| Mar 13, 2006 @ 2:39 PM |
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RareQuestor
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I would normally post this in the sex forums, but since it concerns the transformation of society, I figured that it deserves a wider audience.
I think that most of us can agree that our society places far too much emphasis on sex today. Whether it be in advertising, on television or in the movies or in fashion, we are constantly bombarded with sexual innuendo.
My question is: How can we reverse this? How can we put the genie back in the bottle, so to speak, now that so many of us have become accustomed to it? Are there any practical solutions apart from censorship?
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| Mar 13, 2006 @ 3:16 PM |
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sjpinatl
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I don't know, but I wanted to bring up the XXX emails that have things in them that would have really scared me at 9 or 12 years old. I would have been a different person had I seen such things. And girls get the message that they have to have diet/weight fixes, and men need to be biggger and harder all the time...This has got to distort/shape young minds.
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| Mar 13, 2006 @ 3:21 PM |
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nightrider3281
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i feel that the only way to do that anymore is to make where there is no money to be made, but that is an impossibilty just have to live with it i guess.
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| Mar 13, 2006 @ 3:28 PM |
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MotownManiax
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Unfortunately, once out, the genie stays out.
 What will happen is what happens in every society. Things will get so bad the pendulum will swing to the other extreme.
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| Mar 13, 2006 @ 3:45 PM |
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nah12
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Unfortunately, once out, the genie stays out.
very very true....it applies to most things in life....once you cross that line it's almost impossible to return
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| Mar 13, 2006 @ 4:43 PM |
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SylvanDreams
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Some groups are doing their best to put the genie back. There are many young people who vow not to have sex before marriage, and wear a ring as a symbol of that vow.
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| Mar 13, 2006 @ 4:59 PM |
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MotownManiax
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It's the same as when a country kid goes to the big city for the first time and "see's the elephant"; he/she will never be the same.
But that doesn't automatically mean a life of outrageous sin, either. 
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| Mar 13, 2006 @ 5:06 PM |
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SylvanDreams
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Unfortunately, several of my daughter's friends 'saw the elephant'  and it has led to encounter after encounter. They seem (to me, as I know something of their home situations) to be looking for love they are not getting at home, but finding the wrong kind of "love."
Once they start, though, they don't seem to want to, or be able to, stop. And they are only 14-16 years old.
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| Mar 13, 2006 @ 5:54 PM |
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Jankia
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Is this something that we really could reverse?
What is allready here will never be possible to censor.
Education in schools, on the home front and in churches to those that attend them must center more on morality.
Yes there is to much emphasis on sex today,but also alot more emphasis on the dangers involved with it.
Morality needs to be taught as often in society as sexual innuendo is displayed.
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| Mar 13, 2006 @ 5:58 PM |
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sjpinatl
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Unfortunately, several of my daughter's friends 'saw the elephant' and it has led to encounter after encounter. They seem (to me, as I know something of their home situations) to be looking for love they are not getting at home, but finding the wrong kind of "love."
Once they start, though, they don't seem to want to, or be able to, stop. And they are only 14-16 years old.
These are the ones that will be "Babies having babies". Looking for love in the wrong places...
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| Mar 13, 2006 @ 5:59 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Once they start, though, they don't seem to want to, or be able to, stop. And they are only 14-16 years old.
I would strongly suspect that to relate to self-esteem. Once they feel that they're 'damaged goods', as they often seem to be considered, they look to sex to provide acceptance that doesn't seem available anywhere else. Somehow teaching morality as such doesn't seem to be the whole answer, it has to also include giving the feeling of being 'okay' and not something less than acceptable.
I think the sexual precociousness encouraged by commercials and even by a lot of parents, is downright, for lack of a better word, criminal. These poor kids are being dumped into something they're nowhere near ready for, and if they fall into the trap, it's game over, they're locked in a box they don't know how to escape from.
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| Mar 13, 2006 @ 6:44 PM |
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altogirl67
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Sex is the most basic human drive. If you think about it, sex is the motivation for so many, many things. People keep their mates happy, not just because they care about them but because of the pay-off. People want more money, bigger house, more toys not just entertain themselves but to impress other people... especially potential partners. We worry about how we look because of how it affects our appeal to others when our primary goal should be good health. And how many times does a guy (and some girls) think about sex every day? Advertising and everything else has tapped into that urge and they will never let it go. It works. And while I don't necessarily agree with the strong sexual message imbedded in absolutely everything these days, I think it's only going to gain in emphasis... not lose.
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| Mar 13, 2006 @ 7:02 PM |
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swingpup
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With the Conservatives running the country and their right wing agenda's, the pendulum has swung about as far right as it will. If we look and study European countries all of which are much older then the US, we see what open sexuality has done. Within these countries teen pregnancies, violate crimes even divorce rates are lower then what we experience here in the US.
Sexuality is one of personal choice. As adults each of us have a choice...to indulge or not to indulge. An example, if one observes something on TV they morally disapprove of simply turn the channel. Just because one does find it offensive certainly doesn't mean the majority is disapproving. The same applies for rap lyric's, do I listen to it? Hell no, but should others have the right....I believe so.
The "genie" may desire to work on Welfare reform, Heath care issues including affordable medical insurance, unemployment as well as under employment. Keep the genie out of the bottle, at this point we need all the help the nation can receive. 
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| Mar 13, 2006 @ 8:23 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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As adults each of us have a choice...
And as an adult, I couldn't agree more. What bothers me though, is the sexualization of very young children. I cringe everytime I look at pictures of JonBenet Ramsey. Even without what happened to her, the idea of her parents taking a six year old and turning her into a sex object turns my stomach. The last thing I want to see is censorship, but I have a real horror of seeing children exploited in this way.
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| Mar 13, 2006 @ 9:17 PM |
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sirdidymus
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<< genie back in bottle >> = << increased spirituality >>
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| Mar 13, 2006 @ 9:40 PM |
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Angel54214
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Society's loop holes of sexuality has become an open door for sure. So many latch key kids with parent having to work and they left alone in the home to supervise themselves. Pre-teen girls allowed to wear tight jeans and tube tops to school with gobs of makeup and purple hair. Dating age, is there one now? I couldn't date until I was 16 and had a strick curfue.
What goes on behind close doors in some homes, tisk, tisk! X rated movies left out in the open, sex magazines and newspapers, alcoholic beverages etc. Kids using the "F" word by the time they can talk...my goodness, if I said a dirty word, I got my mouth washed with soap and sent to my room.
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| Mar 14, 2006 @ 12:44 AM |
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nah12
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this will not be popular but my thought is this:
it's not the kids, it's the parents.....99.9% of the time
children model what that see and are taught by actions..so who are they watching?
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| Mar 14, 2006 @ 1:11 AM |
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sirdidymus
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why blame the parents - how do you know the parents aren't watching the dogs "doing it" in the backyard - shameless things those dogs are - don't walk around them wearing shorts when they're "in the mood" - bad idea...
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| Mar 14, 2006 @ 1:25 AM |
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peaches_n_cream2002
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The reason everything is sexualized in America is because we make it taboo.
In countries where nudity is accepted for what it is, in the context of what it is (art, biology, sexual) there is much less of a problem. The age for first intercourse is higher, teen pregnancy rate is lower, as is abortion.
Here in the states, we make it taboo, and make it wrong to talk about sex or bodyparts and our sex education program sucks. Yet, in the industrialized world we are 3rd I believe in teen pregnancy rate and abortion. So apparently us being hush hush about sex is not working.
There's this idea that if you talk about sex it will make people do it. That's bogus and it severely damages our ideas about sex.
You would NOT believe some of the things girls I know believe about sex. I recently had a conversation with 3 of my female friends about sex. They're all my age and virgins. The things they believed about sex and how their bodies were.... horrifying.
We can reverse it, but it takes education to do so. It takes us being able to say the words penis and vagina without getting flushed and embarrassed and feeling like we said a dirty word.
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| Mar 14, 2006 @ 1:45 AM |
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sissycat411
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Openness and parental guidance.......how an where we learn our ideals, values and morals, as growing up......the examples sat in front of us...in our homes, with our families......no teaching its taboo...but understanding how unique each of us is.....and the responsibility of our choices........way too many people blame others......for their own decisions......
personal accountability...and knowledge to make good choices... the only way to change the trend.........If your going to do it....be ready to pay the prices.....it was your choice...
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