they are. And if they are not happy with who they are WHY THE HELL do they do this to thier children?!
[Edited cuz my first post I thought the last link didnt work ( My stupidity ) Again after I was done I had more to say but didnt wanna repeat post cuz MD has mailed me and gave me a "warning" 
[Edited on 2/6/2006 1:22 PM]
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| Feb 6, 2006 @ 1:28 PM |
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wvbluebaby
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and people wonder why the usa is so hung up on body images... to do that to a child is the same as child abuse...dang when will parents learn to love their kids as individuals and not who they want them to be???????????
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| Feb 6, 2006 @ 1:34 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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 I just seen on the news not too long ago about a little girl no more then 5 or 6 who was anorexic..
and then theres the set of twins (older ladies who have the same problem..they look like skeletons..
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| Feb 6, 2006 @ 2:03 PM |
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lecriveuse
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biatchy, please behave cos i'd still like to be reading ur posts. and mom the nurse should be beaten with a thorny stethescope. and where are the fathers during all of this tomfoolery?
i couldn't find out how soon someone died with anorexia. it seems the body will succumb faster from starvation, but that's a totally educated guess on my part. of course, anyone will die if severely emaciated or obese; i wouldn't want to die either way in that fashion. i'm pleased to say we black women like our hips just the way they is. ty ty. i am too pretty and smart and love myself way too much to starve myself. 
seriously, it will take a complete rethinking by some people who think there's nothing wrong with their jaded way of seeing the world. i just wish, wish, WISH women would quit putting themselves out there (emotionally and physically) about their supposed shortcomings.
i've known thin, blonde, considered pretty women who felt they had to buy affection by treating their boyfriends and his homies out. ur self-esteem has nothing to do with ur shoe, dress or pants size. it has to do with how u feel about YOU. if some guy doesn't want u because of ur lips, hair or pants size, screw him. plenty of others who will love and accept the way u are; why don't u consider the same?
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| Feb 6, 2006 @ 4:52 PM |
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Irishka191924
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Sometomes ppl do that not just to be like sceletons but caz they think they should limit in pleasures and enjoys in their life... Of course they're not small girls...
But I'd rather prefer if my mother has limited me in eating in my childhood, caz she was thinking that if I overeat it's better for my health... Now i have a problem with that ... And 2 years ago I was with anorexia... And what i should to say - there was the best feelings in the life!
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| Feb 6, 2006 @ 5:46 PM |
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SunBabe
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ur self-esteem has nothing to do with ur shoe, dress or pants size. it has to do with how u feel about YOU
After two bouts of fairly severe weight loss in the past 6 or so years (from the "nervosa" part, NOT "body image" by ANY means!! Emaciated was creepy!), I've become even more aware of the issue.
But I also want to point out that not EVERY skinny kid has an eating disorder...I was one of those that grownups said had a "hollow leg" at the dinner table -- same with my ex-husband. (We were both very active as kids and grew up in households with three "portion controlled" meals, no snacks -- lots of households lived that way back then)
Anyway, by today's standards, our parents would probably have been reported as "abusers" if someone only went by our body size. So it's really IMPORTANT to observe and take in a complete picture before assuming the worst. Unfortunately, "the worst" (eating disorders) is probably more common in this day and age ~sigh~
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| Feb 6, 2006 @ 7:07 PM |
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suzieq0808
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Being called skinny is as hurtful as being called fat. My 19-year-old daughter's always been tiny. It's been a challenge for me to get her to eat since birth. She just doesn't have much of an appetite. But she's always been healthy. She went through a bout of depression over the last couple of years and lost interest in eating all together. She knew she was skinny and cried when her 'boyfriend' laughed at her "anorexia." I told him to dump him -- she did. That was cruel and insensitive of him. She agreed to go to the Dr. and was prescribed medication for depression. She's got an appetite now and is gaining a bit of weight. I continually tell her don't worry about her weight -- just be healthy and happy. I've not fought with her about eating, only encouraged and presented healthy and appetizing choices. Well-meaning family members are a different story.... Grrrr!
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| Feb 7, 2006 @ 2:58 AM |
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lecriveuse
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i dont espouse beating up on anyone for any reason -- especially mental illness or other conditions beyond their control. i simply wanted to show there are opposites sides of the coin regarding eating disorders. and this one seems a little scarier cos, as i stated earlier, the body can only go so long feeding on itself for sustenance.
i'm very fortunate to be reasonably balanced and on fairly good terms with my conscience. 
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| Feb 7, 2006 @ 3:47 AM |
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SunBabe
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Thank you for posting this, Lecri~ It's a side of the coin too few people consider -- and yes, potentially very deadly or with lifetime after-effects, especially among the young.
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| Feb 7, 2006 @ 11:34 AM |
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t_h_e_b_r_a_t
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"and mom the nurse should be beaten with a thorny stethescope."
can I help?
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| Feb 7, 2006 @ 11:40 AM |
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t_h_e_b_r_a_t
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Susie, my daughter sounds exactly like yours, except that she is only 12, so forget any kind of boyfriend issues for a few years.
They tease her at school for everything, and have called her anorexic along with the rest (I have seen kids in her school that are so ridiculously obese, of course she looks like a stick next to them.) I just tell her that her brother is right, (he is almost 25 an her idol) she is gorgeous, and those kids are just scraping for something to pick on her for, because they can't find anything legitimate. And a lot of those stick chicks, as I affectionately call my daughter (and myself so she knows it isn't a dig or anything like that), do grow into the lean long legged model types in the end.
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| Feb 7, 2006 @ 12:16 PM |
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PerhapsLove
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Who was on more magazine covers ?
Karen Carpenter or Kate Smith ?
Twiggy or Kathy Bates ?
Sandra Day O'Connor or Janet Reno ?
Edited to add a ?
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| Feb 7, 2006 @ 1:10 PM |
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lecriveuse
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Who was on more magazine covers ?
really. everyone i know likes their honeys with substance; i think i've only read on here or heard on tv about guys who liked thin.
last night i was watching a discovery health show and moebius syndrome aka stone face. Two important nerves - the sixth and seventh cranial nerves - are not fully developed, causing eye muscle and facial paralysis (http://www.ciaccess.com/moebius/main.htm#how_occur).
the program showed two kids: a 13 year old boy, sean and a 16 year old girl, chelsey. chelsey's mom wanted the $70k surgery for her daughter, so chelsey could smile like her friends and let boys know she liked them. sean lived in the country, and he said he let people know how he felt with his words and body language. i was so impressed with him.
my point is i wish more females had healthier attitudes about themselves like sean and, on the opposite side of the gene pool, the sort of guys that make our skin crawl, but the former think they're still all that. it reminds me of the commercial special K used to have. it was black n white with guys sitting around, hoping they didn't have their mother's hips, etc. loved it and the message. 
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| Feb 7, 2006 @ 6:17 PM |
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suzieq0808
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my point is i wish more females had healthier attitudes about themselves
Yes!!!! In all our shapes and sizes!!! My favorite husband liked me any which way. He had two sayings. 1. Nice cushion for the pushin'. 2. The closer to the bone, the sweeter the meat. In other words, he liked ME.
I recently attended a shower for my friend's soon-to-arrive baby girl. With her gift, I enclosed a card that said something like, "I wish Mommy hadn't put me in this outfit, I think it makes my butt look fat." We all roared because that attitude is much too familiar. Inside I wrote, "May your daughter experience all the blessings of being female and none of the curses."
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| Feb 8, 2006 @ 1:01 AM |
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lecriveuse
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"and mom the nurse should be beaten with a thorny stethescope."
can I help?
if u bring the alcohol and salt for the wounds. 
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| Feb 8, 2006 @ 1:30 AM |
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the_real_me_ok
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I'd like to add something here.....eating disorders not only effect women but also men...my best friend is a man and he suffers from buhlemia...he eats and eats then forces himself to vomit. Has been doing it for years (he is 45 yrs old now)...and is now to the point where even if he wants to keep food down, he sometimes cannot, his body won't allow him to. There has become this reaction in his stomach to automatically reject food when he eats. It's very very sad. He's been doing it since about age 16 he says.
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| Feb 8, 2006 @ 1:40 AM |
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SunBabe
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his body won't allow him to
Yes, PHYSICAL effects, not just "mental" ones. Very real (and suuuuch a waste of a good meal  )
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| Feb 8, 2006 @ 1:44 AM |
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lecriveuse
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many more women are negatively affected by eating disorders. overall, men have healthier attitudes about themselves and aren't as judgmental and critical about their looks as women. it's way past time women decide to respect and love themselves as human beings and stop obsessing if they don't look like some fictionalized ideal.
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| Feb 8, 2006 @ 2:36 AM |
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SunBabe
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Yep, I'll just never EVER look like Hallie Berry ~sigh~ 
(and to me, half her appeal is in "the look" in her eyes  )
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